Elle1975 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I was at the dog park this morning. I see those two guys getting out of their respective cars. They were both wearing orange jerseys shirts, so I work up the courage to ask where they were heading to the first guy - I want to meet someone, and get out of my comfort zone. They were there to play soccer (GO USA!) Anyway.. The second guy comes over.. and oh my god.. he's a ginger! A few years older than me which is great, no ring, and obviously in shape. I love red hair ( I do, I do!). He talked to me for a bit and on my way I went. I plan on going back there next Sunday and say hi again. Problem is, I am super self conscious about my .. teeth. I am seeing a dentist, and I am taking care of the problem (gap between my teeth and discoloration), but it's going to take time. It's not like I look like a dare devil.. but yeah.. can't wait for the problem to get fixed. I practice good hygiene and I don't have bad breath or "stuff" on my teeth (sorry about the details..). My friends tell me it's not bad, but they are my friends. I am not blind. I know it's a huge turn off to a lot of people, and I totally understand why. Nothing else is wrong with me. I have been working out,, so that's my only issue. I just don't know if I should wait a few weeks to approach the guy again or go for it? He was friendly and I really don't plan on smiling.. I suppose my other question is.. should I just not date at all till the problem gets fixed (2 to 3 months).
rns4lyfe Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Go for it! You are correcting the issues after all, a potential Bf will understand and not judge you. Have you tried gargling with water and peroxide? It whitens teeth fast imo. 1
jbelle6 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Oh, I would go for it if I were you. I also have to say that I got the zoom whitening done and I loved it. Now I have the trays at home and touch up whenever I need it. Just mentioning that because if the discoloration is holding you back it could be fixed in an afternoon. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 i know if you want to pick a good horse you look at its teeth to see if it is good or if a horse chews the top of poles it is a possible wind sucker,and way back when, they used to get slaves to open their mouths for inspection before picking them, strong teeth strong slave, and as far as i know you are human not a horse and we arent in the dark ages of slavery so....... ....so go for it....smilin...good luck and hopefully you meet a decent guy who cares about who you are and not the fact being if you are a windsucker or not.......deb 1
jbelle6 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 i know if you want to pick a good horse you look at its teeth to see if it is good or if a horse chews the top of poles it is a possible wind sucker,and way back when, they used to get slaves to open their mouths for inspection before picking them, strong teeth strong slave, and as far as i know you are human not a horse and we arent in the dark ages of slavery so....... ....so go for it....smilin...good luck and hopefully you meet a decent guy who cares about who you are and not the fact being if you are a windsucker or not.......deb You always have sweet advice. 1
Author Elle1975 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 Okay =) I will try the advice given. I have, for the most part, my real teeth. My dentist say it's fixable. I hate the freaking gap between my teeth. I don't mind bad teeth (to a point), my ex had filling on ALL of his teeth. I had never seen that, but it didn't bother me. Did you know he never smiled to me? Like a full smile showing his teeth. To this day I wonder why.
yajiuma Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 My teeth are not beautiful by any stretch of the imagination-fillings,gappy, uneven although they are naturally a nice white color(go figure!) Sooo many self-confidence issues because of my teeth growing up. I even used to have nightmares about embarrassing social situations revolving around my teeth frequently as a young adult. My Mum who raised me was not financially in a situation to do anything to help me. Here's the kicker- this did NOT stop guys from being attracted to me. Although admittedly I grew up in the 80/90's in Australia where there was not such a fixation on having perfect, pearly whites like in American culture. I have the financial means to fix my teeth cosmetically if I wanted to now, but my husband who has an incredibly beautiful smile/set of teeth himself is quite adamant that I keep my original imperfect arrangement. He says he loves my fangs, and that it gives me a unique character and was one of the reasons he fell in love with me! You are in the process of getting them fixed- that's great! but please don't let any perceived "imperfect beauty" issues be the reason to hold back in potential romantic situations. You may be surprised how unimportant it all is in the big picture of things. 1
WrinkledForehead Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I think a gap between teeth is quite adorable on a woman. I know a lot of people notice teeth but there are a lot of people who are forgiving of things like this. I think I'd notice that you don't smile way before I'd judge you for your teeth. It can be something casually mentioned in conversation. Try not to let your lack of confidence about it show. After all, you are getting it fixed. Go for it. I say flirt, try to get his phone number. Don't wait for 3 months because you never know what could happen in that time. Today is the here and now. Give it a shot. 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 It depends on your whole appearance and your mouth, It's just impossible to say without your throwing up a pic for us to see of your mouth/smile of how "bad" it is...which from what you're saying doesn't sound like an issue. Otherwise it's clearly your insecurity since that's the first thing you are going to think about as a possible negative, you have no idea whether this guy will actually care or not, if he's attracted to you that's the difference maker...I would just keep hanging out and doing what you normally do, take your dog out there and see if you can strike up more conversation or what not...just be friendly, no harm in that. You're also getting this fixed, so it's not going to be an issue in the future if it was one now...how old are anyway? having you been dealing with this for most of your life by now? 1
Candy_Pants Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I love the gap some women have in their front teeth!! 1
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