Hoosfoos Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 How can this be possible? These are two completely different emotions. Yet they still exist at the same time. I miss her for what she brought into my life and the companionship. Yet I hate her for leaving and not being careful enough with my heart when we were together. How do I reconcile this inner conflict? Its too bad she wasnt a complete beyotch, that would make things much easier for me to move on.
todreaminblue Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 lets explore the word hate shall we....if you truly"hated"(apathy)for her you would not feel love at all...to me apathy should be the word used in stead of hate........apathy is where you dont care if they live or die...... when soemone has been hurt deeply it is easy to confuse love with hate...for it isnt them you have stopped loving, but the hurt at what they have done to you and you care deeply about them you loathe the fact your care and concern wasnt reciprocated in kind.....and you loathe yourself for still caring when they dont i can give you a example of"hate" i would say I "hate" my rapist........i was young vulnerable and he used my care for him to abuse me, i respected him as an adult, trusted him and i thought he cared for me and had concern for me since my father loathed me he stepped in and showed me care and concern that quickly became otherwise........... i dont "hate" my rapist and i never did...i loathe what he did......and it was hard fro me to forgive ....but i dotn hodl grudges i am retarded like that.......i can honestly say ....i dont "hate" anyone.......whom i have loved they hurt me deeply because i allow them to get that close.......i dont blame them for my allowing them to hurt me......and i dont blame me either....and this way i live my life.....i dont hate and to be truthful the only people who hate me....are people that i have had to pull up for hurting others......i have been known to develop apathy towards them...........because if they are going to hurt me i want to feel nothing..... "hate" can exist seemingly because it isnt hate it is hurt love...it si the same emotion strengthened and maximized..you know the saying fine line between love and hate....hate is love crossing over the line.......confusion reigns because you really cant understand for the reasons behind someone treating you less than you treat them..ie love.....and a line that was crossed...deb
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