darkmoon Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 (edited) two women snubbed a friend of mine, not one but twice, they also snubbed me once and thought they could start talking to me again but I think one snub is enough, I was surprised that my friend let it happen twice what do you think? once or twice? Edited June 21, 2014 by darkmoon
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 two women snubbed a friend of mine, not one but twice, they also snubbed me once and thought they could start talking to me again but I think one snub is enough, I was surprised that my friend let it happen twice what do you think? once or twice? i think if someone talks to you and makes that attempt that you should answer regardless of how you were treated in the past...sometimes people have bad days.........good luck....deb
d0nnivain Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Maybe your friend is more forgiving then you. Maybe she didn't feel snubbed. I'll let it go once, thinking maybe I was misreading the situation but after the 2nd time, I'm not going back for more heartache.
peterso2 Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I think we need more information about exactly what happened. How long have you known these 2 women? What are the circumstances of the snub? Was it minor/major? What were the plans? A little more information would be helpful in assessing exactly what to do. IMO - snubbing definitely happens when people have no regard for others. And truly, its a lack of class. However, many people think nothing of it. Being almost desperate for friends I would make a few more attempts myself, but if I find that it keeps occurring and is a pattern...move on. Jason 2
Author darkmoon Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 I think we need more information about exactly what happened. How long have you known these 2 women? What are the circumstances of the snub? Was it minor/major? What were the plans? A little more information would be helpful in assessing exactly what to do. IMO - snubbing definitely happens when people have no regard for others. And truly, its a lack of class. However, many people think nothing of it. Being almost desperate for friends I would make a few more attempts myself, but if I find that it keeps occurring and is a pattern...move on. Jason i have decided to snub them right back if they can snub so can i i knew them by sight for six months in a bar, we were never even speaking, okay, then one of them starts talking to me, and she was tactless over a situation in the bar, and when i mentioned what she said that was wrong this in a quiet spot away from others, as it all happened next time i saw her and three days ongoing, i got hateful glowers from her, in spite of me smiling at her a lil, just gentle smiles, to show no hard feelings, so i gave up smiling and ignored her...and then she wanted to make up.... i would never keep people on who are so full of themselves as to glower for three days
Author darkmoon Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 (edited) I think we need more information about exactly what happened. How long have you known these 2 women? What are the circumstances of the snub? Was it minor/major? What were the plans? A little more information would be helpful in assessing exactly what to do. IMO - snubbing definitely happens when people have no regard for others. And truly, its a lack of class. However, many people think nothing of it. Being almost desperate for friends I would make a few more attempts myself, but if I find that it keeps occurring and is a pattern...move on. Jason READ THIS ONE more info in it <<<< i decided to snub them right back if they can snub so can i i knew them by sight for six months in a bar, we were never even speaking, okay, then one of them starts talking to me, and she was tactless over a situation in the bar, and when i mentioned what she said that was wrong this in a quiet spot away from others, as it all happened we were in a quiet corner, a 30 second quiet chat, pretty much, comprising of 2 sentences, that was it next time i saw her and three days ongoing, i got hateful glowers from her, in spite of me smiling at her a lil, just gentle smiles, to show no hard feelings, so i gave up smiling and ignored her...and then she wanted to make up.... i would never keep people on who are so full of themselves as to glower for 3 days, i hardly know her, but i can see a red flag i know she has a bossy/nasty streak, she let me see it glowering like that...never liked her that much anyway, though i did not mind her, i live and let live, so i gave her an open chance, which she blew Edited June 24, 2014 by darkmoon
mrs rubble Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 READ THIS ONE more info in it <<<< i decided to snub them right back if they can snub so can i i knew them by sight for six months in a bar, we were never even speaking, okay, then one of them starts talking to me, and she was tactless over a situation in the bar, and when i mentioned what she said that was wrong this in a quiet spot away from others, as it all happened we were in a quiet corner, a 30 second quiet chat, pretty much, comprising of 2 sentences, that was it next time i saw her and three days ongoing, i got hateful glowers from her, in spite of me smiling at her a lil, just gentle smiles, to show no hard feelings, so i gave up smiling and ignored her...and then she wanted to make up.... i would never keep people on who are so full of themselves as to glower for 3 days, i hardly know her, but i can see a red flag i know she has a bossy/nasty streak, she let me see it glowering like that...never liked her that much anyway, though i did not mind her, i live and let live, so i gave her an open chance, which she blew So you never knew or spoke to this person before you reprimanded her over a lack of tact?? Yet you wonder why she was glowering at you!!!! You think she has a bossy/nasty streak!! In my world unsolicited advice offered by a stranger/aquaintance is bossy/nasty....and raises red flags. 1
Author darkmoon Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 (edited) So you never knew or spoke to this person before you reprimanded her over a lack of tact?? Yet you wonder why she , was glowering at you!!!! You think she has a bossy/nasty streak!! In my world unsolicited advice offered by a stranger/aquaintance is bossy/nasty....and raises red flags. all she had to do was ignore me if she did not like me, it was not about advice as you assume, but my personal safety, she could have said yes okay and bonded with me all girls stick together!!! do you not feel protective of other women in potentially dangerous situations??? yes/no < i would like to think you say yes, all girls should stick together, tbh, this post was about whether to accept back somebody who snubbed me, i snubbed her back, she is known to be not to nice, tbh, i asked around no point arguing here, i am glad to see the back of her, knowing to choose my friends with care, night night xx Edited June 25, 2014 by darkmoon
mrs rubble Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 all she had to do was ignore me if she did not like me, it was not about advice as you assume, but my personal safety, she could have said yes okay and bonded with me all girls stick together!!! do you not feel protective of other women in potentially dangerous situations??? yes/no < i would like to think you say yes, all girls should stick together, tbh, this post was about whether to accept back somebody who snubbed me, i snubbed her back, she is known to be not to nice, tbh, i asked around no point arguing here, i am glad to see the back of her, knowing to choose my friends with care, night night xx I'm protecteive of anyone in a volitile situation. Male or female, but we all have the responsibility of keeping ourselves out of harms way.(maybe the bar you're frequenting is a bad choice.) They way you described events above it sounds like you were critical of someone you hardly knew and called her out on being "tactless". I personally think that is pretty tactless. As for snubbing, I think that sort of behaviour is so immature I find it ridiculous. If someone was snubbing me, I'd probably stick my tongue out at them to get on a level they understood.
Author darkmoon Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 (edited) I'm protecteive of anyone in a volitile situation. Male or female, but we all have the responsibility of keeping ourselves out of harms way.(maybe the bar you're frequenting is a bad choice.) They way you described events above it sounds like you were critical of someone you hardly knew and called her out on being "tactless". I personally think that is pretty tactless. As for snubbing, I think that sort of behaviour is so immature I find it ridiculous. If someone was snubbing me, I'd probably stick my tongue out at them to get on a level they understood. i was glad to see the back of her Edited June 25, 2014 by darkmoon
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