Carlos1994 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 me and this girl have been talking for about a month and seen each other 3 times but we pretty much text everyday flirting. Yesterday i had to ask her something that i was told by her mate about her flirting with everyone and getting close to other people and that she was talking to her ex and she felt uncomfortable talking to me because of my mate but to her it came across as me being to forward and making her think that i was at a different stage to her but that wasnt the case at all Text 1: this is how i feel... i feel that you maybe are in a different place to where i am in that i am dying to get to know you better as a mate and everything and i know you are too but i feel that you think we are further on in being seeing each other which i dont feel we are as i dont know you well enough... not that i dont want to:) ive said before i dont want to rush but id think we'd both be happier if we stop getting to deep before we've really had the chance to start.. (by the way i have never been deep, her mate put that into her head, the deepest question i have asked is do you have feelings for me) text 2: yeah id like to get to know you and speak to you and see if things do go further but not force them text 3:at least now we both know where we stand.. im not saying it wont but if it doesnt in the long term we can still be mates text 4:i do have feelings for you but its more friendly ones right now, not going to lie the situation last night pushed me away abit but i know its okay now:)
firmness Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Here is how I would respond, but in person. "I got your texts. Thanks for saying those things. I am not sure why you think that way, but I get it. You are beautiful, cool, fun and sexy as hell. Of course I am into you. Why wouldn't I be? But I have to tell you, I am in no hurry to go anywhere too quickly. In fact I need to go very slow. I value my freedom more than anything and I will never ever give that up for you or anyone else. So if you think I like you, you are right. I really do like you. But don't read that for infatuation. Also, let's make a deal. Texts are never a good way to express feelings. Texting sucks for stuff like that. So do not expect me to respond to feelings via text. That is for face to face. Texts are for updates and "how are you doing" but let's not talk about important things through text. That is just asking for trouble. Let's keep things relaxed and easy. I have plans for the weekend and want to have fun and be relaxed knowing that you and I are okay just the way things are now. Relaxed and easy. Neither one of us needs a needy clingy partner. Right? Cool. So did you eat lunch yet? Let's get out of here and get something to eat. I am starving!" 1
Assasda Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 You seem super needy OP. Leave the girl alone and movie on
Author Carlos1994 Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 Here is how I would respond, but in person. "I got your texts. Thanks for saying those things. I am not sure why you think that way, but I get it. You are beautiful, cool, fun and sexy as hell. Of course I am into you. Why wouldn't I be? But I have to tell you, I am in no hurry to go anywhere too quickly. In fact I need to go very slow. I value my freedom more than anything and I will never ever give that up for you or anyone else. So if you think I like you, you are right. I really do like you. But don't read that for infatuation. Also, let's make a deal. Texts are never a good way to express feelings. Texting sucks for stuff like that. So do not expect me to respond to feelings via text. That is for face to face. Texts are for updates and "how are you doing" but let's not talk about important things through text. That is just asking for trouble. Let's keep things relaxed and easy. I have plans for the weekend and want to have fun and be relaxed knowing that you and I are okay just the way things are now. Relaxed and easy. Neither one of us needs a needy clingy partner. Right? Cool. So did you eat lunch yet? Let's get out of here and get something to eat. I am starving!" i have explained to her that i dont want anything to go to quickly and she says she understands and its fine etc but im not needy or like that at all but i can understand due to the mistake of me saying it over text she could mis interpret it wrong into thinking i am.. do you think she actually want to take it slow and see what happens? she still texts me things such as i wish i could remeber us kissing at that party so to me that seems like she is but girls are weird sometimes haah
Dallers Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 A month gone by and you are still in the text flirty stage. The word friend popped up in the those texts above that is like Mario walking into one of those spikey things and then the Game Over notification comes up. It is quite simple really there is just FAR too much over thinking going on here. Things have to progress with a girl otherwise they become a routine and it eventually fizzles out. To keep this going for a month without moving onto something more real in terms of being together says to me it is not going to progress to much. Maybe people have more time to lose these days, personally life is too short. You are hanging over the friend-zone. Abort Mission. 1
Author Carlos1994 Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 i would agree but the past month i have been talking to her she has had her exams so she has been extremely busy revising so i gave her space to be able to concentrate on that!.. Also from my experience when your in the friendzone girls don't normally tell you that they want to kiss you etc..but thats from my experience Shes already told me she doesnt want to rush things because she has before and it hasnt worked out and that she doesnt want to get close to me quickly for it to mess up like previously, which makes sense when she said she wants to take things slow. also i feel that people are assuming that i have sent her them texts! when indeed i received them from her!!!!
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