Gaeta Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 So exactly 1 year ago I went on a few dates with this guy. On our 3rd date we ended up in bed. A few minutes in and condom broke! We got a good scare. After that incident we got in touch a few times but it slowly died. He just gave me a call. He said he was cleaning his phone, came across my number, and felt like getting back in touch with me. So we talked about life since last year and he asked if he could call again. How do you handle these boomrangs? He said he did not date this past year, he changed job and a bunch of stuff happened.
hopefullove Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I am polite. then I treat them like any other person I just met. If there is something there again, then I might agree to see them to catch up and see what happens. 1
J21 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 If you aren't dating anyone, and he's not dating anyone, and things didn't end on a bad note, why not give it another shot? Sometimes stuff happens, people get busy, and timing isn't ideal first time around. 2
MissBee Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 So exactly 1 year ago I went on a few dates with this guy. On our 3rd date we ended up in bed. A few minutes in and condom broke! We got a good scare. After that incident we got in touch a few times but it slowly died. He just gave me a call. He said he was cleaning his phone, came across my number, and felt like getting back in touch with me. So we talked about life since last year and he asked if he could call again. How do you handle these boomrangs? He said he did not date this past year, he changed job and a bunch of stuff happened. If nothing particularly bad happened and I'm interested I may take them up on the offer. If however things ended for very good reason or I'm simply not that interested then I am polite but don't really go beyond that. Are you interested? Was there something worth pursuing or are you so so about him? 1
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Depends on how they treat me in the moment right then and there....the past is gone........if it is genuine i will know.....if i feel its genuine and not a crock they want to try again.....ill go ahead and give them a chance....i know things happen people have regret or a time that wasnt right for them...if i like them at heart level they get a chance to show me they are genuine but i am on guard until i feel that honesty and genuine respect for me as a person and not something to throw away and discard when they have a better offer..............deb
Author Gaeta Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 If nothing particularly bad happened and I'm interested I may take them up on the offer. If however things ended for very good reason or I'm simply not that interested then I am polite but don't really go beyond that. Are you interested? Was there something worth pursuing or are you so so about him? No nothing bad happened. Of course I was disappointed that the incident acted like a cold shower on him but it was then and he had his reasons. I was interested in him but that was last year. Again he is younger, 10 years younger. I just broke up with someone 12 years younger, it doesn't look like the right type of men for me.
FitChick Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 He probably doesn't know you are older so your age is irrelevant. Besides, ten years younger is perfect for me. If you want older men, go back to the place where you flirted with the married guy by text. Maybe you'll meet another older businessman.
Leigh 87 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I dont respond to boomerangs. As you know, I prefer guys to be head over heels for me. Boomerangs were never head over heels hence why they let me go. 1
JungleLover Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 (edited) Handle like you wish. Really, every thing in dating doesn't have to be handled like you are difusing a bomb. Many times people just put too much thought into something that should progress naturally. Do you want to talk to him more? If yes, then do so and enjoy dating and developing relationships with others. Edited June 21, 2014 by JungleLover 3
MidwestUSA Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 No nothing bad happened. Of course I was disappointed that the incident acted like a cold shower on him but it was then and he had his reasons. I was interested in him but that was last year. Again he is younger, 10 years younger. I just broke up with someone 12 years younger, it doesn't look like the right type of men for me. I'd be worried that 'the incident' was like a cold shower. What do you mean? A shame that after the scare you didn't jump back in the sack with some higher quality condoms. Do you feel as if he handled it like an adult?
Author Gaeta Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 I'd be worried that 'the incident' was like a cold shower. What do you mean? A shame that after the scare you didn't jump back in the sack with some higher quality condoms. Do you feel as if he handled it like an adult? Yes he did fine, he did not leave, it just cooled things and we got into other things. At that time his daughter was 1 year old, I think the mom got pregnant under circumstances like this. He probably did not have sex the rest of the year lol, He ended the call with 'can I call you later tonight' but I did not hear from him. Maybe he just wanted to know if he had another kid somewhere lol. 1
Author Gaeta Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 So him and I exchanged polite texts over this past week. Today he asked when he would be able to see me again. I said I thought I scared the heck out of him last year. He replied I did not scare him off, his head was some place else and he would love to start back right where he left off last year. Considering he left it off in the bedroom, is that an invitation to start back there? Am I being too suspicious?
Dallers Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 If you did not want to try again you would not have text him back He knows this, as a guy I would know this. I cannot speak for him but he could be looking for an easy ride. In all honesty I would be, in this situation. This is the only reason I return to where I have been before. Sex. Once something has been and gone. Leave it in the past. Unless you are up for just no strings fun. 1
Author Gaeta Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 If you did not want to try again you would not have text him back He knows this, as a guy I would know this. I cannot speak for him but he could be looking for an easy ride. In all honesty I would be, in this situation. This is the only reason I return to where I have been before. Sex. Once something has been and gone. Leave it in the past. Unless you are up for just no strings fun. Sucks I want a boyfriend, not a hook up.
Assasda Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 He immediately came back into her life and put her on the pedestal. I dont think OP wants to go with him anyway
Dallers Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Sucks I want a boyfriend, not a hook up. This is a hook up! No man suddenly comes across a girl in his phonebook....goodness that is the oldest trick in the book. I am bored, I am single, I could really do with some fun. Hmmmmm I have this girls number and it reached the bedroom on the third date. Lets make up a simple story that has been used by every guy in history. If you want a hook up. Hook up. Otherwise ignore and I bet he will pass by without any persistence. 1
Author Gaeta Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 hhmm ok, that's why when I said : sure we can do something when you're free. He said 'nice' and nothing else, no plan, no availability. I didn't say wanna come over!
Author Gaeta Posted June 26, 2014 Author Posted June 26, 2014 hahaha he just text: How about next Monday I spend the night with you. God I am naive !! Can you believe I am 48 and THIS naive.
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