Griesfootball Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 One main reason for ex broke up with me is because she said she liked not being tied up having no obligations. She is an independent person. She said she just wanted to explore and go on dates with different people. I don't know why all of sudden she felt like this, maybe it's because she just graduated and it's summer but is this something that people commonly go through and how long is this process, it's kind of like gigs in a way.
Elle1975 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 One main reason for ex broke up with me is because she said she liked not being tied up having no obligations. She is an independent person. She said she just wanted to explore and go on dates with different people. I don't know why all of sudden she felt like this, maybe it's because she just graduated and it's summer but is this something that people commonly go through and how long is this process, it's kind of like gigs in a way. It simply translates into her not wanting to be tied up to you. She wants to be single, she wants to go see what's out there, maybe meet someone else down the road; just not you.
irc333 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Unfortunately, some might think she prefers selfish pursuits to really be involved with anyone seriously. But, considering that she's graduated, it does make sense....esp. out of High School...though I live in a small town, people continue to get married instead at the age of 18. LOL That's why it was so hard to find someone to date around here post-High school....everyone around here had this foolish notion of getting married prior to the legal drinking age and popping out 2 or 3 kids before their mid 20's. One main reason for ex broke up with me is because she said she liked not being tied up having no obligations. She is an independent person. She said she just wanted to explore and go on dates with different people. I don't know why all of sudden she felt like this, maybe it's because she just graduated and it's summer but is this something that people commonly go through and how long is this process, it's kind of like gigs in a way.
phineas Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 She just wasn't that into you. Most women of any age will sink their claws into a guy they want lest another woman catches his eye. Nobody tells someone they consider the prize , man or woman, "we should see other people" Can't even believe you'd accept her wanting to get stuffed by multiple men as a phase and talk as if shed come back. Why would you want her? Forget about her and find someone else. 2
Author Griesfootball Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Our ages are 19 and 18. She seemed to just get tired of the things that go into a relationship and I think we both took each other for granted. We've been broken up since April 7th. She said she's hung out with other people mostly her high school friends before everybody goes their own way. She said she hasn't had a boyfriend since me. We were together 13 months.
ThorntonMelon Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 It's not GIGS (which is something that I don't really agree exists except in the case of marriage, but that's a different conversation). It's her being an immature female who can't say "I'm just not that into you". Sadly, this phase of your relationship is likely to last....forever. Good news is you're probably going to do that to one of the next girls you date, and you'll realize it doesn't make you (or her) a bad person, just means you're still looking for the right one.
Author Griesfootball Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 I think anybody between the ages of 18-20 are scared of commitment. It's usually a guy thing but I guess she wanted to get out before it hurt me more. I think somebody at these ages want to explore as it is too young of an age to say I'm gonna settle with you forever. She might change her mind but for now no contact I guess
Musing Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I think anybody between the ages of 18-20 are scared of commitment. It's usually a guy thing but I guess she wanted to get out before it hurt me more. I think somebody at these ages want to explore as it is too young of an age to say I'm gonna settle with you forever. She might change her mind but for now no contact I guess Anyone at any age is afraid of commitment when they don't want to commit to the person they are with. 1
GemmaUK Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Anyone at any age is afraid of commitment when they don't want to commit to the person they are with. I think they are just not into committing with that person whatever age they may be. My last ex could call me a commitment phobe. I left because he was desperately trying to control me and attempted some emotional and mental abuse too. Only once did he raise his hand to me but never struck me as I ran and then split with him. OP this isn't a phase. She doesn't want a relationship with you any longer.
Author Griesfootball Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 I see her being single for a long time then
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