kane30us Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) okay, went on a date last night. Nice time, just no chemistry and I feel disappointed. Now I feel like contacting my ex, that I've not had contact with in 3 months. I feel I am finally starting to get over her. No more heartache. I've been looking at life better. But, today I have this strong urge to see how's she's doing. What will it hurt? Ughh..Can anyone else relate with this feeling? Tell me its not a good idea to contact her. Even if its a friendly hello. I know she's not seeing anyone, a mutual friend told me so. My heart is saying go for it but my brain is saying stay away! So..before I do anything I figured I'd write about it first and ask my fellow Loveshack friends.... Edited June 24, 2014 by kane30us 1
Kermit76 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 My friend spend the day reading heartache after heartache on here when NC was broken. I am certain you will have your answer and your urge will be gone by 5pm. 3
d0nnivain Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It's not a good idea to contact your EX. You are simply missing the familiar. The new person was different.
Amy74 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I hope I'm not reaching you too late but dating other people sent me running back to my ex faster then anything else. I was the one that kept breaking up with him but it was a bad relationship. He was a narcissistic jerk who required everything on his terms. One bad date changes nothing--trust me. Being lonely sucks but not worse then disappointing dates that send us back to our exes. Make plans with friends--that seemed to help. Good luck. 1
Alcatraz Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 I've been thinking about my ex a lot over the past couple days, just fighting any temptations to contact her or check out her social networking (I've blocked her on facebook but unfortunately still see her name crop up on IG if she likes something) but I remind myself, she should be the one that contacts me! I'm 12 days NC (broke NC 12 days ago, regret it) and every day I'm healing more. You can do it to. You've made progress by going out on dates, keep doing it! 1
umirano Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 3 months post BU, about 1 month NC here. Every time I'm in a situation where meeting someone new (bars, beach) is a possibility, when I get a look or a girl chats me up I'm immediately zoning back into the RS and thinking of her. Don't break NC, you have to go through this. You were the dumpee? She has to reach out if anything. Don't look at her social network presence. You'll be hurt seeing her swarmed by guys. 1
Author kane30us Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 (edited) To give you all an update. No I did not contact her! And I feel great about that. Also, Umirano, I was the Dumper not the Dumpee. Not that it makes a difference. In back my mind I feel I made a mistake or gave up too soon. Now, when I look at it, I realized I did the right thing. I deserve someone who can be there for me. Not just in the physical way but emotional also. I was just feeling sorry for myself. Amy74, thats so cool you live in Pennsylvania. I live in MD and born in 72. Thanks for the kind words, everyone! Edited June 28, 2014 by kane30us 1
irresolute Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 It's good you didn't contact her. You might not be ready to date yet.
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