Ryan52 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 My ex girlfriend and I dated for 2 years but left me for another man. We broke up over a year ago and I have not seen her since then. She is still with her boyfriend for over a year. When we broke up, I saw her and her bf and his family together 3 days after the BU. I was so mad that I asked most of my friends to defriend her on facebook. I was tired of them updating me on her life. Most of them deleted her since they were my friends. She became friends with all of them through me but they are my childhood friends and roommates. Fast forward 6 months after BU, we get in contact and she tried to make me mad and jealous of her BF. She said she new the BU looked bad because how fast things were moving with her bf. She said she has something so special she can't even explain it. A day later she texts me a nice message about my dog who died after unblocking me on facebook. A day after that, she was pissed that my best friend deleted her on facebook (I didn't ask him to). He got tired of seeing her and her bf. He said it was sad to see it. She then threatens me with a restraining order for no reason. 3 months later she unblocked my facebook for no reason. But then reblocked me 2 weeks later. 2 months later she goes on a date with her bf and a mutual friend. My ex asks the mutual friend about me and how I'm doing infront of her current bf. My mutual friend said it was awkward for my ex's new bf. A month after this she unblocks me on facebook again but does nothing for a month. This is where she sends me an email saying sorry for my dog who died. She said sorry before (look above) about 9 months previous. I reply saying a nice message and we should catch up sometime. She then replies saying she didn't think I would reply because I'm still mad her. She was shocked by my positivity. But she says she can't catch up because it's disrespectful to her bf (yet she contacts me after 9 months NC while in a LTR?). But an hour later she ends up calling me and we catch up. Then she tells me once we hang up, we can't talk because she has a bf. She was concerned on how I felt about her. She didn't want me to be angry with her. She said the phone call was a closure call (like the dumper who is in LTR needs closure a year later?) But a day later I tell her I care about her but she's being selfish by contacting me when she wants. I tell her it's not fair to me and she needs to own up to a bunch of things if she wants me in her life again. Our mutual friend decided to talk to my ex and tell her she can't contact me because it's not fair to me and so on. My ex says no problem. But I message my ex 1 week later asking for a name of someone I can contact about donating money and supplies for a charity. My ex decided to block me on facebook instead of replying. Then 2 months later my ex sees a friend of mine and goes up to him. She calls him a-hole for defriending her. She was crying. She tried to refriend and talk to a lot of my friends throughout the BU. But she really doesn't have many friends of her own. Why can't she see a lot of this is her doing? She said the BU looked bad but can't apologize for how things went down. She just says sorry about my dog which she had nothing to do about. She blames me for my best friends not beig friendly with her. Maybe the BU looked bad to them too?? She's trying to facebook friend some of my friends who she hasn't seen in about 2 years which makes no sense to me. Yet I'm still blocked on facebook.
ktya Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 She sounds like a basket case. She still has feelings for you and is fighting with the new bf, probably over her obsession with you and your friends. Her new bf is getting a wack version of the story on the breakup, he probably heard what a jerk you were to her and all this and that, hence the weird restraining order (what it sounds like is needed is a no contact order for you against her) My recent ex was something like this although not as roller coaster. She told her family and new bf that i was a raging abusive alcoholic nutbar. But she wanted me back once i started dating. She was scouring my emails as she still knew my password, she was talking to me every other day (i thought we had the best breakup ever until she called the cops on me as i was worried when she suddenly went off grid for no reason) and was coaching the kid about all the girls i was dating. Eventually she showed up here with the cops to get the last of her things, it was actually a bit comical although the delayed emotional reaction was one of a lot of hurt on my end. They almost always find a reason to blame the dumpee no matter how ignorant their reason for leaving was. Main reason mine left? She coached the kid on what to say about moving out and the kid was actually saying it - to everybody - and seeing as we had decided to work things out i asked if she could talk to the kid because it was getting to be too much, but i didnt want to contradict her so it was a job only she could do. She started screaming at me and left that night i didnt even raize my voice until she went down to wake up the kid at 1030. I dont know why, its quite cruel. Initiate a breakup which is always charged feelings then trash the hell out of the victim of your actions. I think in your case she realized she walked away from a good thing, shes fighting with the boyfriend but shes in too deep to unwind it and get you back. Dont take the bait and let her flio back from he new boyfriend back to you. Make her stay single for a while. 1
SpiritualAlchemy Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 She still has feelings for you. She wanted to make sure you're ok so she can feel less guilty for dumping you. She is also worried about her reputation with your friends. Ignore her. Block her. Don't contact her again. Don't even bother telling your friends not to have contact. Tell the mutual friend to stay out of it. The best thing to do is treat her like she's dead. The best revenge is carrying on with your life and being happy. 1
David87 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 She needed an ego boost, she got it and left. Next time she unblocks you block her forever and move on. 3
Author Ryan52 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 She needed an ego boost, she got it and left. Next time she unblocks you block her forever and move on. We'll if she needed a boost, it shows that she's not happy. This was seen when she was crying infront of my friends.
Author Ryan52 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 Well just went on facebook and her picture popped up on people you may know. So she unblocked me again.
d0nnivain Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 What happens on FB is fake. It shouldn't matter IRL. Your EX sounds immature. How old are you too? If you are out of college, this woman needs serious help. If you are young, you both need to grow up. I say that not to be mean, but with some perspective you will see how silly / nonsensical this sounds You block her on FB. Do whatever to your feed that stuff about her doesn't pop up. Let your friends make their own decisions about who to be friends with on FB But understand that her throwing her BF in your face is solely because she wants the ego boost of getting a rise out of you. 2
Author Ryan52 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 What happens on FB is fake. It shouldn't matter IRL. Your EX sounds immature. How old are you too? If you are out of college, this woman needs serious help. If you are young, you both need to grow up. I say that not to be mean, but with some perspective you will see how silly / nonsensical this sounds You block her on FB. Do whatever to your feed that stuff about her doesn't pop up. Let your friends make their own decisions about who to be friends with on FB But understand that her throwing her BF in your face is solely because she wants the ego boost of getting a rise out of you. We are both out of college. The whole facebook thing is very immature and it really doesn't phase me anymore. Yea I knew she wante to get a rise out of me when she shoved her bf in my face so I acted calm and wished her well. That's why she contacted me the next day acting so kind to me. But this was about 11 months ago. Her actions don't make sense. I don't think her current bf would like his gf constantly (randomly) blocking and unblocking her ex, calling him after 9 months of NC and asking about him. But their relationship is none of my business. 1
Smilecharmer Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Maybe you need some professional counseling if you are still this stuck after a year. Go NC and don't contact or look at her online media. Your relationship is dead. She just likes the attention.
Zahara Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 We are both out of college. The whole facebook thing is very immature and it really doesn't phase me anymore. Yea I knew she wante to get a rise out of me when she shoved her bf in my face so I acted calm and wished her well. That's why she contacted me the next day acting so kind to me. But this was about 11 months ago. Her actions don't make sense. I don't think her current bf would like his gf constantly (randomly) blocking and unblocking her ex, calling him after 9 months of NC and asking about him. But their relationship is none of my business. Really? Count the many times you have followed her in this process of FB blocking and unblocking. And the fact that you're posting on a forum and noting that she has unblocked you again is good enough reason to say that it does affect you. If it didn't, blocking her would be no sweat off your back. Their relationship is none of your business and yet you keep engaging in her. You tell her it's not fair to contact you and she agrees and then you contact her about donating supplies to a charity? You and I know that was a lame attempt to make contact. Block her and move on from this. More than a year has gone by and you're still invested in this immature drama. 1
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