alexwood Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 i'm just curious... especially if no cheating was involved. say a girl dumped a guy because she was getting bored an dthe guy took it hard and said a few mean things, or the guy dumped the girl because he was bored and she said things then they went a few months without talking but then slowly started talking and hanging out. could they possibly get back together? or did the bad breakup ruin it? can enough time pass to where they can try it out again
greenbee81 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 All humans and relationships are different so it's hard to say. Most people here will say no, some will say it's possible.
jbelle6 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I always say it depends. Sometimes I think there is more of a chance if it was a hard breakup after a fight of some sort, that could be worked through. It's when there is no fighting at all, just a gradual loss of feelings on one of their parts until all the feelings are gone that I feel there is no hope.
mtnbiker3000 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Won't work if the issues haven't been addressed and worked through. And that takes time and a very serious effort. Just talking a few months later will only fall apart again. It's only a matter of time...
ktya Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 i'm just curious... especially if no cheating was involved. say a girl dumped a guy because she was getting bored an dthe guy took it hard and said a few mean things, or the guy dumped the girl because he was bored and she said things then they went a few months without talking but then slowly started talking and hanging out. could they possibly get back together? or did the bad breakup ruin it? can enough time pass to where they can try it out again I dont know. I was dating this hot girl back in february and she in an unexpected explosion broke it off with me for bizarre reasons (i saw her on pof and commented that she put up another profile, then she blasted me for being on pof). It was quite a feiry conversation in the end and i deleted her number. Got her number back and just went on a date with her a week ago, didnt get her back in the sack or anything but it went well and were talking regularly again. Never know thats what i say.
leavesonautumn Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Is it possible? Yes. Does this mean that you should? NO. There are a very few amount of people who can recover from a breakup, whether it was "good" or "bad". After what feels like 100 breakups with the same person, I will tell you it's not worth it. Move on, you'll find someone who deserves you. 1
somecamel Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 7 Billion people on this planet, why would you want to? 3
David87 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 7 Billion people on this planet, why would you want to? Because OP likes to be comfortable .
Elle1975 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I feel that if there is not "true" reasons, it's even harder to get back together. My ex used the word "spark" when he explained his reasons for the break up to his best friend (his best friend reached out to me a couple days ago, that's how I know). So.. he said "we don't fight, we resolve our issue, we get along" (same thing he served me).. "but there is no spark". Which actually translates in me not having major issues needing fixing, since he always meet girls with major issues, fight, break up, and move to the next relationship. My convo with his friend was an eye opener; I just wish I would have known he was in a pattern. I would have run away. So, how do you fix that? The spark that is. If he didn't feel it then, it won't feel it now. So in short, no, she probably won't be back. If there wasn't any "true" problems, like cheating, fighting, etc.. Move on, find the right girl for you. 3
Emilia Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 i'm just curious... especially if no cheating was involved. say a girl dumped a guy because she was getting bored an dthe guy took it hard and said a few mean things, or the guy dumped the girl because he was bored and she said things then they went a few months without talking but then slowly started talking and hanging out. could they possibly get back together? or did the bad breakup ruin it? can enough time pass to where they can try it out again Well the boredom will keep popping up because clearly they aren't compatible so no it's not possible.
PhillyConnection23 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Yes it is possible. But ask yourself, do you really want to waste time and energy on someone that got bored with you? 1
d0nnivain Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Yes, they can but it's unlikely. Unless the issues that caused the break up are resolved, what's the point? My college BF & her high school BF broke up senior year of college. They were apart for over a year but still had to encounter each other because their families lived next door. They got back together after about a year while they were both living in another state -- him for grad school & her because fortuitously that is where she got a job. They have been married for over 20 years at this point.
Simon Phoenix Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Yes it can. But the odds against it are pretty overwhelming.
writergal Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Deciding to get back together after a breakup is a totally personal decision between the two people. But I'd say no, it's not a good idea to get back together with an ex. Once that relationship is over there's no going back. Why would you want to?
dramafreeman Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Deciding to get back together after a breakup is a totally personal decision between the two people. But I'd say no, it's not a good idea to get back together with an ex. Once that relationship is over there's no going back. Why would you want to? disagree.. maybe the guy wasnt putting in effort...he could chang ethat ya know
writergal Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 disagree.. maybe the guy wasnt putting in effort...he could chang ethat ya know Yeahhhh...no. I'm gonna stick with my belief that once it's done, there's no going back. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, you have boobs. It's really that simple.
sugarlove Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 When someone chooses to break up with you, they have shown that they no longer value you in their life. THat means how you feel, what you are doing etc etc. So if you truly value yourself, you have to accept that it is his loss for not seeing what a great catch you are. Because someone will! Taking an ex back is thinking people can change. Well, they don't. Especially not in a few months. Years perhaps. By then, you would have moved on to a better guy. It'll happen, life has a funny way of working things out. If he breaks up with you, he is not The One. True soulmates do not break up, they work things through. So don't waste them waiting for him, your life is precious.
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