thekid36 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Kid, there is a good chance your Ex has BPD in addition to bipolar. A recent large-scale study (pub. 2008 ) found that 36% of bipolar-1 sufferers also have comorbid BPD. I mention this because the cutting you saw is strongly associated with BPD in clinical studies. A 2004 hospital study, for example, concluded that "the majority of those who self-mutilate are women with borderline personality disorder." See J Psychosoc Nurs Ment Health Serv. 2004. I think that you could be on to something and thank you for this interesting information. No matter what it was, she is definitely not healthy. What is sad is that those around these scarred souls are dragged down right along with them. This is why I had to get out.
fortyninethousand322 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Her behavior would be fine with me. But I'm not most people. Your experience is probably different.
thekid36 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) References to prior deleted content redacted I grew up wondering how the heck someone gets married only to then be divorced. How do you literally fall out of love? Wondered how a person gives up on another with such a swift and definitive decision. Did not understand it for the longest time. Until the one day when I was the one who got divorced. So as for my own sanity. With a woman I was never in love with. The so called Superman Syndrome I describe goes way beyond simply trying to be noble. Life is not always black and white. Nor do we always make decisions that are and which make sense. Edited June 26, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Diezel Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 This is more than just about a "shift", it's about the relationship in general. There will ALWAYS be something she doesn't like and be childish about. Use your job as the perfect venue to examine the relationship as a whole. Personally, RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN. RUN. And then. RUN SOME MORE.
Daisydance Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 This is unnacceptable behaviour. I would end it, it's not healthy and it will affect you sooner or later being with someone so unreasonable
thekid36 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 She called me and apologized after I was locked out for half the day at my friends house. Im picking my stuff up today and im going to try not to take her back. I dont know if she even wants me back but if she does im going to make this clear; im telling her i will leave her if she acts like this to me again. If she doesnt agree ill leave without hesitance. OP, any update on this situation today? I have been worried about you and hope all is well.
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