marcjb Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It's been 2 months since we broke up. Please see my older threads for the full story. I was going to get my haircut and the place I go to is actually right on the main st off of where the apartment is. I still figured it would be unlikely that I run into her, but I did while I was walking to the shop. She was walking home from work. I didn't want to find a different place to get my hair cut just because we broke up. She actually said hi to me and asked me what I’m in the area for. I just said I was getting my hair cut. She acted surprised and said “really, all the way out here?”. I said yes, then asked her how she was and she replied “good”. She asked me how I was and I said good as well, then she said something along the lines of “really?”. It almost seemed like she was somewhat interested in talking more, but I said yes, and it was pretty much left at that. I don't think I even remember saying bye, but I just started walking again and didn't look back. She seemed pretty happy, I didn’t want to drag anything out with her or really lead with a conversation though. I didn’t really know what to make of it though. I still don’t plan on actually making contact with her voluntarily. I guess if she were to reach out to me I would be open with talking with her, but I still don’t feel that she is going to do that. I’m not sure if she was just happy in general, or if it was that she was happy to see me.
lovebug_5858 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 It seems that you are doing good, you should be proud of yourself for not falling apart all over again. Good! Gives me hope 1
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 If she contacts you, deal with it then. Don't worry about it now. Sounds like you handled it very well. Good for you. 1
Author marcjb Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 (edited) Thank you. I think she has an inflated ego, and probably thinks I was intentionally trying to run into her. Honestly, what makes it easier is that I'm almost certain she lied to me regarding having this guy friend of hers help her with something while we were on a week long break in October. She said it was a "parent" helping her with a show she was doing, but I'm almost certain it was this guy who she met and became friends with when she went back to school in the middle of our relationship. I actually never confronted her about lying to me with this, but it is one of the reasons why I kept talking to her about my discomfort with this particular "friendship" after she said she "didn't feel the same way about me", loved me, but not "in love with me" (which lead to our break). If she ends up contacting me, I will probably bring it up and confront her, but I am not going to be the one to contact her. Edited June 25, 2014 by marcjb
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Thank you. I think she has an inflated ego, and probably thinks I was intentionally trying to run into her. Honestly, what makes it easier is that I'm almost certain she lied to me regarding having this guy friend of hers help her with something while we were on a week long break in October. She said it was a "parent" helping her with a show she was doing, but I'm almost certain it was this guy who she met and became friends with when she went back to school in the middle of our relationship. I actually never confronted her about lying to me with this, but it is one of the reasons why I kept talking to her about my discomfort with this particular "friendship" after she said she "didn't feel the same way about me", loved me, but not "in love with me" (which lead to our break). If she ends up contacting me, I will probably bring it up and confront her, but I am not going to be the one to contact her. People, including young girls, can be fickle and selfish. Have confidence that you are better than that and her.
Author marcjb Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 People, including young girls, can be fickle and selfish. Have confidence that you are better than that and her. Funny thing is that she is not actually that young. She is 34, going on 35 in 2 months. I am 31.
David87 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 She was surprised to see you and I think she thought youre stalking her
Ordinaryday Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 think she thought youre stalking her to be fair it is a reasonable assumption to make. since breaking up I have changed my route slightly, stopped going to one library and a few other things to avoid accidental or 'accidental' bump ins with the ex. just dont need that drama.
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Funny thing is that she is not actually that young. She is 34, going on 35 in 2 months. I am 31. Sorry I must have gotten your thread confused with another. Hard to keep track of all these conversations!
No Limit Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 “really, all the way out here?” That's the indicator that she was believing you've been coming for her. The rest, I guess she fished for more ego polish, but I'm afraid your part of the conversation wasn't needy and desperate enough for her. 1
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