Tooksie Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Tell me your stories please! Detailed This won't raise my hope. I just want to know how things ended for you even if you didn't want them back at the time. Reading about other people's stories makes me forget about mine for a while! :p
elseaacych Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 NC is not used to get an ex back. It is used to grieve the end of the relationship and allow yourself to move on in a healthy manner. That being said, I am NC. I did not implement it to get an ex back, I am NC because I do not want to be in a dead end relationship. He has not contacted me, and that is fine. 1
Elle1975 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Tell me your stories please! Detailed This won't raise my hope. I just want to know how things ended for you even if you didn't want them back at the time. Reading about other people's stories makes me forget about mine for a while! :p Went NC after a break up. I was 17, highschool sweetheart. Spent a good 4 months NC. He called me. Told me he loved me. We tried again. Fell face first again.
PhillyConnection23 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Echoing other comments, people go no contact to heal and move on. The idea that if you ignore your ex they will come back is selfish and is grounded in a selfish mindset that we are raised around. Does distance make the heart grown fonder? Probably. Is it the best tool to get an ex back? Probably not. I say that because if you are ignoring your ex for the sole purpose of getting back with them, it will fail in the future. Breakups happen for a reason. Dumpers aren't always awful people and dumpees aren't always blameless lovestruck fools. No contact is an opportunity to grow, learn from your mistakes, reflect on the relationship and breakup, and ultimately become a better person. Do people get back together after not speaking for a while? Yes. They get back together because they reflected, they grew, and they changed what needed to be changed. Some people aren't willing to accept their fault in the break up, some people don't want to change. Both are fine. But if the person you were with is really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you need to learn what happened and why. Not every break up leads to reconciliation, not every break up should lead to reconciliation. Only you can make that decision and only you know all the details about the relationship and the break up. I would recommend a few months of thoughtful insight and decide if this person is worth contacting in the future or worth fighting for....in the future. In the meantime, spend the time on yourself. 6
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