hpjunke Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 I want your insite on a girl i used to date and reconnected with her recently . We found each other on an app that i used and we started to talk about whats been going on over the past 2 years we haven't seen each other . She told me that she is going through a divorce and is in no shape to get involved with anyone at the moment. I felt pretty good to be talking again and told her id be here if she needed me . I will have to admit some of the feelings that i have kinda came back and i wanted to be a much better person to her this time around and if it grew into something later then great . i care about her and i feel bad shes going through this separation. We talked every day via text and everything has been great like it was when we first started seeing each other . She was near my home out drinking one night and i told her she could come stay at my place after however we talked before about having sex and that it would ruin us if we started to do that .She says she can have sex with out having feelings involved but i don't beleive thats all true . Well we started to make out and i pleasured her and got her off but when the time came to actually take all of our clothes completely off and go all the way she said to stop because i'm gonna make you have sex with me . I said ok ok not pushing this issue i let it be. i said that id rather even though it kills me to save the friendship .Texting was great still after and continued for a couple of weeks she even went on vacation and communicated the whole time ,we even made some plans to hang out and go somewhere. Work has been busy for her they have been short handed so shes been there a lot as well and going to her home late. She suggested we do lunch in the next week and i had work later on that day so i said sure .... heres where it gets twisted , that day came and i texted her a good morning and asked if we are still going to lunch ,she replied "oh **** i forgot" next text was "ya if you want " then she said "its so far for you to drive"... that told me alot .. so i asked her "yes or no" . she went off saying i was being a jerk and she didnt wanna go if i was being a jerk and i wasn't all i was asking if she wanted to or not that way i can plan my day before i went to work or go see her . She said i'm stressed out at work and basically saying i was rude so i reassured her i wasn't at all being that and if she needs to talk or what not im here but have a good day.... Ever since she snapped its been hardly any contact unless i do it . This is something i dont appreciate and feel very hurt by it and not sure whats going on... i called her the day after left a message with no reply ... so i reached out to her again and its been small talk but hardly anything plus she threw in she went on a date after us not talking for a little bit and what she did the weekend we didn't talk. I'm letting her be i don't feel that was cool to me and its something i don't at all appreciate.. Thoughts?
HappyLove Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 "She told me that she is going through a divorce and is in no shape to get involved with anyone at the moment." What is it you're so confused about?
Author hpjunke Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 "She told me that she is going through a divorce and is in no shape to get involved with anyone at the moment." What is it you're so confused about? I understand going through something like that is VERY hard which is why I just wanted to be there for her . Thanks for the advice ..
ThorntonMelon Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 She doesn't want you there for her, whatever the reason. Feels like to me she used you for a time to fill a void, and now either thinks you've gotten too close or just found someone else. Either way, you shouldn't put any further energy towards her at all.
HappyLove Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 I understand going through something like that is VERY hard which is why I just wanted to be there for her . Thanks for the advice .. When someone tells you they don't want or aren't ready for a relationship....BELIEVE THEM! Otherwise you're setting yourself up to get hurt. If you want a healthy relationship then you have to go after someone who is emotionally available.
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