Jadedbyluv Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I've recently started dating someone new who I met on a online dating site. From the get go, we hit it off. We had an instant connection and felt so comfortable with one another. It's like we have known each other forever. After a few dates, he asked to be exclusive and if we would both take down our online dating profiles. Fast forward to last week, he became distant for no reason. He stopped calling me every night or not answering my calls. I was gone all weekend with work, and I got a few random texts that were obviously not meant for me. Like meet me here. He said it was his sister but my gut told me otherwise. Again today a similar text. Just because my gut is usually right, I thought these texts were for another woman. I checked to see if he had his online profile back up. My first thought was that he has been going on other dates with women. It's all so confusing because he told me he was falling for me. He introduced me to his family. We were planning on taking a trip together. He was looking at moving closer to me because we live about an hour away from each other. It's like a complete 180 in a week and don't know why. I wanted to ask him about it but don't know the best way to approach the subject. When I called him early tonight, he said he was sick and sleeping. I asked about plans for seeing each other this week, he wasn't su I'm just so confused on what to do.
J21 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I certainly hope I'm wrong, but I don't think it's going to end well. Your suspicions are probably correct. If that is so, just end it. You guys haven't been together that long, so it shouldn't be a rough separation or anything. Sometimes, things go well from the start and the wheels just fall off. Maybe his interest waned after things went too quick.
ain5053 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Your intuition is most likely correct. Possibly it is an ex girlfriend, or another already existing love interest. I doubt he is seeing new women off the dating site, seems too sudden considering he was falling for you. The only thing I can think of is it's an old flame. I'm sorry! I would absolutely confront him.
Assasda Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It seems like it all went so fast. When guys put on everything so fast, then tell you everything you want to hear instantly, its probably bullcrap, So he fed you everything you wanted to hear as quick as possible. Then he's off 1
writergal Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) Sound the alarms. Maximum readiness to Defcon one. Raise your shields. Red flag 1: He asked you to be exclusive within a few dates and take down your online dating profiles. Red flag 2: Instant connection could be sexual chemistry (but a real emotional connection takes time to develop). Red flag 3: He introduced you to his family too soon. Red flag 4: He disappeared and went radio silent on you, which sent you mixed messages. Red flag 5: Texts meant for another woman were accidentally sent to you (reminds me of that scene from the movie "He's Just Not That Into You" when Drew Barrymore's character listens to her 2 voicemails from a guy she chatted on MySpace with. The 1st vmail was for her character. The 2nd vmail was for another woman but left on Drew Barrymore's character's vmail by mistake). Red flag 6: Planning a trip together and planning to move closer to you. Red flag 7: When you called to clear up your confusion about his sudden 180 he gave you the "I'm sleeping and sick" excuse which a guy wouldn't do if he were into you. Red flag 8: He wouldn't commit to future plans with you. If this were the World Cup of Dating and I was the ref, I would flag his as* for the penalty of leading you on, and give you free penalty kicks (that's right, I said multiple kicks!) to his "goal" (sans cup) and even buff and sharpen your cleats for you. Keep Calm and Next that (a la TLC). A Scrub is a guy who can't get no love from you. Edited June 24, 2014 by writergal 2
Leigh 87 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I've recently started dating someone new who I met on a online dating site. From the get go, we hit it off. We had an instant connection and felt so comfortable with one another. It's like we have known each other forever. After a few dates, he asked to be exclusive and if we would both take down our online dating profiles. YOU felt an instant connection. If he felt anything that ground breaking he would not be acting the way he is. He would call and text you and want to see you as much as he could.... n Fast forward to last week, he became distant for no reason. He stopped calling me every night or not answering my calls. I was gone all weekend with work, and I got a few random texts that were obviously not meant for me. Like meet me here. He said it was his sister but my gut told me otherwise. Again today a similar text. Just because my gut is usually right, I thought these texts were for another woman. I checked to see if he had his online profile back up. My first thought was that he has been going on other dates with women. It's all so confusing because he told me he was falling for me. He introduced me to his family. We were planning on taking a trip together. He was looking at moving closer to me because we live about an hour away from each other. It's like a complete 180 in a week and don't know why. I wanted to ask him about it but don't know the best way to approach the subject. When I called him early tonight, he said he was sick and sleeping. I asked about plans for seeing each other this week, he wasn't su I'm just so confused on what to do.if he was really into you he would remain consistent and he wouldn't just say he was asleep; he'd talk to you briefly and make it known that he was happy to hear your voice. Then he'd excuse himself and get back to sleeping. ..
Gaeta Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It's all so confusing because he told me he was falling for me. He introduced me to his family. We were planning on taking a trip together. He was looking at moving closer to me because we live about an hour away from each other. When you experience these within only a few weeks dating they are all red flags. He was hit with a big case of infatuation and now it's gone. Most of the time when it starts like a firework, it dies like one too. Sorry, been there more than once and know too well about it. Don't hang on to it and move on fast.
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