TigerLilly78 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 So was talking to a male friend and apparently its happened in the past that after he hooks up with women they never call or contact again? that hit me as really strange to be honest cause I've herd of men doing this to women but not really the other way around..maybe im wrong?
FitChick Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 If this happens to him every time he screws a woman, he is a lousy lover and needs to polish his skills. If he was a really good lover, even a woman with no serious intent would come back for more. 4
Elle1975 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 So was talking to a male friend and apparently its happened in the past that after he hooks up with women they never call or contact again? that hit me as really strange to be honest cause I've herd of men doing this to women but not really the other way around..maybe im wrong? My friend was notorious for that. She was very independent and had a daughter. She wasn't interested in a relationship, so she'd have friends with benefit. She eventually settled down, and she's married now.
Author TigerLilly78 Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 If this happens to him every time he screws a woman, he is a lousy lover and needs to polish his skills. If he was a really good lover, even a woman with no serious intent would come back for more. This ran thu my mind but honestly from the way he talks he doesn't sound like he would bad in the sack.. it sounds like hes a "it turns me on to please her" kinda guy and common ladies those are like diamonds in the rough... I don't know he said alot of women do that so I guess its happened more then once..like you say most women will at the very least keep contact..maybe there is a new breed of player women out there im not familiar with..haha
spiderowl Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 So was talking to a male friend and apparently its happened in the past that after he hooks up with women they never call or contact again? that hit me as really strange to be honest cause I've herd of men doing this to women but not really the other way around..maybe im wrong? Reasons I've not wanted to pursue anything with a guy after sleeping with him: - he's hopeless in bed - I was having doubts about him anyway but that was the clincher - his personal hygiene is not good enough (bad breath or body odour) - his natural scent didn't captivate me at all and become offputting - he is selfish in bed - he wanted/tried to have sex without protection - he was just plain weird in bed in some way 2
irc333 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 If this happens to him every time he screws a woman, he is a lousy lover and needs to polish his skills. If he was a really good lover, even a woman with no serious intent would come back for more. Or...they are just sluts.
Author TigerLilly78 Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Or...they are just sluts. This can go for men as well just putting that out there.. That said even female sluts will usually keep the guy around just encase one of their other 20 hook ups was busy but the bang and run I've always thought was a mainly a male trick..lol im talking going cold fish no further contact shes gone I never knew you kind of thing..
aprilisi Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 If a woman enjoys sex she's a slut. Men are just sowing their wild oats and being men. But it is true, if a man is good in bed women will stick around. Listening to what he says occurs is not a good indication of his sexual skills.
Toothless Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Yeah, I'd assume he's pretty lousy in bed. Also, not to be rude, but how old are you guys? There is this "hook-up culture" developing among college-age kids and twenty-somethings. People will hook-up, have sex and never speak of it, maybe never speak to the partner again. If your friend is reaching out to those women and they're ignoring him, then there is definitely something that he does that is a turn-off, but otherwise, sex has become just that causal. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 So was talking to a male friend and apparently its happened in the past that after he hooks up with women they never call or contact again? that hit me as really strange to be honest cause I've herd of men doing this to women but not really the other way around..maybe im wrong? Does he try to contact them? Of course we hear about men doing it to women, because it's 'traditionally' on the man to initiate contact. They may be wondering why he doesn't call or text.
Author TigerLilly78 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 Yeah, I'd assume he's pretty lousy in bed. Also, not to be rude, but how old are you guys? There is this "hook-up culture" developing among college-age kids and twenty-somethings. People will hook-up, have sex and never speak of it, maybe never speak to the partner again. If your friend is reaching out to those women and they're ignoring him, then there is definitely something that he does that is a turn-off, but otherwise, sex has become just that causal. Were both mid late 30s unless hes going for younger women and hitting this demographic your talking about I don't know I guess its possible..imo its kind of frighting that sex is so casual to that degree.. Does he try to contact them? Of course we hear about men doing it to women, because it's 'traditionally' on the man to initiate contact. They may be wondering why he doesn't call or text. I don't really know Mid once I herd that I kind of didn't pry it seamed kind of a embarrassing thing for him to say so I didn't want to rub salt in the wounds so to speak. All I know is he said allot of women do this when I said that surprising so yea he don't hit me as the kind of guy who wouldn't at least send a text so yea.. I don't think his past choice in women has been to awesome "they sound like sluts" imo but even that said usually a female slut will at least hang around..lol
giblesp Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 So was talking to a male friend and apparently its happened in the past that after he hooks up with women they never call or contact again? that hit me as really strange to be honest cause I've herd of men doing this to women but not really the other way around..maybe im wrong? It definitely happens. These types go for a bit on the side, before running home to their BFs. I describe them as parasites.
irc333 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 This can go for men as well just putting that out there.. Yep. Not saying they aren't either. They are no better.
Wisecrack Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Funny about how traditional society's views still remain sometimes hey. If a guy said he's slept with a good number of woman, his mates will flock to him and respect and congratulate him. The other way around and a woman gets labelled a slut. Maybe we don't realise that both genders both have their needs? I've known a few girls like that. It's a good two way street until one starts getting feelings for the other. 2
guest569 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Yeah maybe they just want sex with various guys, it might not be that the sex was bad, just one night stands. It definitely happens, people aren't always up front about their intentions which is a real shame and there is not much you can do about it. You can try to protect yourself by putting off sex until you're in relationship territory.l but even that wont guarantee you wont get used 1
littleplanet Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Hookups are designed to unhook. When invited to the smorgasbord, why stick with just the shrimp salad? The double standard is still alive and well. Just like Roundup Ready, there's always a new brand of sexicide on the market. (and new improved brands pop up for early shoppers!) 1
ktya Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Maybe its how/ where hes meeting these women and how much alcohol was involved. Maybe the girl woke up hungover and was all embarassed. Is he dating them or just luring them back to his house.
Author TigerLilly78 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 Funny about how traditional society's views still remain sometimes hey. If a guy said he's slept with a good number of woman, his mates will flock to him and respect and congratulate him. The other way around and a woman gets labelled a slut. Maybe we don't realise that both genders both have their needs? I've known a few girls like that. It's a good two way street until one starts getting feelings for the other. Oh im kind of conservative in my older age I guess.. I was a bit of a slut when I was in my early 20s I'll admit it and I now understand the reasons why but that's another couch session all together..lol but yeah to me any women or man who has random hook ups just for sex and dose this on a reg basis is a slut. Now perhaps a fwb situation could be a little different but still its not something I would do anymore. To me if its not a solid relationship its just not worth the risks or the heartache these days..turns out if this kind stuff is the norm I might just be ahead of the curve after all..lol Maybe its how/ where hes meeting these women and how much alcohol was involved. Maybe the girl woke up hungover and was all embarassed. Is he dating them or just luring them back to his house. I cant really comment on were or how hes meeting them I guess its a random mix. Don't think allot of alcohol was always evolved but yeah I doubt its all him just luring them back to his house kind of making him sound like a creeper or something there..lol Hes nice guy average looks little on the nerdy side not really a player type..Its interesting how its almost the women whose the victim here in your scenario maybe that ties into the hole its unbelievable to think men also get used in this way I dunno..
ponchsox Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 It's very easy through OLD and social media for people to hookup and bail without any strings. It happens both ways. Some people don't have any incentive to stay with one person when they can bounce from partner to partner.
Author TigerLilly78 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 It's very easy through OLD and social media for people to hookup and bail without any strings. It happens both ways. Some people don't have any incentive to stay with one person when they can bounce from partner to partner. I think this is a likely scenario and your right OLD and meeting people off line can be a awesome way to interact but its also a very cold way unless you really take the time to get to know the person well..
Hopeful30 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Women do it plenty. You just don't hear about it cuz men don't usually complain about being used for sex lol
marcjb Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 If a woman enjoys sex she's a slut. Men are just sowing their wild oats and being men. But it is true, if a man is good in bed women will stick around. Listening to what he says occurs is not a good indication of his sexual skills. If a woman has been with a bunch of guys she is viewed negatively, but if a guy has been with a bunch of women, he is not. The reason why? Guys are the ones that have to put in work, women generally just get to sit back and take their pick. That's the answer to the age old stigma, because it's true. Women have the final say if sex is happening or not. So, if they just give it up, or seek it out, then yes, they are sluts.
Author TigerLilly78 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 If a woman has been with a bunch of guys she is viewed negatively, but if a guy has been with a bunch of women, he is not. The reason why? Guys are the ones that have to put in work, women generally just get to sit back and take their pick. That's the answer to the age old stigma, because it's true. Women have the final say if sex is happening or not. So, if they just give it up, or seek it out, then yes, they are sluts. Your panting men to be quite desperate creatures indeed there but I have to disagree men also have a choice of with who and when they sick their willy whacker in..lol men can also then be sluts..
Charlie Harper Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 If this happens to him every time he screws a woman, he is a lousy lover and needs to polish his skills. If he was a really good lover, even a woman with no serious intent would come back for more. A really good lover, makes a woman come back for more, doesn't matter if she is single, with a Boyfriend, married... heck if you are a good kisser they really go for it... time to learn more for your friend. Does he try to contact them? Of course we hear about men doing it to women, because it's 'traditionally' on the man to initiate contact. They may be wondering why he doesn't call or text. Just making yourself available, makes the trick... no need to ask.. and yes there is a terrible double standard a man goes with a 100 women and he is a Stud, a woman does this and She is a Slut... no wonder why we are so troubled...
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