pappa k Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I want to detach from my ex but can't because our daughter . It's ****ty I don't want to see her or hear from her but we have to talk because our daughter . Any advice ? 1
somegoodman Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Try this. Whenever you must talk with her, only communicate through email. Refuse any other form of communication. Keep your emails cold and impersonal, like you're addressing a complete stranger. Example: "Will get Kailey after practice. Will return at 645. Signed, (your full name)." Avoid seeing her at all costs and stick to short business like emails. You don't owe her anything so don't fall for it when she tries to guilt trip you (she will).
Author pappa k Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 Try this. Whenever you must talk with her, only communicate through email. Refuse any other form of communication. Keep your emails cold and impersonal, like you're addressing a complete stranger. Example: "Will get Kailey after practice. Will return at 645. Signed, (your full name)." Avoid seeing her at all costs and stick to short business like emails. You don't owe her anything so don't fall for it when she tries to guilt trip you (she will). I can't I have to go into her house and drop off our daughter She's 8 months old .
livingnightmare Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 I can't I have to go into her house and drop off our daughter She's 8 months old . Can you get a family member to act as go between? I had the same problem.
Author pappa k Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 Probably not. It may seem childish and probably is but I haven't even been looking at her while we're trading off our daughter. It hurts me to look at her because I love her so much.
Itspointless Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Probably not. It may seem childish and probably is but I haven't even been looking at her while we're trading off our daughter. It hurts me to look at her because I love her so much. That doesn't sound childish at all. 1
Haydn Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 You are going to have to deal with this for your daughters sake. She comes first. You ex does not. It will wear off once you get back out in the world. 2
JDPT Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 You are not emotionally ready for any of this. I would build up the strength to community with your ex, when necessary and with regards to your daughter of course. As suggested previously, keep communication very matter of fact and straight to the point. 1
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