People thinking my bf is a lowlife liar

[rana-rana]

WOW I haven’t been on here in a hot minute. I miss u LOVESHACK LOL.

 

Alright here’s what happened. We met at a party and started dating in feb and it was all good up til last month when things started getting type weird.

 

He didn’t have a job when we met but he told me how he was gonna hustle to get one because he feels I’m worth it. I just say ‘papi, just do u, as long as u pull your weight we good’ I’m not that kind of girl to bitch about stuff like that. He says he loves me more for it.

 

So now…lets call him Mike cuz I know we cant be using real names on here right? LOL so anyways Mike gets a job at Duane Reade as the asst mgr. So I’m like congrats he really trying to do things for himself.

 

But when we go out he says he had to pay bills and can I get his back? I tell him ‘papi, I got u, no worry okay, bebe?’ and we good for a little bit, but then I’m paying for **** every time and that aint right.

 

My homegirl thinks he trying to take advantage of me cuz I work at Macy’s now but its not like I’m really kicking in the money like that right? Its just part time.

 

So we have a little talk about pulling his weight. He says ‘I got u bebe’ and I’m like good, but then I hear from another friend that works downtown tells me that Mike don’t work at no Duane Reade.

 

I’m going ‘uh-oh, something not right’ but I try not to press it. I say to myself maybe they got the wrong Duane Reade LOL. It’s a bunch of stores like that in Manhattan right?

 

So I ask him about how’s the job going and he says ‘the boss is a hardass and he not paying him up his bread’ and so on. I leave it at that cuz I’m just not that kind of girl to be pressing my man like that.

 

So then he comes at me last week and says he quit the job and is now managing a shoe store in queens.

 

I’m like ‘Mida, that’s good, but u don’t gotta be a mgr for me, just do what u gotta do’ and he feeling all good now but other **** start popping up.

 

My mom comes home from work right and she tells me she sees him at the bus stop hitting up a girl and I don’t know what to think of that cuz he seems really into me but I tell my mom alright I got it.

 

Then my other friend tells me she sees him walking the avenues downtown with a book bag on his back and sitting in parks killing time and ****. I’m like ‘oh-no what’s this about?’ So now I press him and he’s getting all tight on me and he cant do this right now and he got all this stress and the job keeps ****ing with him and so on.

 

I say alright papi cuz I don’t wanna piss him off too much and he tells me I’m the world to him and how much he loves me and he don’t wanna lose me. We good, we good.

 

I care about him and all but I feel like I’m starting to not trust him cuz its like he keeps telling me how it’s the boss and how they lie to him about his duties and about the pay and how he gonna quit next week to become a mailman because he loves me and he wants to make a life with me.

 

He making me feel uncomfy right now because he keeps telling me so many things he’s gonna do or is doing but I don’t see nada and I tell him don’t worry about it but he wont listen and he keeps saying he gonna be a mailman now and make good money cuz it’s a govt job.

 

My mom is now telling me he might be living a double life cuz he was hitting up girls at the bus stops. I don’t know. And my friend telling me about him sitting in parks killing time and **** with a book bag on looking at people all day. This some really type weird **** if its true but I work and cant be there to see.

 

I don’t wanna just end things with my bebe because he telling me one thing and other people saying a different thing. They think he might not be Mike and I should ask for ID LOL.

 

But at the same time I hate being lied to if he’s lying to me and I don’t wanna look like a dummy cuz I tell u this now, mi madre no raise no dummies.

Edited June 22, 2014 by rana-rana
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[KathyM]

Sounds like he's lying to you about the job, and doesn't have a job, and is not really motivated to get a job, but is just telling you what you want to hear. Sounds like he's not very loyal either if he's hitting on girls at the bus stop. Surely, you can do better than him, and it's time to dump this guy.

[amaysngrace]

If more than one person says the same thing then there is probably some truth to it.

[Shaun-Dro]

WOW I haven’t been on here in a hot minute. I miss u LOVESHACK LOL.

 

Alright here’s what happened. We met at a party and started dating in feb and it was all good up til last month when things started getting type weird.

 

He didn’t have a job when we met but he told me how he was gonna hustle to get one because he feels I’m worth it. I just say ‘papi, just do u, as long as u pull your weight we good’ I’m not that kind of girl to bitch about stuff like that. He says he loves me more for it.

 

So now…lets call him Mike cuz I know we cant be using real names on here right? LOL so anyways Mike gets a job at Duane Reade as the asst mgr. So I’m like congrats he really trying to do things for himself.

 

But when we go out he says he had to pay bills and can I get his back? I tell him ‘papi, I got u, no worry okay, bebe?’ and we good for a little bit, but then I’m paying for **** every time and that aint right.

 

My homegirl thinks he trying to take advantage of me cuz I work at Macy’s now but its not like I’m really kicking in the money like that right? Its just part time.

 

So we have a little talk about pulling his weight. He says ‘I got u bebe’ and I’m like good, but then I hear from another friend that works downtown tells me that Mike don’t work at no Duane Reade.

 

I’m going ‘uh-oh, something not right’ but I try not to press it. I say to myself maybe they got the wrong Duane Reade LOL. It’s a bunch of stores like that in Manhattan right?

 

So I ask him about how’s the job going and he says ‘the boss is a hardass and he not paying him up his bread’ and so on. I leave it at that cuz I’m just not that kind of girl to be pressing my man like that.

 

So then he comes at me last week and says he quit the job and is now managing a shoe store in queens.

 

I’m like ‘Mida, that’s good, but u don’t gotta be a mgr for me, just do what u gotta do’ and he feeling all good now but other **** start popping up.

 

My mom comes home from work right and she tells me she sees him at the bus stop hitting up a girl and I don’t know what to think of that cuz he seems really into me but I tell my mom alright I got it.

 

Then my other friend tells me she sees him walking the avenues downtown with a book bag on his back and sitting in parks killing time and ****. I’m like ‘oh-no what’s this about?’ So now I press him and he’s getting all tight on me and he cant do this right now and he got all this stress and the job keeps ****ing with him and so on.

 

I say alright papi cuz I don’t wanna piss him off too much and he tells me I’m the world to him and how much he loves me and he don’t wanna lose me. We good, we good.

 

I care about him and all but I feel like I’m starting to not trust him cuz its like he keeps telling me how it’s the boss and how they lie to him about his duties and about the pay and how he gonna quit next week to become a mailman because he loves me and he wants to make a life with me.

 

He making me feel uncomfy right now because he keeps telling me so many things he’s gonna do or is doing but I don’t see nada and I tell him don’t worry about it but he wont listen and he keeps saying he gonna be a mailman now and make good money cuz it’s a govt job.

 

My mom is now telling me he might be living a double life cuz he was hitting up girls at the bus stops. I don’t know. And my friend telling me about him sitting in parks killing time and **** with a book bag on looking at people all day. This some really type weird **** if its true but I work and cant be there to see.

 

I don’t wanna just end things with my bebe because he telling me one thing and other people saying a different thing. They think he might not be Mike and I should ask for ID LOL.

 

But at the same time I hate being lied to if he’s lying to me and I don’t wanna look like a dummy cuz I tell u this now, mi madre no raise no dummies.

 

 

 

This was a very funny post. Interesting read Rana, but obviously you must know your friends and family is right about this guy if they're seeing stuff about him you're not seeing. And for you to come on here seeking advice.

 

 

I wonder if he's sexing you up so much which is making you so laid back about what's going on. I think you should definitely keep an eye on him in the event he's a conman or player in process.

[rana-rana]

Sounds like he's lying to you about the job, and doesn't have a job, and is not really motivated to get a job, but is just telling you what you want to hear. Sounds like he's not very loyal either if he's hitting on girls at the bus stop. Surely, you can do better than him, and it's time to dump this guy.

 

 

I see what u saying mama but I don't wanna just drop him like that cuz we not in a serious-serious relationship yet.

 

But I do wanna like keep an eye on things and not be stupid about stuff he says to me cuz its like he trying to tell me what he thinks I wanna hear but I tell him its not a big deal to me about what job he has. I just want him to do right and not lie to me.

 

Its rough out there and finding work aint easy so faking **** not gonna fly with me mida.

 

For now I'm just gonna wait for a minute and see what happens.

[Dallers]

I have a job. I walk to work as well and not take the bus. Free Friday?

 

The guy is a master of the talk and a buckle with the walk. Next.

[veggirl]

I see what u saying mama but I don't wanna just drop him like that cuz we not in a serious-serious relationship yet.

 

But I do wanna like keep an eye on things and not be stupid about stuff he says to me cuz its like he trying to tell me what he thinks I wanna hear but I tell him its not a big deal to me about what job he has. I just want him to do right and not lie to me.

 

Its rough out there and finding work aint easy so faking **** not gonna fly with me mida.

 

For now I'm just gonna wait for a minute and see what happens.

 

The fk? You don't wanna dump him cause you aren't "serious-serious" yet so what does that mean? That you DO wanna get "serious-serious" with an unemployed liar?!

[Shaun-Dro]

The fk? You don't wanna dump him cause you aren't "serious-serious" yet so what does that mean? That you DO wanna get "serious-serious" with an unemployed liar?!

 

 

This is why I felt that maybe this "Mike" is sexing "Rana" up so good that she wants to believe he's doing right when evidence says otherwise. I see this all the time with young dames staying blind to facts about their men until things get really clear and smacks them in the face.

 

 

I know the OP is young. I think 18-19? But this sweet-talking clown is just wasting her time. I'm betting he's probably not much older than her and is going through the motions like most of these young guys today.

[NYC-BigKat]

I see what u saying mama but I don't wanna just drop him like that cuz we not in a serious-serious relationship yet.

 

But I do wanna like keep an eye on things and not be stupid about stuff he says to me cuz its like he trying to tell me what he thinks I wanna hear but I tell him its not a big deal to me about what job he has. I just want him to do right and not lie to me.

 

Its rough out there and finding work aint easy so faking **** not gonna fly with me mida.

 

For now I'm just gonna wait for a minute and see what happens.

 

He's not gonna do right 'cause he's lying to u & u know he is so just get rid of him now before its too late! If I had no job I wont lie about it so if he lies about this he'll lie about lots of stuff.

[HappyLove]

When your mom comes and tells you your man is hitting up girls at the bus stop...it's a wrap.

[Miss Awesome]

I don't know how you have a relationship with someone you don't trust. If I were you, I would drop him. I was with someone who sounds very similar to this man, and he was just what you say.. a lowlife liar.

 

 

If you're not going to drop him just yet, then at the very least do not give him any money and stop paying for things. I repeat, DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY MONEY AND STOP PAYING FOR THINGS.

[Grumpybutfun]

WOW I haven’t been on here in a hot minute. I miss u LOVESHACK LOL.

 

Alright here’s what happened. We met at a party and started dating in feb and it was all good up til last month when things started getting type weird.

 

He didn’t have a job when we met but he told me how he was gonna hustle to get one because he feels I’m worth it. I just say ‘papi, just do u, as long as u pull your weight we good’ I’m not that kind of girl to bitch about stuff like that. He says he loves me more for it.

 

So now…lets call him Mike cuz I know we cant be using real names on here right? LOL so anyways Mike gets a job at Duane Reade as the asst mgr. So I’m like congrats he really trying to do things for himself.

 

But when we go out he says he had to pay bills and can I get his back? I tell him ‘papi, I got u, no worry okay, bebe?’ and we good for a little bit, but then I’m paying for **** every time and that aint right.

 

My homegirl thinks he trying to take advantage of me cuz I work at Macy’s now but its not like I’m really kicking in the money like that right? Its just part time.

 

So we have a little talk about pulling his weight. He says ‘I got u bebe’ and I’m like good, but then I hear from another friend that works downtown tells me that Mike don’t work at no Duane Reade.

 

I’m going ‘uh-oh, something not right’ but I try not to press it. I say to myself maybe they got the wrong Duane Reade LOL. It’s a bunch of stores like that in Manhattan right?

 

So I ask him about how’s the job going and he says ‘the boss is a hardass and he not paying him up his bread’ and so on. I leave it at that cuz I’m just not that kind of girl to be pressing my man like that.

 

So then he comes at me last week and says he quit the job and is now managing a shoe store in queens.

 

I’m like ‘Mida, that’s good, but u don’t gotta be a mgr for me, just do what u gotta do’ and he feeling all good now but other **** start popping up.

 

My mom comes home from work right and she tells me she sees him at the bus stop hitting up a girl and I don’t know what to think of that cuz he seems really into me but I tell my mom alright I got it.

 

Then my other friend tells me she sees him walking the avenues downtown with a book bag on his back and sitting in parks killing time and ****. I’m like ‘oh-no what’s this about?’ So now I press him and he’s getting all tight on me and he cant do this right now and he got all this stress and the job keeps ****ing with him and so on.

 

I say alright papi cuz I don’t wanna piss him off too much and he tells me I’m the world to him and how much he loves me and he don’t wanna lose me. We good, we good.

 

I care about him and all but I feel like I’m starting to not trust him cuz its like he keeps telling me how it’s the boss and how they lie to him about his duties and about the pay and how he gonna quit next week to become a mailman because he loves me and he wants to make a life with me.

 

He making me feel uncomfy right now because he keeps telling me so many things he’s gonna do or is doing but I don’t see nada and I tell him don’t worry about it but he wont listen and he keeps saying he gonna be a mailman now and make good money cuz it’s a govt job.

 

My mom is now telling me he might be living a double life cuz he was hitting up girls at the bus stops. I don’t know. And my friend telling me about him sitting in parks killing time and **** with a book bag on looking at people all day. This some really type weird **** if its true but I work and cant be there to see.

 

I don’t wanna just end things with my bebe because he telling me one thing and other people saying a different thing. They think he might not be Mike and I should ask for ID LOL.

 

But at the same time I hate being lied to if he’s lying to me and I don’t wanna look like a dummy cuz I tell u this now, mi madre no raise no dummies.

 

 

Then don't be a dummy....don't let people use you but appreciate you for who you are. Is it that others are saying he isn't being truthful or are you starting to realize it is true? No one deserves to be used or to not have an authentic relationship so you need to be more circumspect with whom you give your time and patience to. You deserve better, querido hijo.

Best,

Grumps

[DarkKnight1]

Sounds pretty clear he is lying and manipulating you. You can either confront him about what you know or catch him in the act as it seems the close people around you looking out for you is still not enough to convince you about the validity of your relationship

[rana-rana]

Sounds pretty clear he is lying and manipulating you. You can either confront him about what you know or catch him in the act as it seems the close people around you looking out for you is still not enough to convince you about the validity of your relationship

 

 

Nah papi he ain't fooling nobody no more. I confront him yesterday when he asks me to cover his drinks at the party and he gonna pay me back. I say, 'no no papi, how u gonna get my back if u not getting paid at work?' and he say he gonna get his last check this week but he should've gotten paid now. I'm no dummy and I tell him I'm no dummy so he gets mad and tells me to just forget it and that he thought I was better than that or whatever. I guess we dead now I don't know but it's all good cuz I don't need no one playing games with me.

[smackie9]

Rule of thumb: who would be more honest with you....people you have known all your life of someone you have known for a few months? It's a no brainer!

[Eivuwan]

Have higher standards for your bfs. Don't be ok with everything.