I'm really scared of getting hurt again? And I think I just blew it with him?

[KaliLove]

It sounds like he was having fun flirting with you but when push came to shove, he just wasn't all that interested..maybe it was personal, or maybe it's because he doesn't want something long distance..there are plenty of things it could be.

 

For the record, he also sounds like kind of a jerk..his reaction to your flirty comment about watching a game together was rude, and his most recent texts were extremely rude. I wouldn't waste any tears on this one.

[LifeandPerseverance]

Finally heard from him Monday. I was kind of happy, but also just kind of pissed.

His schedule is still messed up this week as they did not send him home, as his company had promised.

 

I finally said "I don't understand you." And explained what I meant. About how I never know where I stand with him. His reply: "I'd say as a friend because I don't know if you could be any more than that at this point."

 

Now, the way I READ THAT: "I'm only interested in you as a friend. Period." The way apparently *he* actually meant that: "You're 1900 miles away at the moment. Of course you really can't be more than that at this exact moment in time."

His next comment, "I do really like you though." and "Maybe not to the extent you do I think, but yes."

I finally mentioned the online dating (I probably shouldn't have, but I was smart and only mentioned the one profile--the one anyone could have found by googling his snap name). He's like "Forgive me for using technology to meet people in a new town where I knew absolutely no one. lol" When I mentioned what website it was, he actually said, "Huh I thought I deleted that one." (HELLO DUDE I'm not STUPID, it says when you were last online.) I asked if he had other ones too (He doesn't know I know). He was straight up about those.

 

The conversation ended when he was going to bed. I asked since he has WiFi all week (not typical for him at home), if he could Skype or facetime me sometime this week. His response? "Possibly". That was Monday. It's now Wednesday. I've heard not a word.

I saw a video yesterday that reminded me about the rivalry he and I ALWAYS have going, and I sent it to him as a message on fb--He opened it. Never responded.

Now, did I just have my a** handed to me, or what happened? I probably shouldn't have mentioned the dating site, should I?

[ThorntonMelon]

Don't beat yourself. He's not that into you, you did nothing wrong (if you'd handled it perfectly you'd be in the exact same place) and you'll get over it soon.