blackpajamas Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 I know that sounds like an oxymoron, but this is exactly what this was. We had been dating for about two months, things were always pretty good. Never any real arguments or anything like that. Yes we had sex, fairly frequently. Communication was always good, and we hung out at least once or twice a week since she lived a half hour away. Today she told me that her feelings hadn't progressed since we started dating, and that she didn't want to lead me on by continuing to talk/hang out with me. I told her I had started to feel that a few days ago when she was a little cold to me after a date. Told her I understood and would walk away. Naturally she said she wanted to remain friends, I told her that it could happen but I would need time to process things and figure everything out. She said she understood. I've deleted her number, and unfollowed her on facebook. I've also blocked my own access to Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat, social media in general. I figure it's a good idea to take at least a week break and focus on my feelings and processing the breakup. I decided against deleting her on social media because it seemed a bit rash and rather mean/immature. I have done what I can to limit seeing what she is up to obviously. She's a nice girl and was very legit and straight up with me and didn't lead me on, unless you count the three days between our date and me asking if something was up. This was probably the most adult break-up I've ever had. That established, I still feel like ****. I'm planning on working out a little bit more and hanging out with my friends again. Anyone have any other good ideas I should be doing to help me cope? I know two months isn't a long time but we were on the cusp of something serious and I think that loss of potential is probably what's hurting me the most right now.
jbelle6 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Amicable doesn't mean that it wasn't one sided so it's understandable that you feel the way you do. I was with my ex a year and half, our breakup was amicable but it wasn't mutual so I am in no contact and will be for a while. I still think he is a very lovely person.
triniechu Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Yeah I'm going through the same thing. Our relationship was 2 1/2 years and he said his feelings changed. Obviously my feelings are quite strong for him but I have decided to let go. If we were to become friends in the future, we would really need the time and space apart. Regardless of the hurt, I hope he find someone to make him happy. He was such an amazing guy. 1
Author blackpajamas Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 Yeah, I understand that our breakup was amicable, but it was obviously one-sided. I had no desire to stop seeing her. Today is day 1 after the breakup and I don't feel very good about myself. I tossed everything that reminded me of her, but my brain is finding good ways of taking minor things and twisting them around so I do remember her. I've let her go, but it's the loss that's killing me now. I'm a teacher, so I have my summer off and outside of doing some side work and working out, I was planning on spending most of my time with her. It just sucks to have lost that. I'm in hardcore grieving mode right now.
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