jesha Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) I've been posting about my situation for the past couple of weeks, so here's the summary of my story My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, on and off. At least four times he's broken up with me and then wanted to get back together after a month or so. About three weeks ago we broke up again. I'm trying my hardest to move on and not take him back this time. He broke up with me in a text message (like every time) after I tried to get him to let me come and over and talk through things in person. He told me he was too busy and that night he went out drinking with his friends. This morning he asked me about a few of his things I still have. I responded that I could have a friend drop them off, and retrieve my things. Now he's saying that he needs closure and wants to talk to me. He said things like "You're probably trying to get back at me for not letting you come over and talk but in my defense I was sick and I don't like getting broken up with in person." So basically, everything he's saying his complete crap. I don't know if he wants closure, or if he's going to try and manipulate me into getting back together again. I do not want closure. Talking to him in person about things will only make me feel worse and I've been doing well. So, I guess this was just a little rant about my situation. Looking for insight and advice about what to do Thanks Edited June 24, 2014 by jesha
PhillyConnection23 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 He's trying to trick you into getting back with him. I'm all for second chances and believing that love conquers all but after 4 break ups you need to move on and not fall for this guy's ****.
Zahara Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) Get the exchange done. There is no need for you to keep engaging him. This is the guy that you said disrespects you and treats you badly. Why are you still communicating? He doesn't want closure. He's hoping for Round 5. After all you've stuck around after 4 dumps so he's just following the pattern. He knows you'll be available to him again. Lather, rinse, repeat. Guys like him will keep revisiting women like you -- women that accept ill treatment and have no boundaries. Stop the insanity. Edited June 24, 2014 by Zahara
April Moon Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Do what makes you comfortable. If you want your friend to drop off his stuff, do that. His reason for not breaking up with you in person is lame. Honestly, he doesn't deserve your time.
Chi townD Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Just say, "No thanks dude! I've got my closure. I'm just going to move on with my life." And then....do it! You don't owe him anything. 1
Elle1975 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 He's wasting your time. Pack his stuff, have a friend drop that off. Unless you got valuables over there, forget about it.
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