p1zzaman Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Hi LoveShackers, I have started dating this girl for about 1 month now. We met online and we've been on 4 dates total. We see each other once a week. I am 32, she is 29. So I have never encountered this scenario before in my dating history, hopefully you all can provide info. We started off texting quite a bit, after the first date being successful, our second date was really fun. A night of food truck hunting and dancing. We had really great chemistry, I held her hand walking and at the end of the night, I went in for a kiss, but she sort of turned away. Then a second later, she turned around and kissed me. Texting resume, and I saw her next week. We went for a bike ride and spent the entire first part of the day. This is when I felt a bit coldness from her. She didn't seem happy when I try to make contact with her hand. And I initiated 1 to 2 kisses throughout the day without much reaction. Felt wrong, felt awkward. I would try to ask her some question on what she is looking for and she would say "I am trying to figure that out" Ok, date 4 was last night, we went out to this entertainment dinner event. I try to make some hand contact, but she pulls away. Later during the night, she would start kissing me randomly (I suspect due to the drinks) But when I try to lean in she would turn away. I told her "Wow you are really good at teasing", she said yes. So basically, she would always be the one initiating the kiss, when I do it, she turns away. Anyway, what is this? A game? a tease? is she unsure about me? Not getting a constant vibe here. :bunny: But is it too early to mention it to her to ask her what is going on?
Yamaha Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 After 4 dates you are in a position to decide if her behavior is something you desire or not. If your having questions about the way she treats you I would just stop dating her. Find someone who you don't wonder or question their motives. No sense in staying with someone that is unsure about you.
Assasda Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Its because you are needy. You got needy. The "What are you looking for" question. Is a needy question with you searching for validation from her. Those kisses, you try to give, are not go with the flow kisses. THey are needy kisses that say "Do you love me?" So the girl smells this (figuratively ofcourse) and its a definate turn off. Try going on your date to have fun for yourself, and stop trying to get her attention. I love "Mixed signal" questions, because there is usually no mixed sifnals involved
Author p1zzaman Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 Its because you are needy. You got needy. The "What are you looking for" question. Is a needy question with you searching for validation from her. Those kisses, you try to give, are not go with the flow kisses. THey are needy kisses that say "Do you love me?" So the girl smells this (figuratively ofcourse) and its a definate turn off. Try going on your date to have fun for yourself, and stop trying to get her attention. I love "Mixed signal" questions, because there is usually no mixed sifnals involved Actually that's pretty good. "Boom! That's how you deduce baby!"
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