willnevergether Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 ,my girlfriend broke up with me 6 months ago. out of nowhere. she said she just wasn't sure what she wanted i took it hard and was not happy. she went on a few dates with a couple guys and i let her have it./ i told her she was just using me and i was not a back up option now after this time we have been hanging out a bit and it has been going pretty good. i still have feelings for her and im pretty sure she does to. it seems like it. she has said she misses us but she cant forgive me for the way i cated and stuff i said i have to deal with the fact that i possibly pushed her away what should i do? i have apologized multipke times...should i just show her i have changed and maybe she will forgive me?
JahnJahn Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 What have you done that needs forgiving? If she broke up with you and immediately started dating other people, she should have expected you to be upset. It is a normal reaction. I do not know what you said to her or how you acted but have you had time to reflect on your relationship and the kind of person she is? Maybe give yourself and her some space, do things for yourself and make yourself scarce. Enjoy the things in life that do not require such mental stress. If she decides to forgive you, she will. You cannot force that onto her and If she wants to try again, Im sure she will communicate that.
erklat Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 She was sure she wanted you out of the picture. So give her exactly that. NC.
Author willnevergether Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 What have you done that needs forgiving? If she broke up with you and immediately started dating other people, she should have expected you to be upset. It is a normal reaction. I do not know what you said to her or how you acted but have you had time to reflect on your relationship and the kind of person she is? Maybe give yourself and her some space, do things for yourself and make yourself scarce. Enjoy the things in life that do not require such mental stress. If she decides to forgive you, she will. You cannot force that onto her and If she wants to try again, Im sure she will communicate that. i said some things that were mean..we didnt see each other or talk for a bit but we have recently started hanging out again..it seems like she still has some feeling for me but i dont know if i have caused too much damage
todreaminblue Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 if you have started hanging out again she must like you or she wouldnt hang with you....give it time....show you care for her still in little ways thoughtful gestures no personal gain or motive....but to be nice ...easy to do easy to take.......because little ways always add up and chances are given ...good luck..deb
Author willnevergether Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 if you have started hanging out again she must like you or she wouldnt hang with you....give it time....show you care for her still in little ways thoughtful gestures no personal gain or motive....but to be nice ...easy to do easy to take.......because little ways always add up and chances are given ...good luck..deb good idea. we have been slowly hanging out. im not texting alot. giving her space, not asking about us getting back together 1
PhillyConnection23 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 if you have started hanging out again she must like you or she wouldnt hang with you....give it time....show you care for her still in little ways thoughtful gestures no personal gain or motive....but to be nice ...easy to do easy to take.......because little ways always add up and chances are given ...good luck..deb This is your best bet. Just make sure you don't fall into the friend zone/emotional security trap. 1
Author willnevergether Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 This is your best bet. Just make sure you don't fall into the friend zone/emotional security trap. im trying man. i can tell shes a little nervous wondering if i will lash out at her like i had before. im just layin low, not being annoying and all that
alexwood Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 just be there for her...be nice , but also a man 1
PhillyConnection23 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 good idea. we have been slowly hanging out. im not texting alot. giving her space, not asking about us getting back together Show her how you have changed. Also remember, you are dating this person again. Whatever you two shared is dead. She needs to realize you are a different, better person and someone she wants to be with. Immediately falling back into the old routine or habits will mean failure.
benzo72 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 She broke up with you. Move on and away from her. Try no contact for at the very least 2 months. You do this for yourself! Time will heal your wounds. And hey, try just going out on a few datss, it will give you a boost of confidence!
markzatyy Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 if you guys are hanging out still thats good. just watch the temper
FortunateSon Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 You are the safe option, comfortable and familiar. Having been in a similar situation, I would advise going NC and moving on. You broke up for a reason, has that reason honestly be addressed?
Smarty Pants Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 If she is saying those things, a relationship with you will never be built on trust. I would chalk this one up as a loss and move on. Sucks, but can't win them all.
alexwood Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 if you two work n it you guys can get back together
David87 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 OP you did nothing wrong, you dont need to apologise......she dumped you remember? she dated other people and you didn't. Are you a doormat? because you sure act like one. Why do you want to get back together with her? She will do whatever she wants if that happens because,guess what, she has the power now and she knows it, She has you wrapped around her little finger. Start NC ( I know you wont listen but atleast I did my job )
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