Emilia Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 i dont seek out his company. i'm not some pathetic fool. i have my pride and self respect too. i also dont glare at them. in fact i'm the opposite. i'll go about doing my own thing and talk to others happily chatting (to other females and not necessarily men) and laughing and i catch him looking over. i dont find excuses to call him or go over to his desk. That's what he does to me. When the monster sees him approach me, she comes out of nowhere and dominates and yields him away. (GemmaUK - have you ever watched the reality series The Bachelor? In each season there is the one girl none of the other girls can stand and for good reason not just jealousy) Good for you. Unless he is your boss, you shouldn't find it difficult to reduce contact with him to zero or almost zero. People manage to avoid each other in the office. If he keeps turning up at your desk for a spurious reasons, tell him that you are busy and arrange a mutually suitable time to discuss work matters. That will put an end to it. Just act reserved and unavailable. The fact that you call her a monster shows that you are emotionally invested in this, you must build a distance to put an end to that. 1
giblesp Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Sounds like he's a fear filled boy. A man who's doing something with his life, doesn't bother with these games. He knows what he wants and gos for it. Such a person would be relatively stable in a relationship. 1
Author fifipheebs Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 So what if this guy in the past always initiated contact (which would make sense bcz we are friends) however lately, it seems to me like I'm the one having to put in effort. He responds immediately, but after about 7 back and forths he let's the convo die. Example: he will respond to my statement with a statement like ha good one. I then wait for him to pick up by asking me a question but he doesn't. Aeems like he only replied to be courteous. Do you guys find yourselves ever doing that to female friends you have no intention of going the distance with?
Diezel Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL Someone realize they wanted their cake and to eat it too? So he tried with you, you threw him into the Friendzone and NOW you want to bring him back out because someone else entered the picture. CLASSIC. But, it's his fault. OF COURSE. If it were me, I'd be doing the SAME thing, specially if we worked together, because if we didn't work together, I'd definitely not even be talking to you anymore. I'm sure had this "monster" not showed up at all on the scene, he'd still be securely orbiting the Zone of Friends. "The games men play". AGAIN: LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL 1
MissBee Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Hes not into you. Give up on him and just stay friends. Ditto. He's not into you or he's an ass. Either way I wouldn't be bothered with it. You can't stop him from acting like that so just leave it and him alone to do what he pleases. A man who in fact is into you and is not a child wouldn't be doing that. 1
SmartDude Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I'm not quite sure if I'm understanding this right, but if he came onto you and you shot him down, you can't blame him for moving on to someone else. Ha, women do this all the time its hilarious... You can try and make a move on them and if they don't feel all warm and fuzzy inside about it...They will reject you and hope you try again. 1
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