almost 2 years and still not over him

[sammy123]

Its been almost 2 years and still not over him, we broke up over religion. He felt like I didn't respect his beliefs but I did and would have even gotten married to him even if he didn't have the same beliefs I had but he didn't feel the same way about me. Anyways, its been really hard for me because I loved him a lot. I've tried to get over him we stopped texting and calling each other, been talking to other guys but its just not the same. I don't know what to do. We dated for almost 1 year.

[edgygirl]

I'm sorry to hear sweetie. I've been there quite a few years ago.

 

I spent almost 3 years grieving and not being able to move on.

 

But... one day somehow the magic happens. You meet other people, you stop idolizing that old relationship... you don't think about them as much.

 

Little by little, you see that you're thinking less and less about them.

 

Until one day you wake up and you say to yourself: "you know, even if he comes back and begs... I don't think I'd want him anymore."

 

And one day you'll see you really don't.

 

I just had a breakup with the first guy I think I loved for real since this ex 5 years ago, so I'm quite sentimental. It made me look up the old ex for the first time in around 1-2 years. I saw his picture today. I felt nothing. I thought I was happy for him that he's probably well. I didn't hate, or hurt or loved him anymore. It feels so great to know that something that can hurt our soul so much can also eventually go away. No one is irrepleaceable and there are other magnificent people out there.

 

I'm here in the breakup forum because I'm hurt again, and I have to remind myself that one day it's going to be alright although it doesn't feel like that right now, not even for me.

 

Hang in there. The best thing you can do is trying to stop idealizing the relationship, it ended for a reason, and there must be someone else that will accept you for ** you ** without thinking you're disrespecting them or so.