I finally took the steps to ensure my exes CAN'T contact me

[Ordinaryday]

well it would be REALLY REALLY HARD for them to.

 

after you get dumped even if you claim to be over them and tell others that you dont want to hear from them, deep down you do (for a lot of people). and every time you get a text message or hear your phone ring, well sometimes for a second you think "this it IT. they are contacting me to say they want me back" and then when you see it is the wrong number or your work or something, you get so down.

 

just KNOWING that they could contact you any time they want, well it feels invasive.

 

so I took some advice here and made it next to impossible for my exes to contact me EVEN IF THEY TRIED - I had my mobile number that they knew me on disconnected, I changed jobs (same city but different area), blocked them on facebook!

 

so now even IF she tried to text me a breadcrumb all she would get back would be an automated response from the provider saying the number in question has been disconnected.

 

I KNOW if she really tried hard to contact me she could find a way - I usually do my grocery shopping at the one store, and she knows which one, so if SHE REALLY WANTED TO contact me she could stake the store out for a week and eventually she would see me - but that would require huge effort on her part, she couldnt just send off a thoughtless text message asking "how are you?".

 

it feels great to know that are pretty much 100% behind me, EVEN IF she tried to contact me she wouldnt be able to.

 

has any dumpees here been brave enough to take these same steps??? made it so your dumper could not contact you even if they tried??? why or why not? how did you feel after doing it?

 

and while I would still take her back if she BEGGED and showed me why we would work a second time round, for her to do that (it would never happen but anyway) she would have to go TO A LOT OF EFFORT now to even contact me - no more thoughtless "happy birthday" texts to worry about!

[David87]

Well in my case it wasn't necessary. But changing your workplace seems a bit extreme.

[Ordinaryday]

changing your workplace seems a bit extreme.

 

I didnt actually do that one because of her, I used to work at a very public place that she went to often but I had a fallout with the boss and stormed out, because I couldnt take the terrible pay and poor working conditions any longer.

 

so I did not leave that one cos of her, but still if she were to go to this public place and try to find me she would be out of luck cos I no longer go there!

 

so it worked out in that regard

[biddybud]

I've done pretty much all these things, apart from change my email, as it's a Uni account and therefore I'm pretty much stuck with it! I do feel good about this move as I have more control over who can contact me via my phone and no longer stare at it waiting for him to get in touch, becuase he can't now... Hurrah!

 

I would like to say that I did this all because I clearly want to move on and forget about him, give myself some sort of closure.... However a part of me does still think "so if he wants me back, he will have to move mountains to broach the matter", so yeah I still do have those thoughts occasionally. Hopefully they will stop soon.

 

But congrats on making this move, it's healthy and smart

[erklat]

Also shut Facebook down and changed my number.

 

I haven't blocked her on Instagram though, but I have enough

self control not to break NC any longer.

 

It helped me a lot knowing she can't contact me, even though at

that point I felt pretty numb for quite longer.