milanlover Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) So I met this guy through a friend. Young, 20ish, kinda childish and immature. We went clubbing together but didn't talk. Then we talked on FB. We got on well. He asked out for dinner as friends but I was busy so I declined and told him we could meet next day. But he said he had to go on holiday for about 2 weeks so I agreed to meet him for a drink that day as I had good feelings for him too. We met and he was all over me. He made a few mistakes throughout the night so I was a bit put off and I told him. And he begged me for a chance to see me after he got back. We did make out and chemistry was great! He even took picture of me and sent his bestfriends and asked me to take photo together with him. And I liked him a bit too.. He was handsome, tall, rich, cute, etc. So I got back and woke up to 3 text messages saying I'm cute then he would like to ask me out etc. I kinda played it hard to get so I said we would see. And he texted a bit before he got on the plane. He seemed so excited about me. I told him too easy and early is boring to me and he told me he knew it. I started to like him bit more... and I made a mistake of stalking his fb and realized how cute he was... So I flirted back to him. It lasted for 2 days after we met. Then suddenly he stopped talking to me! He unfriended me on FB and instagram. Normally his instagram was public but he set it private cuz of me. I had absolutely no clue whats going on. I messaged him on fb to ask but he ignored. I told him he was childish for doing it and not worth my time. It was 2 weeks ago. I let it go, whatever. Then last sat i was out with a mutual friend of me and him and she grabbed my phone and sent him a text, basically saying I had a good time with him and it was stupid not to do it again. He actually replied and said I was right (not sure right about what?! that we should meet again or he's not worth my time?) and hope everything was cool. So I told him it was cool until he unfriended me for no reason. And if he meant right by hes not worth my time then never mind meeting agian, it's cool. And he told me to not add him again on fb then it'd be cool for him. Well I did add and cancel request once but i guess he still saw the notif. I asked him if I did anything wrong. He said I didn't do anything wrong. And I told him that I was just thinking I might lose a potential good friend. He read but didnt reply. Our messages spread out for days. It took him a day to reply or so. So today I sent him a message saying would u like to talk again. He said sorry for the bad wifi and sure he would like to meet up again when hes back so we could talk again. What do u think is up here?? Am I being played?!! Edited June 24, 2014 by milanlover
stillafool Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 This is what's up: He was handsome, tall, rich, cute, etc. This guy has too many options. Let him contact you if he wants to get together.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 He's seeing someone else and doesn't want her to raise questions about you when she sees you on his FB and IG. Or, he doesn't want you to know about her, so he can fall back on you when things don't work out with her. So he deleted you and even asked you not to add him again. Just my first thought. In any case, he's not seriously interested any more. Yes, I think you're being played. 2
Author milanlover Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 He's seeing someone else and doesn't want her to raise questions about you when she sees you on his FB and IG. Or, he doesn't want you to know about her, so he can fall back on you when things don't work out with her. So he deleted you and even asked you not to add him again. Just my first thought. In any case, he's not seriously interested any more. Yes, I think you're being played. I think so too! But well he just opened his instagram and we weren't really dating, we were just seeing each other as friends. Somehow one thing led to another and we made out. I just dont know whats up with the deleting on fb cuz really if he had a gf I would be happy to talk to him about that lol I'm not thinking of anything serious with him anyway so I was a bit gutted I lost a toy boy!!
RachR Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) He's seeing someone else and/or lost interest. And if you're going to play hard to get... don't turn around and then act desperate for his attention (and now he knows he has you in the bag taking whatever little attention he's doling out now). Reading how it descended into that made me cringe, to be honest. The reasons for why he's doing this or that and understanding it do not matter -- he is not interested. Maybe try to realize he's not worth getting so worked up over and find a guy who wants to date (if that's what you want). Edited June 24, 2014 by RachR 1
Miss Awesome Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I think that what's up is that texting and social media are confusing everything here. Stop "stalking" his facebook and instagram, and stop texting/messaging him. Talk to him over the phone.
Assasda Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 The guy just met hr and told her all the crap she ever wanted to hear. when that happens really quickly, it means nothing. I hope you enjoy being one of the 3 girls he's seeing. hahaha 1
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 This is no great mystery. The guy is not all that interested and doesn't want you on his FB because the girl he's REALLY seeing is on there. He does, however, want to keep you on the backburner just in case. 1
Author milanlover Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 (edited) Yea weird enough... he has opened his insta and wanted to add me on fb again! He wanted to meet up and now this.. I feel so puzzled by this boy!! And well hes on holiday with his family so i doubt that he would meet any girl during this short few days but i mean we were kinda friends and he does all this! And he asked me to meet tmr right after he got back from Paris. He told me his rationale was stupid sometimes and he said he wasn't sure if I liked him at all... What's up with this boy???! Edited June 25, 2014 by milanlover
ExpatInItaly Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Yea weird enough... he has opened his insta and wanted to add me on fb again! He wanted to meet up and now this.. I feel so puzzled by this boy!! And well hes on holiday with his family so i doubt that he would meet any girl during this short few days but i mean we were kinda friends and he does all this! And he asked me to meet tmr right after he got back from Paris. He told me his rationale was stupid sometimes and he said he wasn't sure if I liked him at all... What's up with this boy???! He's looking for sex. And it's possible he didn't meet a new girl. He could be reconnecting with someone from his past. (If that is in fact the reason he doesn't want you on social media, which we can only speculate about) Whatever the case, if you want something more than no-strings attached sex, this guy isn't it.
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