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here's some texts between me and my girlfriend today

 

she said i was being a jerk

 

 

her: i want to watch 22 jump street

me: ok lets watch it

her: ok

me: tomorrow at 7:30 lets go

her: i cant im babysitting

me: ok tonight 7:20

her: i have plans

me: ok then you tell me when you are free then

me: nevermind... saturday night we are going..its settled

 

 

was i being a jek?

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When did she say you were being a jerk? Seemed like a harmless exchange to me. At most, given what you've shared and me grasping, perhaps she was wanting you to ask her to the movie right then and there? IDK....:o

 

Jerk? No.

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When did she say you were being a jerk? Seemed like a harmless exchange to me. At most, given what you've shared and me grasping, perhaps she was wanting you to ask her to the movie right then and there? IDK....:o

 

Jerk? No.

 

 

she said the whole, you tell me when you are free was jerkish

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she said the whole, you tell me when you are free was jerkish

 

 

no it wasnt...not to me anyway ...it was honest and up front....deb

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I don't see it as being a jerk. My guess is based on how she is feeling, she took it and got defensive.

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Nope, she needed to give you a time and she was being evasive with a time to go. I thought you were fine. Not a jerk at all.

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I don't see anything in the slightest wrong with your exchange, you are not a jerk but your gf is super sensitive.....are her plans secret??

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her: i want to watch 22 jump street

me: ok lets watch it

her: ok

me: tomorrow at 7:30 lets go

her: i cant im babysitting

me: ok tonight 7:20

her: i have plans

me: ok then you tell me when you are free then

me: nevermind... saturday night we are going..its settled

 

That was all fine....up until the bolded part, which is where it got jerky.

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here's some texts between me and my girlfriend today

 

she said i was being a jerk

 

 

her: i want to watch 22 jump street

me: ok lets watch it

her: ok

me: tomorrow at 7:30 lets go

her: i cant im babysitting

me: ok tonight 7:20

her: i have plans

me: ok then you tell me when you are free then

me: nevermind... saturday night we are going..its settled

 

 

was i being a jek?

 

You got to be confident in your actions as a man. if you know that your actions are not rude, no one can tell you any different.

Dont second guess yourself

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Just like with any text, the choice of words can be interpreted/taken the wrong way. She probably thought you were getting frustrated about finding the movie times and said that in anger (Idk if you really were frustrated or not or if that's just how you say it). Next time, you can instead ask "Well, what is your schedule like, then?" which is a nice alternative response that gets you what you want without sounding harsh, so you can plan around that.

 

Did she have a problem with the last part, about deciding for yourself that you were both going on Saturday? If she thought you were a jerk about that, that could be another problem there.

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That was all fine....up until the bolded part, which is where it got jerky.

 

me: nevermind... saturday night we are going..its settled

 

Yeah, maybe this. She could have construed this as you being impatient in the end and deciding for her.

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lol ahh you definitely weren't being a jerk. She's being ridiculous.

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