Did you marry your spouse after dating him/her for just a short period of time?

[Miss Awesome]

How did you tell your family and/or friends about it? How did they react?

 

On the flip side, has any one of your family or friends gotten married after dating his/her spouse for just a short period of time? How did they tell you about it? How did you react?

 

Thanks!

[todreaminblue]

my nanna and grandpa a life long romance......her second marriage

[compulsivedancer]

How long is short to you?

[todreaminblue]

How long is short to you?

 

 

life is short to me......eternal.....long like.....forever....lol i am pretty sure it was months only that my grandparents got married

[yajiuma]

It was "relatively" a short time I suppose- just over 10 months from first date to marriage. I was working overseas and married a local guy. I told my Mum I was getting married over the phone and of course she freaked out!

 

I guess my friends and family were shocked because I was viewed as "very careful and sensible" and to go off and marry some guy I'd just met in foreign country at the local district office was out of character for me. A lot of people thought I was pregnant

 

Luckily for me he turned out to be a fantastic life partner! Still going strong after 16 years

[Miss Awesome]

How long is short to you?

 

 

Six months, give or take.

[Clockwork]

I got engaged to my wife after 13 months. I guess that's pretty quick these days since everyone is afraid of commitment. We got married 6 months after that. So 19 months in total from first date to married.

 

No one freaked out. Everyone liked her, and her family liked me. It was one of those things that people thought that it wasn't going to be "if" but "when".

 

When you know, you don't waste time. I didn't. I knew. I hate to break it to people but it doesn't take a decade to find out if she's the "one".

[compulsivedancer]

I wouldn't say that was fast. It was probably on the faster side, but still in the normal range.

[devilish innocent]

A couple that my husband and I are friends with got married after about six to eight months of dating. We just treated it like we would any other wedding and never said anything to them. Behind their back, though, we were saying to each other that we wonder if they'll make it. They've been married over five years now, and seem to be fine so far. They did know each other for a while before they got married so that probably helped as well.

[Damaged217]

My parents got married after only 6 months of dating. They are still together after 45 years

[oldshirt]

I met a couple once that had been happily married for 8 years and had a couple kids. Both of them very successful, very outgoing and sociable, both very attractive and either could pick up whoever they wanted.

 

 

When they were 19 they went on their first date. During the date they both agreed that they had found "the one" and turned the car towards Vegas ( They are both from the Midwest) and drove all night to Vegas, got married and then came home and broke it to everyone.

 

 

Friends and family did freak out obviously and everyone said it would never last.

 

 

I only met them the one time so I don't know if it lasted much past the 8 year mark when I met them but they seemed perfectly happy and well adjusted to me at the time.

 

 

Would I recommend that approach? Obviously not but for some people it at least works for 8 years.

 

 

I've known lots of marriages that folded around the 8 yr mark regardless of how long they had dated.

[Miss Awesome]

I wouldn't say that was fast. It was probably on the faster side, but still in the normal range.

 

 

With all due respect, may I ask why you responded to this thread?

 

 

Everyone has different ideas about what is fast, so your question was pretty irrelevant. And you didn't even answer the question.

 

 

Of course this is the internet where I know people do whatever they want. I'm just curious why you responded..

[Poppygoodwill]

We got married at about 14 months from first date. I agree with the poster who said you don't need 10 years to know if it's 'the one'. I never believed in that whole "you know it when it happens to you" but it was true. After four months or so I was thinking about marrying him - something I had never considered with any of the live-in bfs I'd had over the years. Two month smight be enough for some to know, and twenty years might never be enough for others.