insert_name Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Hi all Just wondering what you would all do in my situation - the answer IMO is pretty obvious but I find it always helps to get other perspectives. I connected with a girl on PoF, we exchanged a couple of messages and established some common ground on some unique things. Things seemed positive- she complimented my genuine approach, in contrast to the morons she said she was hassled by, she asked me questions so was at least interested in knowing more about me . Just when i was about to ask her to meet for a drink she got in there first and said she wanted to switch to an IM app...bit of a red flag imo as from my experience (and what i have read) girls typically like to meet sooner rather than later...but what the hell, my options werent great at the time so we switched to IM to message each other and she then stated that she wanted to get to know me better in real time on IM. The only problem with this whole scenario being that it took on average 4 days after i message for her to send each one of these messages that I have mentioned. So I'm trying to set up a time when we are both on IM an have given her a date and time range and am still waiting to hear back, on current form its likely to be Wednesday or Thursday and the delay in responding will mean that I have to start again with dates and times that I can do. I've just about reached the end of my patience as it seems very likely given the number of days to respond that she is already actually dating someone and is stalling for time with me. I don't actually have a problem with that (if that's the case) I just wish she would be up front about why it takes so long to reply. I don't think being someone's second/third choice bodes well for the future so would rather bow out in that situation. I haven't flat out asked her about times as it seems a bit full on considering the stage we are at and may not come across well. Tonight I was about to nicely let her know that I wished to leave it be when the fact that I have no other options at the moment made me reconsider. It won't cost me anything to at least wait for her response (if she does) and keep persevering (although with no emotional investment) just in case something does come of it. Although that being said I am fed up of the distraction of checking my IM every day so I am aiming to get on with other things and leave it a good few days to check again. So as I am not likely to reply before the end of the weekend I guess I am getting into playing games territory myself, which isn't going to help. What would you do?
Assasda Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 Why dont you just ask to meet her in person, like you were about to do in the first place. She boosted your ego by calling the other guys morons, thus suggesting that, you are her perfect knight in shining armour, huh? You sound like a scientist trying to solve an equation in your explanation. The solution is "There are more fish in the sea" So start messaging other women Even if that girl contacts you again
dispatch3d Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 You haven't even really met this girl yet, so who really cares what happens. If she replies with a time to talk over IM do that, if she doesn't whatever. I wouldn't really be putting a ton of focus or effort in this thing yet if I were you anyways....
Mo_Do Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 LOL @ 4 days to reply to an IM "app" message. Its probably a scam and your computer now infested with spyware and viruses. You'll learn....
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