Lame date

[ktya]

Thursday i had a date with this girl.

 

It was supposed to originally be sunday last weekend but i had offered a date in the middle of the day and she had yoga at 2pm and was getting her nails done at 330. I cancelled it when i found this out at 11am because id have to bust it to get ready, spend a half hour travelling to her area of town only to spend 45-60 minutes with her at best. She seemed miffed but i offered a follow up date right away she works only 10 minutes away from my house.

 

So she played coy with the rebook and told me she was free at 730 on thursday. I booked a reservation at a grill lounge for drinks and met her there.

 

Conversation was ok but a bit strained. I ordered a cheese plate for appies and she barely touched it. Was almost standoffish when i suggested that she try this or that because it was really good. She had a scotch and i had a rum and coke.

 

She asks for the bill and i offer to pay. She says no she will pay i dont need to buy for her and whips out her card and goes to the washroom. Waitress comes over and asks how we want to split the bill, girl is in the washroom so i say just split it down the middle because that seems like the easiest solution.

 

Girl comes out of the bathroom and her portion of the bill is $17. She is all miffed and like "how is it that my $8 scotch comes to $17!?". I told her i just told the waitress to split it down the middle because that seemed the easist. She was all like "well you ate most of the cheese plate i only had a few bites". I was well its too late now sorry i thought just splitting it was the easiest and you wouldnt let me buy for you.

 

Well i walk her home figure whatever and were talking she only lives a couple blocks away. It was a warm day out and i didnt bring a jacket and just before we get to her house it starts raining really hard. I give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek because she didnt give me an opening for the lips. No invitation to come inside, lame because it really was raining pretty hard.

 

Im like whatever and text her later that it was a fun date trying to be nice and the next day she texts me that she didnt feel the same way and good luck in my search. I was just like whatever because it was one of the lamest dates ever especially with that crap about the bill and given her line of work an extra ten bucks sure wouldnt be breaking the bank.

 

How annoying. The only place she would meet me was in her neighborhood which is 20 minutes away. She works 10 minutes away and when i was trying to make up the sunday date i was trying to set up lunch or drinks after work and she was all coy about any of that. Then i go all the way there she refuses to let me catch the bill then barters over how much cheese she ate compared to me then wont even invite me in for a few minutes to get out of the rain.

 

Ugh

[iris219]

Why would you expect her to invite you in? It sounds like you both thought the date was lame.

 

Were you hoping for a make out session/sex for your troubles, i.e. having to be on a lame date?

 

I don't see how any of this was overly annoying. It was a first date that didn't work out, and now you never have to see each other again.

[ktya]

No i wasnt expecting a make out session for having to put up with the date lol. But an offer to come inside for a few minutes while the rain passed by would have been a lot kinder than leaving me there in the pouring rain after walking her home.

 

The bartering over the bill was annoying. Like i offered to pay for god sakes. Who cares to count how many slices of cheese each of us ate. And if your so particular about how you want the bill split, why take off to the washroom when the server is coming back with the machine? Did she secretly expect me to foot the whole tab against her wishes?

 

Ugh

[J21]

Ugh, that sounded terrible. If it's any consolation, I don't think it would've gone any better if you met at a different date/place/time. Seems like the chemistry wasn't there. She certainly didn't have to be a b*tch about it.

 

Her comment about splitting the tab was over the top. If I were in your shoes and the waitress asked how to split the tab, I'd just say put all of it on my card. Your date went to the bathroom so she wouldn't have had a say. If she was gonna cause a fuss, I'd rather it be about me paying the whole tab than splitting it evenly. That'll makes her look ungrateful more if anything.

 

Cheer up and don't let it get to ya man, we all have one of those nightmare dates. It'll make for good stories later.

[myothernic2]

Seems to me you wanted to pursue her still but she didn't and now you're saying the date was horrible when you were obviously going to ask her out again. That's what you're more upset about, you even wanted a kiss.

[ktya]

Yah ill get over it i wasnt all hung up on the girl it was just the first date.

 

Ive been dating since january and i havent had a single bad date. TBH i can totally understand why that girl is single. I work in sales so im a pretty good talker i can pretty well get along with anyone. Why go on a date if your going to be standoffish from the start, over being offered a peice of cheese.

 

Ugh

[ktya]

Seems to me you wanted to pursue her still but she didn't and now you're saying the date was horrible when you were obviously going to ask her out again. That's what you're more upset about, you even wanted a kiss.

 

I was thinking Hey who knows maybe she had a bad day. Obviously was more than that, lol.

[iris219]

Why go on a date if your going to be standoffish from the start, over being offered a peice of cheese.

 

She went on the date to meet you and see how it went. She wasn't into you.

[ktya]

I dont think she even wanted to go on the date at all. She was miffy ever since i cancelled the mid day date last weekend. But if i say lets get together mid day and you agree you might want to tell me beforehand that your busy from 130-430. I had a friend coming over that night so i couldnt meet her after, she seemed like she wanted to push me into a dinner. The plan was id text her mid morning and wed get together mid day, i was thinking lunch or a coffee and a walk.

[Gaeta]

She was a big B from the get go. I don't understand why you walked her to her house and wanted a kiss after the way she was with you. On top of that you text her it was nice meeting her when it was not true?

 

I would have paid the entire bill while she was in the washroom and leave.

[Dallers]

Why lie and tell her you had fun? The date sucked. I would have either not messaged at all or send a text saying. The date, SUCKED. Take care.

 

In fact I wouldn't have even paid. When she went to the washroom tell the waitress that she had offered to pay. Leave.

[somedude81]

No i wasnt expecting a make out session for having to put up with the date lol. But an offer to come inside for a few minutes while the rain passed by would have been a lot kinder than leaving me there in the pouring rain after walking her home.

So you can have sex with her.

 

Don't lie.

 

Why'd you even bother with walking her home if you two were arguing how to split the bill?

 

Did you really think you could still talk your way into her pants?

[ktya]

Why lie and tell her you had fun? The date sucked. I would have either not messaged at all or send a text saying. The date, SUCKED. Take care.

 

In fact I wouldn't have even paid. When she went to the washroom tell the waitress that she had offered to pay. Leave.

 

Hahahaha

 

Ill keep that in mind for next time. Maybe im just too nice lol.

[Dallers]

Hahahaha

 

Ill keep that in mind for next time. Maybe im just too nice lol.

 

You said it yourself, nobody likes nice. That text you sent was against everything you knew and just what you wanted her to hear because you did not get an invite inside. It is the brains way of telling you that if you are nice because you got rejected there may be another chance. There isn't, the male brain is stupid!

 

Cut your losses and leave with a cheeky grin is my motto.

 

(Or without paying the bill!)

[ktya]

So you can have sex with her.

 

Don't lie.

 

Why'd you even bother with walking her home if you two were arguing how to split the bill?

 

Did you really think you could still talk your way into her pants?

 

We werent arguing over how to split the bill. She was the one doing the arguing. She had invited me over to her house a week ot two ago and it didnt work out, so i wasnt sure if shed offer to have me over for a drink.

 

That was an awkward situation too, come to think of it. She had a friend over and wanted me to bring someone so her friend wouldnt feel like a third wheel. Because i didnt have anyone on the spur of the moment to bring with me (it was a spur of the moment offer) it didnt work out as she didnt want me to come alone.

 

Ugh

[ktya]

You said it yourself, nobody likes nice. That text you sent was against everything you knew and just what you wanted her to hear because you did not get an invite inside. It is the brains way of telling you that if you are nice because you got rejected there may be another chance. There isn't, the male brain is stupid!

 

Cut your losses and leave with a cheeky grin is my motto.

 

(Or without paying the bill!)

 

Yeah i wasnt even sure about sending that text at all. When i got home i called my buddy and told him what an annoying date it was. I like your idea better lol

[GemmaUK]

I don't understand why 50-60 minutes for the first date on the Sunday was an issue.

I happily travel further than that for an hour's worth of first meet.

When it's a first meet up it is just about whether there is any interest on either side.

I expect that did miff her in the beginning..just as you said.

[Dallers]

Yeah i wasnt even sure about sending that text at all. When i got home i called my buddy and told him what an annoying date it was. I like your idea better lol

 

Sad but true, if you did that she would most likely have hated you and sent you a message calling you every name under the sun.

 

But if she was high maintenance she might have taken offence to how cheeky it was and then come after you. A small chance of something then happening.

 

A back bone is needed for the women that are worth it.

[ktya]

I don't understand why 50-60 minutes for the first date on the Sunday was an issue.

I happily travel further than that for an hour's worth of first meet.

When it's a first meet up it is just about whether there is any interest on either side.

I expect that did miff her in the beginning..just as you said.

 

It was an issue because i was still in my robe at 1130am on the sunday when i found out and it would take me 30 minutes of travel plus getting ready. The plan was a mid day date i was thinking early afternoon. She had told me that she was free sunday when we set it up, made no mention of having appointments all day.

 

But whatever, if she got so miffed over that that it spilled into her being all oppositional on a date 4 days later and wouldnt give it a chance from the start she probably can be a difficult person on other issues.

[GemmaUK]

It was an issue because i was still in my robe at 1130am on the sunday when i found out and it would take me 30 minutes of travel plus getting ready. The plan was a mid day date i was thinking early afternoon. She had told me that she was free sunday when we set it up, made no mention of having appointments all day.

 

But whatever, if she got so miffed over that that it spilled into her being all oppositional on a date 4 days later and wouldnt give it a chance from the start she probably can be a difficult person on other issues.

 

Maybe get up and ready earlier on a date day to give yourself enough time then.

Going on a lunch date doesn't mean someone won't have plans later than day so you are better off anticipating that they do have more plans for the day.

 

If as you say your date was midday you should have been leaving by 11.30 latest with the half hour journey shouldn't you?

The plan was a midday date..sounds like you were already changing that to early afternoon but not communicating that to her.

Sorry but midday was always 12noon ..or so I thought.

[ktya]

Its all irrelevant semantics now but the actual words i used were "earlier in the day" and that i would text her mid morning to set a time and place.

 

It was during that exchange that she said her whole afternoon was booked up, it started at 1115am.

[GemmaUK]

And mid morning is 6am..a few hours for someone to be awake and responsive 9am-10am to arrange plans. I would call 11.30am late morning.

 

I think perhaps that was the first issue here.

 

But as you say. All irrelevant now and in the past.

[ktya]

Well it was Sunday... And all she said was "im free sunday" when i left it at that i would text her mid morning, so i assumed she had no plans that day. That was set up on the friday, so i doubt that the appointments werent already set up by then.

 

If i was in her shoes i would have let me know that she would be busy from 130-430 so i could have ensured that whatever plan i was going to offer up would work, made sure to text her earlier or suggested an evening date.

 

I said that i didnt want us to feel rushed. I offered a make up date to do lunch near her work and she was all catty and texted me back "i thought you didnt like to feel rushed??". I then said ok then how about drinks after work and she didnt get back to me for two days. Then she texted me "im free thursday" and i set it up and it had to be in her neighborhood. I asked if we could do it earlier than 730 and she said no. So i was like okay ill make reservations for 730 then see you there.

 

Honestly i probably dodged a bullet with this one. Someone who gets all snickered over such little things would probably be a pain in the neck. She wasnt exactly perfect at the whole affair either - she was drinking wine when we first talked on the phone, fell asleep with me on the phone briefly, woke up and denied that she fell asleep, then after a few minutes was down for the count snoring.

 

I didnt bug her about it, i just thought it.was funny but not exactly the picture of perfection herself.

[ktya]

And mid morning is 6am.)

 

Mid morning on a sunday for you is 6am? Id hate to think what youd find to be early lol

[Shaun-Dro]

Thursday i had a date with this girl.

 

It was supposed to originally be sunday last weekend but i had offered a date in the middle of the day and she had yoga at 2pm and was getting her nails done at 330. I cancelled it when i found this out at 11am because id have to bust it to get ready, spend a half hour travelling to her area of town only to spend 45-60 minutes with her at best. She seemed miffed but i offered a follow up date right away she works only 10 minutes away from my house.

 

So she played coy with the rebook and told me she was free at 730 on thursday. I booked a reservation at a grill lounge for drinks and met her there.

 

Conversation was ok but a bit strained. I ordered a cheese plate for appies and she barely touched it. Was almost standoffish when i suggested that she try this or that because it was really good. She had a scotch and i had a rum and coke.

 

She asks for the bill and i offer to pay. She says no she will pay i dont need to buy for her and whips out her card and goes to the washroom. Waitress comes over and asks how we want to split the bill, girl is in the washroom so i say just split it down the middle because that seems like the easiest solution.

 

Girl comes out of the bathroom and her portion of the bill is $17. She is all miffed and like "how is it that my $8 scotch comes to $17!?". I told her i just told the waitress to split it down the middle because that seemed the easist. She was all like "well you ate most of the cheese plate i only had a few bites". I was well its too late now sorry i thought just splitting it was the easiest and you wouldnt let me buy for you.

 

Well i walk her home figure whatever and were talking she only lives a couple blocks away. It was a warm day out and i didnt bring a jacket and just before we get to her house it starts raining really hard. I give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek because she didnt give me an opening for the lips. No invitation to come inside, lame because it really was raining pretty hard.

 

Im like whatever and text her later that it was a fun date trying to be nice and the next day she texts me that she didnt feel the same way and good luck in my search. I was just like whatever because it was one of the lamest dates ever especially with that crap about the bill and given her line of work an extra ten bucks sure wouldnt be breaking the bank.

 

How annoying. The only place she would meet me was in her neighborhood which is 20 minutes away. She works 10 minutes away and when i was trying to make up the sunday date i was trying to set up lunch or drinks after work and she was all coy about any of that. Then i go all the way there she refuses to let me catch the bill then barters over how much cheese she ate compared to me then wont even invite me in for a few minutes to get out of the rain.

 

Ugh

 

 

This dame sounds lame and boring and you're not missing out on anything with her, so let it be and move on to someone who's willing to put in what you're throwing out.