bflowers85 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 My ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago out of nowhere....the I need space excuse. I busted him talking to his ex which of course he swore was nothing. I went off and cried, yelled, and just became a bit withdrawn because I felt betrayed. Our relationship was good, so I thought, and we were like best friends. He always wanted to be glued to me. We were like gross in love..like taking baths together, always mushy and affectionate, always eating off the same plate, using the same toothbrush sometimes, good sexual chemistry, and he seemed like he could never get enough of me. He seemed so proud of me and always introduced me to everyone as his future fiancee. I was close to his family and friends too. He'd always take me to nice places, do fun things with me, and tried to buy me anything I even looked at. We were like the couple people always remembered and loved. He even began pushing, way more than me, for our future including engagement and marriage.We looked at homes and pretty much created a plan for our lives together and what we wanted to do as a couple. He even took me to get my engagement ring sized! After he broke up with me I found out that I was pregnant, which he wasn't happy about. He didn't even mention trying to work things out or anything but I'll be there as much as I can.... So I'm still hurt and confused. I don't understand why my life fell apart. I feel abandoned by thr person who promised me forever. He is like a different person. I don't know what to do. I love him and I am hurting sooooo badly about all this. Please give me advice and any insight that may help me understand.
April Moon Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Typically, I would suggest NC but since you are pregnant LC will be best. I am so sorry you are hurting. I can really relate to some parts of your story. Stay strong and do what is best for you!
emeryentropy Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 My ex boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago out of nowhere....the I need space excuse. I busted him talking to his ex which of course he swore was nothing. Reading that makes me upset for you! My ex boyfriend went behind my back took some harlot's number from a store he shops at frequently and began calling her and she prodded information about me and our relationships problems out of him until he spilled the beans. Then this hoe started encouraging him to dump me! Well guess what, he picked a HUGE fight with me about 2-3weeks after talking to this worthless woman then banged her right after we broke up! It gets better! He didn't wear protection because he TRUSTED some promiscuous woman he JUST met to be on the pill and she wasn't! Then she told him she was pregnant and supposedly aborted it and deserted him and was never seen or heard from again! Oh but wait there's more! Then he comes back to me 1 year later apologizing for his behavior and asks me to marry him and tries to get me engaged ! Well I said no because something didn't feel quite right! Then after badgering him for why he fought with me and broke up with me that night he admits how he went behind my back and left me over this random girl then screwed her and how she screwed him over. Somehow I should just let all that go and marry him! I think NOT! I pretty much told him he was stupid and should have never left his 4 year long term girlfriend and that he deserves whatever else he gets. He's now single, unhappy, and alone now. Bottom line: Let the loser have the other women, he will eventually come crawling back to you!
Author bflowers85 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 I appreciate you guys for replying to my thread. I feel deep down that he will come crawling back someday. I just hate that people can't just realize what they have before it's too late. I never loved anyone the way that I loved him. He seemed so happy and satisfied with me. This man even cried while telling his sister how much I complete his life. He was so loving to me and we barely had any disagreements. He made me believe that I was all that he ever needed. I keep trying to figure out how he could go from so attached and in love with me to "this". Do you think that he even cares or thinks about me? Do I no contact? What can I do to help my feelings? I love him so much but I'm so afraid to trust. He vowed to me several times to always be committed and faithful to me. He even wrote this in a poem to me. I just can't rationalize his behavior and it's frustrating. I recently mailed back all the letters and poems he wrote to me as well as something he bought me for Valentine's day. I told him that seeing those things made it difficult and I couldn't throw them out because they were valuable to me. I hope he reads that stuff so he can see himself for his true self.......a narcissist selfish coward
Mr.Pine Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 he picked a HUGE fight with me about 2-3weeks after talking to this worthless woman then banged her right after we broke up! Nope. Wrong. He was banging her wayyyyy before you two broke up. Knowing that I hope will help you move on and forget the schmuck. 1
Author bflowers85 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 All I know is that we were always together. He never wanted to be away from me and this girl is in another state. There was no miscellaneous time where I didn't see him. He never gave me reasons to think he was cheating. I'm a detective too, so I am very observant of things. I'm sure he was talking to her though one way or another. He was being deceitful and playing with my heart. I just dont understand how one can seem so happy in love then just change. He was the one pushing for us to get engaged, move in together, and grow together. You'd think I'd be the one pushing for all that and not him if he wanted someone else. I feel like he got mad when I exposed him and called him out. Can you believe he used to always ask me over and over if he was enough for me and he'd always make me promise to not leave him for someone else....wtheck. I know he doesn't deserve me because I am a good woman. I just believed that he was on the right path and we were finally almost there. He treated me wonderfully. We were really close and it's hurting me because I was real. He deceived me. It's just hard to deal with so much at one time.
ponchsox Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 NC is the best policy as you will read here. Including social media. You need to focus on your emotional health and pregnancy right now. FORGET about him, he's gone and he screwed around. You are very beautiful and sweet girl. Best of luck and you came to a good place for support. 1
emeryentropy Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Nope. Wrong. He was banging her wayyyyy before you two broke up. Knowing that I hope will help you move on and forget the schmuck. Typically you'd be right, but I've known him for 7 years. He is very sheltered, and barely goes out, and isn't that social. He also is very truthful once he tells you what's going on. If he said it was after then it WAS after.
jbelle6 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Typically you'd be right, but I've known him for 7 years. He is very sheltered, and barely goes out, and isn't that social. He also is very truthful once he tells you what's going on. If he said it was after then it WAS after. Was social enough to find someone to bang in a couple of weeks...
Mr.Pine Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Typically you'd be right, but I've known him for 7 years. He is very sheltered, and barely goes out, and isn't that social. He also is very truthful once he tells you what's going on. If he said it was after then it WAS after. "Delusional you are. Sleep better at night if happy it makes you." Yoda
Mr.Pine Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Was social enough to find someone to bang in a couple of weeks... Exactly. You took the keystrokes right from my keyboard.
emeryentropy Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 You guys are funny. I'm not delusional and I always sleep good at night because we broke up years ago and I have no emotional attatchment left for this person. I've known him for 7 years, you've all known him for 0. Accept that you don't know who you're talking about and leave people who do alone. NO, it was months after our breakup not weeks.
emotionalMess Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 So he dumped you after you told him about the baby ?
Mr.Pine Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 You guys are funny. I'm not delusional and I always sleep good at night because we broke up years ago and I have no emotional attatchment left for this person. I've known him for 7 years, you've all known him for 0. Accept that you don't know who you're talking about and leave people who do alone. NO, it was months after our breakup not weeks. We are simply going on what information you're giving us. And don't bullpucky us with how long you've known him and we don't know him at all. It matters not. We're all the same. Your ex is the same. Deal with the reality that we have given you. Or deny it to your grave. It doesn't really matter. Again, whatever gets you to sleep at night. 1
David87 Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 bflowers85 emeryentropy I'm confused, who do I give advice to ?NC ...
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