Frank2thepoint Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Thing is - HE wants to wait! We just had our second date and did a lot of kissing in the car afterwards. Yet on our first date he asked me to go home with him and I said no. In making plans to get together last night, he suggested I come over and watch a movie, and I refused because I told him "I knew what his plans where haha." Then, I guess, at some point last night all that went out the window because the kissing got so hot. I didn't suggest going to his place, but neither did he. And he didn't exactly try to peel my clothes off either. Is this the same guy from your other thread, mister business-owner man? If it is, wow waiting4u, you are an intense woman. So WHY would a guy want to wait? ... Is he GAY? WTF am I reading? How do you question a man's sexuality in such a situation? My take on why a man wants to wait, is because he respects and cares about the woman. He wants both him and the woman to be ready for it. And this does not mean he is gay. I am soooo going to post this next month. See what happens I'm sure I'll get lots of criticism for this one. But I'll just be frank. I. Haven't. Had. Sex. In. Over. A. YEAR. And during that time I've been out on dates with a lot of women with whom I've had zero chemistry. I've finally met someone with whom it's just electric, and I don't want to wait. I want to just dive in. When it feels right it feels right. Now the rest of this is going to sound playerly I know. Thing is - SHE wants to wait! We just had our second date and did a lot of kissing in the car afterwards. Yet on our first date she asked me to go home with her and I said no. In making plans to get together last night, she suggested I come over and watch a movie, and I refused because I told her "I knew what her plans where haha." Then, I guess, at some point last night all that went out the window because the kissing got so hot. I didn't suggest going to her place, but neither did she. And she didn't exactly try to peel my clothes off either. I didn't proposition her, so my pride is intact to some extent, but t went home a little offended that she didn't come on stronger. I actually thought maybe she didn't think I was sexy or whatever (although she kept saying I was - but maybe she was just being polite). I also thought maybe since I haven't done it in so long I have just forgotten how to make out properly or something. When I went to bed last night I figured I had somehow screwed the whole thing up and she just wasn't that into me. I woke up to a sweet text this morning and then she blew up my phone texting all morning. Apparently I must not have screwed it up that bad. We've spent a lot of time talking over the past couple weeks and I really think she wants something serious. I'm not sure she's girlfriend material - although I know I want to have sex with her (yes, I sound like a complete horndog - not sure what's wrong with me here). So WHY would a girl want to wait? Because we were drinking and she thought I'd had too much? Because she has religious hang-ups? (her father's a minister) Because she really likes me? Is she a LESBIAN? Thoughts from women would be appreciated here. And for the record, I've always been all about waiting to have sex, but a guy has NEEDS. We will see next month when you forgot all about this . 2
Author waiting4u Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 Is this the same guy from your other thread, mister business-owner man? If it is, wow waiting4u, you are an intense woman. This made me laugh so hard because it's true. When I'm not around this man, I can totally abide by what is proper, etc. but the chemistry is crazy hot and I may have been a teensy bit tipsy last night. But yeah, I'm a bit hot and cold. I imagine most of the men I date are really really confused. 1
firmness Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Funny seeing this post. I had a similar thing happen with my current GF. We met online (OKC) and the sparks were insane from the second we talked on the phone. The first date was textbook perfect. At the end of the night I grabbed her by the hair and kissed her deeply late at night on a NYC street. I am a caveman like that. She apparently loved it because she texted me relentlessly after that. A week later, second date was amazing. We kissed and talked and at the end of the night she asks me back to her place and I said "Not tonight". If I did not like her, I would have gone and enjoyed the booty call. But I sort of fell in love with her in that short time. Not "LOVE" just "love" - just two dates and a few long late night phone calls. At some level, you can just sense these things - right? When I said no, she had this sort of puzzled look on her face. Here is what I told her. "However long I may know you and no matter where this goes, you will hopefully always remember this moment right here. The night when I was at my most fired up and hot and insane - and I walked away. I am the type of man who can say no, even when his body very very badly wants to say yes. Whether it is you or another woman. This is the type of man you are getting involved with. If you need to get laid, find someone else. We can both do that if we need or want to. But I really like you and we can have sex for the rest of eternity, but I need to prove to you and remind myself that I can be faithful when it is the absolutely most difficult thing to do - and trust me, this is difficult..." She got it somehow. I took her seriously and didn't want to screw that up. Women send us all sorts of mixed signals. Re read your own post! It is up to each of us to put our values on the table and be confident about that. Imagine if I went with her that night. She would have judged me later on even if it was she who extended the invitation. Women can be like that, whether you want to admit it or not. We have been dating for almost 5 months now and it is unbelievably good. More powerful than anything I have ever experienced. There is real honesty and intimacy and it all started because I said "Not tonight" Just some food for thought... 1
somedude81 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 This ^^^. I don't know where all the explanations in this thread are coming from and I have no clue why you are worried. He asked you home twice. Even though I am one...girls are weird. All the explanations are coming from people who only read the thread title. You're one of the few who actually read what waiting4u wrote in her opening post
Author waiting4u Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 Update: Apparently the issue was mixed signals. The advice I got here was spot on. He was trying to be a polite and not step over the boundaries I set. All is good. Ladies and Gentlemen - after exactly 16 months of no lovin, I finally got LAID last night :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: Ah happiness. And he's still blowing up my phone, so apparently sex on the 3rd date is not a total deal breaker. Things seem to be clicking.
soccerrprp Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Update: Apparently the issue was mixed signals. The advice I got here was spot on. He was trying to be a polite and not step over the boundaries I set. All is good. Ladies and Gentlemen - after exactly 16 months of no lovin, I finally got LAID last night :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: Ah happiness. And he's still blowing up my phone, so apparently sex on the 3rd date is not a total deal breaker. Things seem to be clicking. WHOOHOO for getting laid! Good luck! 1
GemmaUK Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Update: Apparently the issue was mixed signals. The advice I got here was spot on. He was trying to be a polite and not step over the boundaries I set. All is good. Ladies and Gentlemen - after exactly 16 months of no lovin, I finally got LAID last night :bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny::bunny: Ah happiness. And he's still blowing up my phone, so apparently sex on the 3rd date is not a total deal breaker. Things seem to be clicking. Woohoo! Good for you!!!
myothernic2 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Funny seeing this post. I had a similar thing happen with my current GF. We met online (OKC) and the sparks were insane from the second we talked on the phone. The first date was textbook perfect. At the end of the night I grabbed her by the hair and kissed her deeply late at night on a NYC street. I am a caveman like that. She apparently loved it because she texted me relentlessly after that. A week later, second date was amazing. We kissed and talked and at the end of the night she asks me back to her place and I said "Not tonight". If I did not like her, I would have gone and enjoyed the booty call. But I sort of fell in love with her in that short time. Not "LOVE" just "love" - just two dates and a few long late night phone calls. At some level, you can just sense these things - right? When I said no, she had this sort of puzzled look on her face. Here is what I told her. "However long I may know you and no matter where this goes, you will hopefully always remember this moment right here. The night when I was at my most fired up and hot and insane - and I walked away. I am the type of man who can say no, even when his body very very badly wants to say yes. Whether it is you or another woman. This is the type of man you are getting involved with. If you need to get laid, find someone else. We can both do that if we need or want to. But I really like you and we can have sex for the rest of eternity, but I need to prove to you and remind myself that I can be faithful when it is the absolutely most difficult thing to do - and trust me, this is difficult..." She got it somehow. I took her seriously and didn't want to screw that up. Women send us all sorts of mixed signals. Re read your own post! It is up to each of us to put our values on the table and be confident about that. Imagine if I went with her that night. She would have judged me later on even if it was she who extended the invitation. Women can be like that, whether you want to admit it or not. We have been dating for almost 5 months now and it is unbelievably good. More powerful than anything I have ever experienced. There is real honesty and intimacy and it all started because I said "Not tonight" Just some food for thought... Interesting. So how long did it take to happen?
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