runaway Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 26 year old guy here. I've met many girls/women in the last five years or so, but I gotta admit I have not been all that successful at keeping them interested in me for a long time. I've gone on two dates with this beautiful girl so far. First date was about 10 days ago, second date last night. We went to a nice, quiet bar for our first date, and I think it went pretty well. Brief kiss at the end of the night. We started flirting through texts after that. Some days I would text first, and on other days she would text me first. For our second date, we did Paint Nite because both she and I have a little bit of artistic bent. I had fun, and she said she loved it. Hand holding throughout the night and kissing at the end of the night. I texted her this afternoon to kinda get the momentum going again, but I don't think I was as funny as usual. I really want to get to know this girl better, so I want to land 3rd, 4th, and 5th dates. I have been flirting with her a lot, so I wonder if it's time for me to take a step back until she starts chasing me again. I am not all that great at this dating game, so I would like some input from those who are successful! Advice and examples are welcome!
JungleLover Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Take it one date at a time. Don't be afraid to screw up and forgive yourself if you do. This is not a hostage situation and as long as you treat it like it is not, you should continue to be fine.
jbelle6 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I think taking it slow is a good idea. I don't really date much, I will put that disclaimer first, but from reading on here it seems that it can take a few dates until someone decides if there is enough "spark" there for things to carry on. I probably wouldn't get overly invested the first few dates, easier said than done though I'm sure. Seems to be common that the first or second dates go well then fizzle off for some reason or another. I would dial it back a bit, but I would still ask her on a third date. Good luck!
d0nnivain Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Stop trying to flirt or build a relationship artificially through electronics. Daily communication is not required & if you start there, you have no place to go once the relationship solidifies & she will question why you dropped off. Pick up the phone & call her. Ask her out on another date. Be flirty & charming in person. That is sooooo much better than electronics. 1
Gaeta Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Be yourself, don't try to be funny all the time, once in a while is ok but we don't want to be dating someone that is trying too hard. If she likes you there is little you can do to turn her off, if she's not into you she'll use your first mistake to bail out. Anyway you look at it you have no control over if it will develop into something or not. Also, less texting and more calling. I grow found of a man much more by hearing his voice then reading his text. Make your voice become something familiar she is looking forward to hear. Give her a call in a couple of days to invite her on a 3rd date. 3
katinlc Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I would also warn that if you "pull back" and change from how you have been doing things, the girl will notice and start questioning if your interest is waning. My thoughts are if it is working and she's into you, just enjoy it, keep doing what you're doing, and don't worry about these silly games of who's chasing who. 1
GemmaUK Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 You say later in your post 'I have been flirting a lot' (and it's your thread title). I need more info on specifics of your meaning of flirting. What are your messages like? Post a few.
Author runaway Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 We were talking about our middle names once Me: It's so dope that you'll fall in love with me. In case you haven't her: hahaha now I have to know. Mine is boring. Emma (not her real middle name but just using it for this post) me: luckily your first name is sexy her: ha only bc ppl think of _______ (famous female celebrity who has the same first name) me: she's sexy too her: she is pretty attractive. i have a girl crush on her hahaha me: oh nice, you like girls too! Where have you been all my life??? her: haha not in that way. Sorry to burst your bubble. I would like to look like her. me: Why would one wanna look like someone who is not on her level? I don't get it. her: Well aren't you just a charmer. I like it:love: me: I am just a blunt/honest guy her: Both qualities I like in a man She went to a big concert one time. me: so what's your relationship with him (lead vocalist) now? Friend? New groupie? mistress? her: strictly friends (which is not true because she probably never met him). Come on he's too old for me! Mistress, gross! me: But he's a rich rock star. Thought girls were into that stuff her: yes many are. I prefer to stick to younger men (she's a year older) me: certainly can't go wrong. We are like the fountain of youth, you know. her: haha yes you are. I need a fountain of youth. Last exchange between us (day after our date #2) me: I wish we had crashed that ______ ball last night. Looked so fun her: haha I was wondering what it was like when I saw them taking everything down this morning me: the live band sounded pretty good. You were certainly dressed appropriately for that yesterday. That black dress you wore yesterday (emoji emoticon for a perfect score) her: haha it's a casual dress. Not quite formal enough for a ball. me: So, are you telling me you can look even more elegant??? her: Haha I can me: God dayuuuuuuuuuum Seeing is believing though her: haha maybe one day me: (emoticon of a smiling devil) We haven't texted since then.
Author runaway Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 should i just call/text her tonight? If yes, call or text?
Assasda Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Yeah, It sounds fine. You didnt text any unnecessary "How are you?" Texts. You were pretty friendly. Yeah< I think that you should give her a phone call and actually talk to her. THat would be nice. If at some point you feel she is not reciprocating, you might just have to back off a little bit. because after all, you are a prize
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