Justaguy30 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I am having a really tough day, after speaking to my ex I just feel depressed and all the feelings I previously had are circling in my head. I am just a mess today. I called into work because I didn't feel like I would preform to the highest of my abilities. I just want closure with her but I don't think ill ever get it. She wouldn't even admit she is dating a new guy even though I have seen them driving around town together. Its just messing up my mind.
Mcnulty Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 As the cliche goes, "closure can only come from within". Don't revisit old wounds. If she isn't telling you the truth, then you are a back up plan...do you want to be that or do you want to be free from the suffocation?
Author Justaguy30 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 I know I am a backup plan, I was always a backup plan. The only reason she wanted to talk to me that night is because I assume her boyfriend broke up with her. She just needed a shoulder to cry on, she said that someday maybe we would be together again and I said there is no way because if you need to wait until someday after everything else failed and I am just your backup then no I would never want you. It just feels like **** that she still treats me like I don't matter. If she was actually worried about me she wouldn't have waited that long to contact me. If she actually gave a **** none of this would have happened.
Author Justaguy30 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 How do I free myself from her power, I found myself waiting for her to call me last night because I asked her too because I wanted to talk some more so I could find more closure but she never did. That really hurt me, is it too much to call someone who was there for you every day while you treated them like dog ****. I don't think so. How do I free myself from this emotional prison!
organizedchaos Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 How do I free myself from her power, I found myself waiting for her to call me last night because I asked her too because I wanted to talk some more so I could find more closure but she never did. That really hurt me, is it too much to call someone who was there for you every day while you treated them like dog ****. I don't think so. How do I free myself from this emotional prison! Go no contact! Block her number. Then you know its impossible for her to call so it frees your mind from wandering. 4
Purepony Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 It's very simple go no contact and move on from this mysery
Zahara Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 How do I free myself from her power, I found myself waiting for her to call me last night because I asked her too because I wanted to talk some more so I could find more closure but she never did. That really hurt me, is it too much to call someone who was there for you every day while you treated them like dog ****. I don't think so. How do I free myself from this emotional prison! Your last thread was about her cheating on you with at least 50 other men. The closure you need comes from you accepting that: 1. This is not what you desire in your life. 2. This is the way you deserve to be treated. 3. This is not someone you want in your life. 4. This is not the relationship you seek for your life. 5. This is not the standards you strive for in a partner. SHE CANNOT GIVE YOU THE CLOSURE YOU SEEK. IT HAS TO COME FROM YOU. I am not sure what closure you are seeking from her. You keep trying to get validation from her. She cannot give you that. She never respected you then, she doesn't respect or even love you now. Stop trying to seek comfort from her when she has continuously caused you pain. Please seek some counselling because it's obvious this has done a number on you. It's not normal that you are still seeking her out to help you gain closure when everything is smack dab right infront of you. BLOCK HER. 4
Author Justaguy30 Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 I am actually going to start therapy tomorrow. This defiantly damaged me in ways I could never explain. She messed me up BIG TIME! 3
Reels Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 It happens, you may not be able to figure out what she is doing until she tell you.
jbelle6 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I swear some of you all are emotional masochists. I didn't even need to read on here to go no contact, it just came naturally. Why would you want to talk to her? I remember how crushed I felt that first day of the breakup, speaking to her must make you go right back there. I am NEVER going back there.
somegoodman Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I swear some of you all are emotional masochists. I didn't even need to read on here to go no contact, it just came naturally. Why would you want to talk to her? I remember how crushed I felt that first day of the breakup, speaking to her must make you go right back there. I am NEVER going back there. It comes from having a lack of options. That's why it's important not to throw all your eggs in one basket, a hard lesson to learn.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 It comes from having a lack of options. That's why it's important not to throw all your eggs in one basket, a hard lesson to learn. He's throwing his eggs in a basket that's raided by vagrants daily. 2
Author Justaguy30 Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 I have not thrown my eggs in her basket per say in a long time. Even when we were together I barely threw my eggs in her basket. Which is what lead to us breaking up. I can't not have sex with my partner. The number one sign someone is cheating is if they all of a sudden don't want sex anymore. If it happens you can pretty much assume its over. 1
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