conzboneeus Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 (edited) Belong to singles group. Went to outdoor concert Friday early eve where I met a woman and we hit it off. I told her after event I was heading to a bar to see my friends band play if she wasn't doing anything to stop in then I left. She actually showed up an hour later and we had a good time, danced, talked. End of night we walked back to cars I didn't hit her up for her number or anything we were both going to same party next night we said we'd see each other there, but it was like neither one of us really wanted to go and it wasn't my imagination I'm no dating rookie. Party comes, she comes two hours late, she basically talked to everyone but me, and ends up outside with some guy privately on a bench talking for quite a while. Still there when I left. So much for what I thought, lol! I pouted, called her names on way home for 15 minutes (I'm human was a little hurt) but once home hit the "next contestant please" button and was good. Except this morning I get this email from her, through some website we're both on cause she doesn't have my email or number, saying she hoped I had a good time at the party (oh man that pissed me off!) and that she had a good time Friday night with me and if I wanted someone to go see a band with she would like to go. Uh? So does this girl think I am actually going to ask her out after treating me like a crash test dummy last night? Lol, she should just have said "Hi Loser" instead of using my name when she wrote the mail. I so want to reply with..well basically what I wrote above. Do I have a big L on my head and did you just seriously write me this email? But.......I will see her with this group often so I have to tread carefully. What in the world are women thinking when they do this? Do they know how insulting this is to a guy? Like I need her to make me feel better? Not replying will make be look like a whiny pouty beeatch. So I guess I a happy horse**** reply about how I enjoyed the party very much, thank you for asking, and that I will definitely hit her up to go out. I write those "drink the kool aid" emails at work so I can do it. That being said, I just spent 30 minutes writing this and if I really didn't like this girl or cared I wouldn't have wasted the time on this topic. I hate when a woman gets to me! Ahhhhhhh! You're all evil minions of Satan! But I love you anyway..... Edited June 22, 2014 by conzboneeus
ktya Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 You didnt ask for her number or kiss her. She figures you friendzoned her. 1
spiderowl Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 She could be really shy, like me, and find it very hard to talk to the guy she's attracted to. She was probably hoping you'd go over and say hello, thus confirming that you did like her. I know it seems irrational.
Author conzboneeus Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 Thanks. I did talk to her for a few minutes then some girl interrupted us so I walked away figured I go back when she was free but she ended up outside away from the party. I still think she mailed because she felt bad after we hung Friday night but obviously was more interested in this other guy Friday night. It's okay I replied nicely since she didn't mention the party I didn't and I even went a step further and said do I have to find a band as an excuse to get together again. I'm not shy. So if she was writing cause she wants to get together I'll know soon enough. Like I said I still think it was just because she knew she ignored me and felt bad. Sure she is a nice girl but by no means the only one!
Wisecrack Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 In our life when meeting woman, there will always be that one moment that either turns you into lovers or gets you friendzoned. You sir, should have gotten her number and kissed her the first time. Act on impulse and don't let that conscious stop you. Beware that should you try to pursue this woman, the challenges you face ahead of you will be hard.
GemmaUK Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 You didnt ask for her number or kiss her. She figures you friendzoned her. This. And at the party you went over but then walked away and didn't stick around. Parties are a place where people mingle and it's fine to have more than two people in a conversation at the same time. I think she likes you..from her mail. However, if she knew that you had pouted and called her names she wouldn't have sent that mail. I dated a guy who pouted a lot and in public too. Big sulker he was and it was always all about him. My happiness wasn't a consideration to him. He did things which I was supposed to like because previous girlfriends of his liked them. He couldn't understand that I was me and that I wasn't just the same as any previous girlfriends. I really liked him too, almost fell for him, but soon realised it was never going to work out. I was always always always in the wrong. Mostly over totally ridiculous things!
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