ain5053 Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 Hey yall! As I've written here before, my ex boyfriend of 2 years (a.k.a. at the time "the love of my life") broke up with me because of long distance several months ago. He seemed sincere and disappointed with the situation, yet I was quite heartbroken to find out he was seeing other women immediately after. Also, when I confronted him, his responses to me were very snappy and rude, MEAN, denying his guilt and basically attacking me with insults I did not deserve, to which I NEVER reciprocated! It was very strange as the entire time we were together, he has never said a mean word to me and always proclaimed his love for me, saying how he wants to spend his life with me, how I was his best friend, blah blah blah. Either way, I got sh*t together and moved on. Started NC, began dating a new man (who I am not in relationship with). Did not talk to my ex for a few months, then got a text from him to which I responded 2 weeks later, and his response back was something along the lines "Considering it took you so long to respond I assume you gave in to your weakness or ended it with your rebound guy". (He doesn't actually know anything about the new guy I am seeing). So basically another offensive remark. That conversation ended pretty quickly. Several days ago, a picture of him appeared on my Instagram page through a mutual friend, where he has my suitcase. I've been looking for that suitcase, and ironically, he told me a story about how his ex girlfriend stole his (which is why I let him borrow mine and forgot), so I jokingly texted him "Just because your ex girlfriend stole your luggage, doesn't mean you can steal mine! I saw Jose's post." I honestly said this as a joke, as thinking about him or talking to him doesn't bother me anymore. His response was "Why are you creeping, bro?? You could have just let it go." I said "I am just kidding, relax!" And he said "I am relaxed". I am assuming there will be responses on here about me just letting it go and not talking to him anymore, but that's not the point of this threat. It really does not affect me anymore emotionally to the point where I don't care to text him if I must, he is now just somebody I used to know. I just want to know your opinions on why he is so rude to me. Why he hates me, when I never reciprocated, never did anything wrong to him. All I ever did is tell him I loved him, supported him, and even when he pushed me away I just gave him space and let him go. How did his feelings of "love" and obsession towards me turn into hatred, irritation and annoyance. I don't plan on talking to him again or anything, I am just fairly surprised. You really don't ever know a person! Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted June 23, 2014 Share Posted June 23, 2014 (edited) I just want to know your opinions on why he is so rude to me. Why he hates me, when I never reciprocated, never did anything wrong to him. All I ever did is tell him I loved him, supported him, and even when he pushed me away I just gave him space and let him go. How did his feelings of "love" and obsession towards me turn into hatred, irritation and annoyance. I don't plan on talking to him again or anything, I am just fairly surprised. You really don't ever know a person! I'd guess it's because you handled the end kindly rather than being a jerk he could blame. Perhaps he resents that you acted like the "better" person because it makes him look bad, at least to himself, inside. Edited June 23, 2014 by BlueIris Link to post Share on other sites
Assasda Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 Oh but you do care OP. Just cut all the foolishness out and move on. He was obsessed with you? sounds stupid. No one should be obsessed with another person, and if you allowed that, youre probably to be blamed too. Move on, you may want to read the millions of articles on here about No Contact Link to post Share on other sites
Author ain5053 Posted June 24, 2014 Author Share Posted June 24, 2014 Oh but you do care OP. Just cut all the foolishness out and move on. He was obsessed with you? sounds stupid. No one should be obsessed with another person, and if you allowed that, youre probably to be blamed too. Move on, you may want to read the millions of articles on here about No Contact No, I honestly did move on. And I did read about NC. But I believe NC is only relevant as long as you still care. I am very interested in a new man I am seeing and I am very confident in myself, I am independent and not very emotional, at least I definitely know how to keep it under control at all times. By "obsessed" I meant he became very clingy, even possessive as soon as I moved away and we started the LDR. It was almost unbearable, but it was just a challenge to work with to try to maintain our relationship (it didn't work out). I am just surprised that he turned so cold! Especially that at first he wanted to remain friends, and I told him that wasn't an option. Just trying to understand his behavior for future reference more than anything. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 some day you'll look back on the time and energy and bandwidth you spent to write this thread and you'll realize it was 15 minutes of your life that you can never get back. Time and energy spent wondering why someone doesn't want to date you any more and trying to find "closure" with them and certainly time and energy spent trying to get back with them (I didn't say that's what you are trying to do now) Is all time and energy completely wasted. If you had taken the time and energy you spent on this thread and used it to squeeze into some tight shorts that are way to tight and too short and put on a little bit too much make up and batted your eyes and wiggled your butt at that cute guy you've been thinking about lately - that would be time and energy much better spent than on this guy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted June 24, 2014 Share Posted June 24, 2014 No, I honestly did move on. . No honestly you haven't if you are here talking about it instead of riding this new guy like a stolen horse. Moving on is moving forward with other things and not rehashing old business or wondering why someone is treating you the way he is. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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