alexwood Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 i seriously cant get over my ex even if she treated me bad..i have gone nc for two months and cant get over her i dont know why is it because i lost my virginity to her? she dumped me because she wante dto sleep around i should be glad she is gone but im not what cna i do?
Simon Phoenix Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Keep with NC. Usually there's a downturn at the 2-3 month mark because it's at that point where you truly come to grips that it's over and she's not coming back. If you ride this out, you'll come out better on the other end. In the meantime, try to keep busy, connect with friends, make new friends, try new activities, start a project, whatever you can do. But what you are going through is completely normal. Just stay the course. 1
Michael 93 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I was once where you are. With my first heartbreak (around 7 years ago) I was a 14 year old guy fell in love with my best friend (girl) at the time and she took my virginity. Absolutely loved her but it was what I call (young love) Turns out she fell pregnant. From the first time of "doing it" she became pregnant. Man O man how unlucky? This made me even more infatuated with this girl, I was at points where I couldn't sleep or didn't want to be around, couldn't enjoy myself with friends (same social circle) I was devastated seriously. Although this is completely different to the heartbreak I am experiencing at the moment. Hence why I called it young love. What I did was went out and enjoyed myself. Changed my social circles and literally (LSers please DO NOT SHOOT ME) slept with a large amount of girls. Tried relationships, few rarely worked and lived life. That EX did eventually come back telling me how she regrets what has happened and how she treated me, as a matter of fact I spoke to her a couple days ago as I wanted to see how she felt after I was gone, I suppose to give me comfort over this heartbreak. Crazy how things change isn't it? My most recent Ex and my young love Ex absolutely hated each other. I've seen them literally have it off in the club with each other because of the messages my first ex had sent me, all she said was please cherish him and don't let him go. My most recent Ex obvs didn't take that advice. What I'm saying is, I was absolutely head over heels with this girl never thought I would find anyone again...But you know what I found someone who I adored much much more and she also brought me to this fine place...(through absolutely shattering my heart) 3rd time lucky I hope? So now the problem I have is.....If I find someone EVEN EVEN better. Where is next for me to go!? Haha :lmao: OP don't panic. we have a route and just keep going as long as we are our best possible selves it will take us to the right place. Please stick with NC. soon your thoughts and emotions will begin to entangle. All the best Mike
David87 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It's too soon and because she was your first.... After 5 or 6 months of hard core NC you will feel much better.
Ordinaryday Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 because when someone dumps you if you loved them you basically go through the same grieving process as you do when a loved one dies.... the sadness, depression, denial, anger, bargaining, acceptance... because you go through the same sort of sad process .... someone you loved is no longer in your life and you have to learn to adjust to life without them 1
Assasda Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 i seriously cant get over my ex even if she treated me bad..i have gone nc for two months and cant get over her i dont know why is it because i lost my virginity to her? she dumped me because she wante dto sleep around i should be glad she is gone but im not what cna i do? She didnt dump you to sleep around. she dumped you because she doesnt respect you. Now look at it in those terms. You wanna be with someone who doesnt respect you?
David87 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 She didnt dump you to sleep around. she dumped you because she doesnt respect you. Now look at it in those terms. You wanna be with someone who doesnt respect you? Not only the dumper doesn't respect you, but they dont care about you(as a person, as a lover or even as a friend)and they feel like a huge stone have been lifted from their chest the day they get rid of you.
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