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Hello everyone. For those who have not seen my posts, my boyfriend of two and a half years broke up with me because he told me he doesn't think he loves me anymore. I don't know if he will ever come back, he doesn't either. But for now, he told me to move on. This was the man I'd give my life for.

We broke up a little more than a week ago and today is my first day of NC. I'm feeling sick. My head hurts, i have no appetite at all, and the worst of all: a constant nausea and heart ache. It really hurts, like someone is grabbing my heart really strong. I'm feeling really anxious and all of these feelings are not helping me forget this situation.

 

Have any of you ever had these? What did you do? And how long will it take till they stop? I feel hopeless.

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Yes I've been there! I'm in week 3 of NC and the first 2 days i felt nauseous, with anxiety, loss of apetite and just a general feeling of sadness and hopelesness. I tell you, it DOES get better. You'll have your good and bad days but the feeling starts to fade. Won't lie, i still miss him and think about him daily (several times), but that strange pain is no longer there (just a little nostalgia and sadness at times), and i feel SOO much better.

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It's totally natural and understandable! You're grieving the loss of someone who was once close to you and your mind has to start adjusting to life without them. I do remember having similar problems but I just toughed it out. I knew they were temporary and they would go away with time and healing.

 

The time could vary from person to person but the longer NC goes, the better you will feel. You will slowly overcome your heartbreak. Your breakup was very fresh and you just started no-contact so it's completely expected. It also gets worse before it gets better, keep that in mind but also know that things WILL get better and with time, you'll feel happy again.

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It takes about 1 year and you should be busy in doing something.

 

Often, if those thoughts will come to your mind, you shall stop, and think about them.

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You are depressed. Eat a little something just to keep your strength up. Take one day at a time. you will get through this.

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Everything you feel is normal. There's no way around it except to just function one day at a time. It's still fresh and raw so you will be depressed for awhile but it won't always be this way.

 

Try to be around your family, or your friends and not stay alone too much. Best to get distracted and try to be busy eventhough you feel like laying in bed and crying. You're allowed but don't stay there too long.

 

Eat and drink lots of fluids. Stay hydrated. I know that's hard to do but you have to keep up your physical strength.

 

And no it doesn't take one year to get out of the way you are feeling now. It will taper off slowly and be more manageable as time goes by.

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