openipy Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I am not really feeling good about my current relationship because as time goes by, things start to add up and I felt like my boyfriend has feelings to my friend. The first time I had the feeling is when he found out she's sleeping with his best friend. They were at a party and when he realized that he stormed out. He was even mad at me for hiding this from him, which I think is a ridiculous reaction.it's not like I was sleeping with his best friend... I don't understand. So after awhile he apologized about yelling at me and said he just really doesn't like it when people lie to him. So okay fine I will take that. And the next thing is that before we started dating, when we were just all friends, he acts like they are more than friends. Even when he's sick, he'd go to a movie with her. He'd reply her texts sooo quickly ( we were all in the same group chat so I knew. My phone waa blowing up all the time because of that group, which only has 3 of us in there) however since we've been together, sometimes I brought us that we should do something and hede say yes but we never did any of those things. Action speaks louder than words. Even though he's sweet sometimes but I felt like he would never treat me like the way he treats her. And there were some other tiny things. But what really got onto my nerve again was that yesterday the girl asks if my boyfriend and I want to hangout with her and one of her guy friend and I rejected because some deadlines were coming up. Then she kept asking my boyfriend to hangout with them while he said no because he too was stuck at work. Then my boyfriend texted me and asked me if she was mad. He then confirmed that she was mad and seems to be bothered by that. At that point I was a bit upset and told him honestly I don't care if she's mad..... Then he was like yea I guess she'll get over it. I am all new to the whole dating scene so I might be the ridiculous /super clingy chick here. But my gut is telling me he's caring way too much about her and that he doesn't has his priority straight. Please tell me what you guys think and thankyou in advance!!
JungleLover Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 His behavior toward your friend is peculiar but you failed to describe his behavior toward you which is most important.
jbelle6 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 What you describe is pretty vague but I do know that I didn't always listen to my gut but now I ALWAYS do, it's never done me wrong.
Author openipy Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Please tell me what kind of details should I include. Anyways as I said I attempted to make plan and he always agree on doing stuffs, but never actually make time for those stuffs. He told me he'd cook for me and he never did. While on the other hand, when she suggests to do someything they always do it. I wonder if he's with me just because im convinent. We both have busy schedule but I'd always try to make time for him when he initiates hanging out (newbieeeee). When he suggests hanging out I'd say there is 30% chance he'd be stuck at work, but then he'll always initiate next date. That girl right now is out of town for school and when she's here and before we started dating theyd hangout every weekend and probably 3days during the week. She doesnt really have much stuffs going on, and she's just a really firty person.
JungleLover Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Well, this doesn't sound good. There is no right way of handling this but I will tell you how I would handle it and it is right for me. I would point out all of what you just said in your last post to him and say " I don't think it will work out between us" and really be prepared to be done. If he wants to try to get his act together and you think he is worth giving him a shot at it again then give him a shot and see if he actually gets it together. If he tries to argue with you, then just walk away without the argument. If you participate in any argument then you lose.
Author openipy Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Right now I'm just ignoring him. He wanted to hangout tonight but I'm still upset. It's just I agree with junglelover even though I don't wamt to... I think I will talk to him tomorrow and see how things go.
Versacehottie Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I don't know for sure but: i don't like it. sorry.
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