robbysurfs Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) I meet this girl through a friend of my bro's. She is very forward a bit crazy and sort of a party gal bartender. She also is extremely sexy and a has a total bad girl thing that drives me nuts. We had been txting and she would respond in short sentences.There was definitely some tension building. This weekend I met her briefly at her job. She had a hour to kill and we hung out. long story short we fooled around a bit kissing and grabbing all of it she initiated, and I have to admit i was a bit awkward because I am more conservative than she is. She did say to call her at the end of the date and kissed me a bunch of times on the lips. I felt a connection but there was also a vibe in my head that was maybe she thinks im to lax for her. Anyhow, I text her the next day around 5pm ME: "HEY, my ass was on fire today thanx for the hot memories xo I had fun thanks"(we had spicy tacos on this speed date and I made a joke we both laughed) HER: HAHA! assfire! That was it and nothing else and I kinda was like okay maybe she is not into me. I let it go and was like oh well moving along. The next day around 5 she txts me HER: I had fun too btw I waited a bit because i was busy ME: Cool, lets do it again. HER: ok That was it, I did not follow up because for one I dont want to come off as needy and I kinda feel it was a bit of a blowoff response. I am not gonna txt her. I feel I should wait or maybe txt in a few days and see what her schedule is. I realize this might kill any future chances but I think I should hold fast on this one and let her wonder a bit. I like her she seems fun and unpredictable but I am kinda lost when it comes to the games of passion. Plus she probably gets txt from a lot of guys wanting to get with her, even tho she told me she is not seeing anyone.. All of this stuff is in my head i realize and I am obsessing a bit so a outside voice may help. I am the type of guy who wears his heart on his sleave and just tells a women if I like her and want to be with her. She on the otherhand is a maneater for sure. Any advice would be appreciated on how I should or should not proceed. Edited June 24, 2014 by robbysurfs
acrosstheuniverse Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I think you have the right idea, just take it slowly. Don't be needy and text constantly, but also you have to let her know you want to see her again, call her up and make a proper date. If she's anything like me, a guy that seems uninterested won't get me more excited and curious, it'll just make me move onto the many other guys in pursuit and chalk it up to a loss. Have to say though, sorry to be a criticism, I would probably stay away from thanking a girl for 'hot memories' in a text... it would be a turn off for a guy to thank me, as though I did him a favour. Sure, tell her you had a good time but the thanking made you seem really inexperienced to me. I would like like 'well... I kinda did it cos I wanted to as well?' I'm sure others will be along soon with some better advice than I can give on this!
Author robbysurfs Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 It was part of the joke but I see your point I am much better in person my txt game sucks big time.
Assasda Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 You sound golden man. Very good. You dont sound needy, and you sound secure and in control - That is what is hot to women. If you are conservative. That is you, dont change it for her. Dont change it for nobody, she'll respect you for being yourself, in the long run, even if you 2 dont fall in love. Never "verbalize" to a woman that you woman that you like her, this early, this is not highschool. Show her you like her, or until she begs to hear it. On your next move, you probably she call her, 'chop it up' on the phone for a little bit. Then ask her to go out somewhere, better yet, tell her that youre going someplace, and tell her that you'd like her to accompany you. - By the way things sound, she'll say yes - She could probably reschedule, but she will be available Then go out with her again, and make out with her again. What you do to keep your mind off her, is you do your hobbies, you watch TV. you hang out with your buddies, just like normal. Some guys even plan other dates, which I recommend. Good luck and update us
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