TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 No, I don't. My job doesn't pay me enough for me to accumulate that sort of wealth. I haven't earned it, so I don't deserve it. In the USA, you have the right to the pursuit of happiness. Not the right to be happy. When people speak of entitlement, this is the sort of thing they are talking about. Right but what that poster said was in a nut shell over weight people have no right to be happy if that happiness includes wanting to be with a fit man so you agree with that? I sure as heck don't.. So ether you agree with that or you don't but picking my posts apart word for word isn't going to change that...if you don't believe over weight people should be happy IF that includes being with a think/fit person then just say so..
Omei Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 As another reply said why would fat women need a different rejection than thin women? Some of you are horrid honesty is great but there are times you can be TOO honest, no need to reject AND make a women feel bad about her body. "I dont think we would make a great match" Or no reply at all No need to be rude. 3
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 What I believe is that if an overweight person wants a fit person, they should become fit themselves. It is hypocritical to want to be with someone who is fit, when you refuse to make the same choice to be fit yourself. Ok so now we get to the root of the issue instead of arguing word for word..and again I will say I believe that to be a ignorant stance on it but its your opinion and your entitled to it.. The thing ill ask is why dose a over weight person have to change themselves tho? what if they like themselves how they are. How is that wrong just because its not what some might think attractive? who are others do judge that? its kind of like saying well if a gay person wants to marry they should become straight because only straight people can marry...its just a narrow minded view imo anyways.. 4
Omei Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Ps A bigger person has every right to find and want a fit attractive person if they want just as a thinner fit person has every right to find a bigger person attractive to them, this isn't unheard of or uncommon not everyone is in the mindset of thin must date thin and thick to thick. 2
whirl3daway Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 threads like this always make me wonder what a "fattie" means to everyone. 1
Omei Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 To the shallow majority of people I think its over 180 that's when it starts to show.
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Imo people do deserve to have what they think they want weather or not they get it is another story. So you don't think you deserve a billion dollars interesting?..lol Im an over weight women and I think I deserve to be as happy as anyone else here and IF that includes a guy whose fit so be it..my weight doesn't make me any less deserving of that..im sorry if that angry's anyone.. People don't deserve something just because they want something. Same as above, why do I deserve a billion dollars? I've done nothing to earn it. Don't think anyone is angry, I think the pompous tone is annoying to people 4
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 To the shallow majority of people I think its over 180 that's when it starts to show. Well I think it also depends on ones height 180 on a 6ft women whose maybe athletic would look allot different to say a 4ft women..but its hard to know I believe plus sizes start at what 14 now a days? to me 14 isn't plus..I guess its all subjective...Socitay in general has been brain washed for long and given an idea of beauty that's not even obtainable so god knows..
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 People don't deserve something just because they want something. Same as above, why do I deserve a billion dollars? I've done nothing to earn it. Don't think anyone is angry, I think the pompous tone is annoying to people Yeah I know I just hate it when people are put down for no other reason then how they look its very pompous indeed agreed..
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Hi, I was just wondering, what's a polite way to reject plus size women on a dating site?..I seem be getting lots of messages from the fatties lately Not sure why this is even a question? If it's online, you can simply ignore them.
Omei Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 What's wrong with a overweight girl dating a fit man if that's what is attractive to her? 2
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Yeah I know I just hate it when people are put down for no other reason then how they look its very pompous indeed agreed.. I didn't put anyone down. But the person I was talking to says she is an overweight woman who only wants to date fit men. Do you not see the irony in that? It's wrong for men to not be attracted to overweight women but it's okay for her to only want to date men that are fit? 4
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Lane Bryant, the plus size clothing store, starts their sizes at 12. Size 14 is definitely a plus size, because you pretty much have to be overweight to fit in it. Socitay in general has been brain washed for long and given an idea of beauty that's not even obtainable so god knows.. Sigh. Men, we are all just brainwashed! It's the media's fault we don't find big women attractive. I think this line is hilarious coming from an overweight girl that wants to date fit men. Ok lets clear things up you assumed I want to date fit man just because I stood up agenst a narrow minded opinion that we shouldn't I never said that's what I personally wanted. Second I also said I respected your right to your opinion something you are clearly denying me why cause im overweight? And third I also said I totally understand if a man doesn't want to date a over weight women there's nothing wrong with it just like there's nothing wrong with a over weight women wanting to date a fit man.. 1
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I didn't put anyone down. But the person I was talking to says she is an overweight woman who only wants to date fit men. Do you not see the irony in that? It's wrong for men to not be attracted to overweight women but it's okay for her to only want to date men that are fit? If your talking about me no were have I ever said I only want to date a fit man im defending everyone's right to date who they want.. 1
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Yeah I know I just hate it when people are put down for no other reason then how they look its very pompous indeed agreed.. I didn't put anyone down. You are saying people deserve something just because they want it. That is not how the real world works. I don't remember anyone putting you down for you weight. If they did, their comment would probably be flagged. That's fine if you want to date fit guys. You just shouldn't feel entitled to it just because you want it.
Omei Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I will chime in, im overweight and I like cute pretty thin guys I prefer them to bigger guys not saying I wouldn't date a bigger buy but all of my long term bfs have been thin. IM SEXY as FUCCKK!!!! And ill get them if I damn well want them. 3
FitChick Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 No one is obligated to date anyone they don't find attractive. Ignore and block. Problem solved. 6
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I didn't put anyone down. You are saying people deserve something just because they want it. That is not how the real world works. I don't remember anyone putting you down for you weight. If they did, their comment would probably be flagged. That's fine if you want to date fit guys. You just shouldn't feel entitled to it just because you want it. So a thin man is entitled to a thin women then? what if he wants a bigger one is he wrong? is that ok then cause the role is reversed? what if a gay person wants to get married do they not deserve that? because they are gay and some disagree with that choice? how far dose the sterro type go is it to just cover what some find visually unattractive?
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Second I also said I respected your right to your opinion something you are clearly denying me why cause im overweight? I don't respect your opinion because of your pompous attitude, not because you are overweight. It's one thing to want something, its another to think you deserve it just because. Once again, you have every right to date fit men. Don't feel entitled because they might not want to date you. 1
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I don't respect your opinion because of your pompous attitude, not because you are overweight. It's one thing to want something, its another to think you deserve it just because. Once again, you have every right to date fit men. Don't feel entitled because they might not want to date you. How am I pompous? cause I disagreed with some one saying overweight women do not deserve to be happy if that includes dating a fit man? well ok if that makes me pompous then so be it..I think belittling people simply because of how they look is also pompous and I will stand up to it every time so I guess its a wash and we can all agree to disagree..Oh and edited to add the quote you quoted me on there wasn't even to you it was meant towards the other poster..
Smarty Pants Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 So a thin man is entitled to a thin woman then? what if he wants a bigger one is he wrong? Didn't say that. And you are completely missing the point. what if a gay person wants to get married do they not deserve that? because they are gay and some disagree with that choice? You are talking about a completely different thing. This is equality, and yes, I believe gay people should be able to be married. Our country is stupid for still having laws set in place to prevent that. To end this idiotic argument: People don't deserve something just because they want something. Can you have your own preferences? Of course. Can an overweight woman date a 'fit' guy? Absolutely. You shouldn't feel entitled to it just because you want something. People think things should just be handed to them or that they should get every opportunity just because they want it. And when arguing with someone, you probably should avoid putting words in their mouth. Especially since everything I have typed is above and can referenced. 2
TigerLilly78 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Didn't say that. And you are completely missing the point. You are talking about a completely different thing. This is equality, and yes, I believe gay people should be able to be married. Our country is stupid for still having laws set in place to prevent that. To end this idiotic argument: People don't deserve something just because they want something. Can you have your own preferences? Of course. Can an overweight woman date a 'fit' guy? Absolutely. You shouldn't feel entitled to it just because you want something. People think things should just be handed to them or that they should get every opportunity just because they want it. And when arguing with someone, you probably should avoid putting words in their mouth. Especially since everything I have typed is above and can referenced. I think the use of the word "deserved" was harped on and picked apart here cause it could be used as a loop hole to cover up the fact some one didn't like the idea of a over weight women dating a fit/thin guy simple...at the end of the day yes its equality that is what is being debated here simple as that..and for the record if anything I was the one who had words put in my mouth but that's ok to me this isn't a argument..lol 1
Omei Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I think the use of the word "deserved" was harped on and picked apart here cause it could be used as a loop hole to cover up the fact some one didn't like the idea of a over weight women dating a fit/thin guy simple...at the end of the day yes its equality that is what is being debated here simple as that..and for the record if anything I was the one who had words put in my mouth but that's ok to me this isn't a argument..lol Nailed it! A poster was caught being small minded she called out on it and her words were twisted in attempts to try and conceal that sorry but true. 1
gaius Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I don't do OLD but I do leave a few profiles up just for the views and messages. One of them's on a fat chick site. Since this is just a way to brag about getting messaged by lots of fat chicks without admitting you enjoy it I'm not taking the question seriously!
ktya Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I find it humorous some of the posters in this thread berating men for not wanting to be with a fat woman. The whole, "what if she is overweight but working on it" gig doesn't hold water. Then let her keep working on it and maybe the guy would be into her when she's reached a healthy BMI. A guy shouldn't have to take her word for it that she's "trying so hard to get in shape" it's not at all his problem. He wasnt there feeding her while she grew horizontally, so why should he have to put up with it while she shrinks in the same axis? I come at this from a perspective of someone who got way overweight and lost it all. So I have ZERO empathy for fat people. Call me cruel, whatever. I at one time had a BMI of 39. On my 5'6" frame that meant I was 215 lbs. One day I was taking a leak and I couldnt see my own penis. That terrified me. I look back at pictures of myself from those days and you could see the fat in my hands, fingers and face. It was scary thinking of how I would deal with the problem. I remember taking the elevator at the transit station simply because I was too lazy to walk the stairs. And you know what? I dealt with it with military precision. I started calorie counting militantly. I exercised. It was very hard at first because I enjoyed things like pasta and beer and potatoes. As I was progressing I noticed that despite shorting my calories sometimes the weight came off in lumps. I built an Excel graphing calculator that would show me what my weight was supposed to be to give me more motivation. It worked like clockwork, and the actual weight would always blip to the line of where it was supposed to be. I weighed myself every morning after taking a leak naked. I was losing 4-6 lbs a week. And thats without a lot of additional exercise or going to the gym. As I got thinner it slowed down because its easier to lose more weight if you have a lot extra. I got my BMI down from "severely obese" to "ideal". It took about 6-7 months. I could see my penis again. My old pants just fell off as my waist went down from a 42 to a 30. I would run up the stairs at the transit station instead of taking the elevator. My recent ex gained a lot of weight when she was with me and I gave her hell for it. She would drink 2-3 litres of cola a day, refused to eat vegetables or fish and was a picky eater - basically she disliked anything that was healthy. Once she made me her "famous" perogies. She used a whole pack of bacon, fried it all then fried the perogies in the grease and broke up the bacon into bits. She thought I would love it. I tried to be kind and eat it but I couldn't take more than two bites of the greasy goulag. Living with her my waist went from my ideal 30-31 up to 37 despite my attempts to avoid too many calories. Unfortunately it was difficult to justify buying vegetables when I was the only one who ate them. We broke up 7 months ago. My waist is back to 31 and my belly is shrinking like wildfire simply because I am eating proper foods again. So my point of all of this is I have zero empathy for fat people. They are not big boned, they dont have a slow metabolism, they arent just born that way. Its simple. They eat too many calories and don't exercise enough. I dont buy their crap when they come to your house and only eat off the veggie platter and complain about their slow metabolism - obviously they're going home and wolfing back a pizza when nobody is looking. There is no reason why a guy should put up with a fat girl if he doesn't want to. It's dating not moral support. If the guy likes a fat girl enough to be with her, fine. If he likes her personality enough to hang in there while she exercises fine. But if he isnt interested in her because she isnt taking care of herself there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with that at all. Being overweight is a bigger risk factor than smoking. It dramatically increases risk of heart and arterial disease, diabetes, stroke, pancreatic and liver disorders, gastrointestinitis and a long list of other things including tendon and muscle injury. Yet the same people in this thread who are berating the guys for not wanting a fat girl would likely have no problem shaming someone for smoking. I smoke and I hear it all the time. The biggest risk factor of being fat is the drama and BS that goes along with being hypersensitive about one's appearance and having low self esteem. Fatties should put down the burger and maybe pick up a cigarette. Cigarettes are a zero calorie option and hey, they suppress appetite. Call me cruel if you want but I have been there myself, beat the fat and got the T shirt and fat pants that dont fit anymore to prove it. Calories in, calories out. It isnt rocket science. 2
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