Help :( My friends keep pushing me onto someone I dont like

[pizzanova]

A good friend of mine (let's call him John) keeps urging me to date his cousin (let's call him Peter), who I'm reasonably good friends with. John is dating my bestest friend, Jane. Jane backs up John and says that I should really go for Peter (who btw likes me a lot).

 

The really bad thing is...and I feel bad even THINKING this way, much less admitting it here...I think Peter is extremely unattractive. Not to mention my polar opposite (nice guy, but too different in too many ways). He is just...kinda, really, ugly. I would never go for him, and I've told this to John and Jane (not explicitly stating why). Nonetheless, they keep saying "come on, you're always complaining that you want sex/a relationship, and this is the perfect opportunity." The thing is...I do, but I want someone wayyyy more attractive. I would NEVER have sex with Peter (or go out with him).

 

I'm starting to lose faith in my friends here. I think I'm a reasonably attractive young lass, so I didn't think they'd push me onto someone who just wouldnt cut it for me. I'm not trying to be snobbish here...I'm nothing special either. But it's just that everyone knows Peter is very unattractive (and btw he isnt overweight so that has nothing to do with it), so why should I be the one to resign myself to him? Do my friends not think I can do my own matchmaking? I just hooked up with a guy a few months ago, and I like John's best friend anyways, which is a whole different story.

[jellybean]

Geez, this happened to me before also.

 

The couple thought that just because their friend (or in your case 'the cousin') was such a wonderful person that it was a perfect opportunity for them to utilize their poor matchmaking abilities, and set us up.

 

I did not appreciate that they did not take into account my own personal preferences in men, and only seemed to view me as an available woman who is supposed to feel grateful because they know a single man who would like to date me.

 

I had seen the man they were talking about, and he did NOT appeal to me in the least...it was an uncomfortable situation having to explain to them that no - this guy does not interest me.

 

I was also highly insulted that these 'matchmakers' feel it's their job in life to hook-up singles because they are lacking, and incomplete without a mate.

 

It proved to me that my coupled-friends really don't know me very well at all...or maybe they've forgotten that just because you're single it doesn't mean that you don't have certain standards.

[pizzanova]

I guess that my friends think that if they push me long enough, I'll start liking Peter. I like John's best friend, and they use to push me onto him too, and I used to be disgusted. For some reason, now that I like him, they dont push me anymore lol. The difference between Peter and John's best friend though, is that John's best friend is good looking by most standards (although a little overweight) and he's more similar to me. Peter is, at best, incredibly plain and sour looking.