mello84 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Long story short... My girlfriend and I broke up after 6 months (she broke up with me) We went on vacation together in may and i purchased i round trip ticket for both of us. We had a lot of issues with this particular airline there and back. They eneded up over booking our return flight last minute. I tried to avoid telling my gf and handle it myself so she wouldn't freak out. I was unable to transfer the funds so i tried other avenues and didn't work. So I paniced and used her card. Obviously not the best move but wasn't thinking straight. I just wanted to make sure we got home. I instantly knew what i had done wrong and couldn't believe i would do such a thing so i did lie and continued for about a week because I was scared of the consequences. She found out that i had done it and obviously broke up with me and was angry. We eventually began talking again and even hung out a couple of times after. (Paid her back as well) Just last week she said she missed and loved me and we were playing to hang out again. She said she didn't want me out of her life and wanted to keep everything i had given throughout our relationship because it was special to her. we stopped talking as she became angry with any talk of relationship but when we would talk it would be good conversation. Just the other day we joked and laughed. I reached out to her today to ask her about helping get her car to the shop. Something she had previously spoken to me about just a week ago. This led to her saying she didn't need or want my help but thanks. from there she stated that she thought we could be friends but she was wrong and said she was still hurt. From there she said that it would be too hard to see me but would say hi. She said she wasn't seeing anyone and said that she hopes the next girl i date I learned my lesson.* All these emotions have me confused and I really deep down feel she has feelings but wants to move on and didn't mean the things she said. But I am in agreement of moving on at this point. What are your thoughts?
imfine Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I think she's still dealing with acceptance. By lying & stealing from her, you caused a happy relationship to end abruptly. You put her in the position where she had to end it. Doesn't sound like things had been going downhill & either of you had time to prepare for the relationship to end. She's probably second guessing herself, then she's sure about ending it, then she's not sure, etc. You put her in a the terrible position of still loving you and being hurt/angry all at once. Her emotions are all over the place because you betrayed her. This is where most men start justifying their actions by saying she's crazy. Don't be that guy. Respect her wishes & understand that you caused this.
Author mello84 Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 Thank You for the response. Im definitely not trying to justify what I did. It has affected me greatly. I just hope its emotions and she really doesnt hate me and if anything we can someday start over as friends if anything because I was always there for her as she was for me. Im well aware of my choice.
imfine Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) I apologize if I came across as overbearing. I seriously doubt she hates you. Otherwise, her emotions would be pretty cold & consistent. I wouldn't hold your breath as far as friendship, but you never know. Good luck in your journey. Edited June 26, 2014 by imfine
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