theloveihave Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I'm currently single. My ex-girlfriend (bethany) and i were together 8 months when she broke up with me. She was starting college and was going to be going away and she said she just wasn't ready for a serious relationship that I was pushing. She wanted to be more focused on school and didn't feel it was fair to me because I would be expecting more than she would be giving. Which I do understand. Though we were split up we remained in contact and would hang out when she came home Eventually I found out she was sort of seeing another guy at her school. I felt that she had lied to me and was just playing with me. I called her a few names and went my own way. Throughout the next couple of weeks she would try to talk to me but it ended up just being fights with me losing my temper. She said she wasn't dating him and she was just fooling around. I asked why fool around with other guys and lose me? she said she couldnt see herself just fooling around with me, because she sees me as relationship material troughout the next month we didnt talk much but when we did i ended up saying some pretty mean things about her. eventually i got over it and apologized but she said that she cant just forgive me and dont expect her to believe i will change, she wants to see it shes been home for the past month and we have been hanging out th epats two-three weeks its going well, i havent lost my temper but i worry i did alot of damage to her . words cant be forgotten and i worry no matter what she will hold it against me. i have apologized but is there anything i could do ---this has nothing to do with us getting back together, its more repairing her view of me...we still remain friends
carrie_o Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 If she is already hanging out with you, it sounds like she forgives you. But be aware that forgiving and forgetting are very different. There might always be an emotional wall between you two now. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Your high school romance ended when she went off to college. You are her past. I suppose you could be the summer fling but when it's time to return to school she will drop you again. 1
alexwood Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 its good you guys are hanging out. seems like she sort of forgives you
OK_computer Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I'm currently single. My ex-girlfriend (bethany) and i were together 8 months when she broke up with me. She was starting college and was going to be going away and she said she just wasn't ready for a serious relationship that I was pushing. She wanted to be more focused on school and didn't feel it was fair to me because I would be expecting more than she would be giving. Which I do understand. Though we were split up we remained in contact and would hang out when she came home Eventually I found out she was sort of seeing another guy at her school. I felt that she had lied to me and was just playing with me. I called her a few names and went my own way. Throughout the next couple of weeks she would try to talk to me but it ended up just being fights with me losing my temper. She said she wasn't dating him and she was just fooling around. I asked why fool around with other guys and lose me? she said she couldnt see herself just fooling around with me, because she sees me as relationship material troughout the next month we didnt talk much but when we did i ended up saying some pretty mean things about her. eventually i got over it and apologized but she said that she cant just forgive me and dont expect her to believe i will change, she wants to see it shes been home for the past month and we have been hanging out th epats two-three weeks its going well, i havent lost my temper but i worry i did alot of damage to her . words cant be forgotten and i worry no matter what she will hold it against me. i have apologized but is there anything i could do ---this has nothing to do with us getting back together, its more repairing her view of me...we still remain friends Forgiveness in my opinion is so controversial. When love is involved and people's feelings are hurt...it takes a looooong time for it to heal, if it heals at all. To this day my ex doesn't forgive me completely and when opportunity were to present itself as in a heated fight she used things on me from YEARS ago that I thought were resolved and forgiven. Once you cross a line, verbally abuse or insult the object of you're love, its is never forgotten and forgiven to a slight degree. Over only the span of years is it truly assuaged. It will always hinder your relationship with her. My on and off relationship was full of fights and breakups. Each time the pot got harder to glue back together, and it's because the past fights were in actuality never forgiven, so progress came to a screeching halt. Each time we patched up in a few days to weeks the harsh reality of the past fights would kick in and it would be over at the speed of light. Tragic really. Anyways just keep this in mind in the future when you want to maintain a relationship with the one you love 1
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Many high school relationships end when one or both go off to college. Possibilities are endless when you take that next step. Same with graduating from college. I agree with the other poster above who said she's probably just back for the summer and will do the same thing when she returns to school. Not sure if you want to get back together or not, but doesn't seem like that will happen here.
johnsonracer Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 if she is talking to you and spending time i would say she has somewhat forgiven you
David87 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 show her you are sorry She forgave him, the relationship is over. I dont see why op needs to stay friends with her when its so obvious that he has romantic feelings for the girl.
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