equestrian4life Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Hey there everyone! I'm new here and in some serious need of advice. I apologize because this is probably going to be long. haha I've known this guy since October, who is here in my hometown for the summer. We hadn't hung out really since we didn't personally know each other that well (we would talk when we saw each other), but we saw each other around and he friended me on facebook. About two weeks ago a mutual friend invited us both over to hangout together. We immediately hit it off and have been hanging out almost everyday since then. He cuddles with me and even kissed me and tells me how much he likes me. He also said that he's been waiting since October for the chance to have an excuse to hangout with me. He texts me and tells me he can't wait to see me again and how he cares about me and just sweet talks me. I told him I really like him too, we have so much in common and he's just a sweet guy. Well four days ago we were hanging out watching a movie and kissing and things kind of got carried away and we ended up messing around with each other.. It was freaking amazing and he was telling me the whole time how much he likes me. Later that night we were texting and I admitted to him that I had never been in a physical relationship with anyone that I wasn't committed to and I'm not really into the whole FWB thing and that I liked him more than that. He told me that I meant a lot more than that to him and that he cared about me more than a FWB situation and he would talk to me about it the next time we saw eachother. Then we went to sleep. Well 2 nights ago we hungout and cuddled and messed around a little bit. He kept saying how he wanted to date me and he really liked me...which is the usual. Afterwards when we were just laying there talking and he told me that he really liked me and he considered us exclusive, that he wasn't talking to anyone else and didn't have any intentions to be with anyone else but that we aren't "bf/gf" because he has problems with labels and people who expect things and he has a tendency to not talk to people as much as they like. He said to give it some more time and he promises it will all work out. I told him that I wasn't going to keep on with the physical stuff because I like him more than that and I feel like personally the whole physical stuff should be when you have a commitment. He said that's fine and that he just enjoys hanging out with me, then he told me he would see me soon, kissed my forehead and I left. The thing I am confused about is that we act exactly like we are dating. He calls me baby, holds my hand in public, and tells me he wants to date. I honestly have never heard of the whole "we're just exclusive thing" because I always thought that exclusive and dating were the same? So what exactly is the difference? Do you think this guy actually likes me like he says or is he just wanting the physical stuff? Also he is leaving in a week for a month then he will be here till September when he goes back to college which is an hour away from me. I've just never been in this situation before and I'm not really sure if I should just wait it out or move on. I really do like him and even though we haven't been hanging out long, I don't want to keep on with the physical stuff and really falling for him and then it never amounting to anything more than that. TIA!
Assasda Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Ok, you guys are exclusive. Thats what your BF said, am I right? So where is the confustion here? You have yourself a BF 1
Author equestrian4life Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Ok, you guys are exclusive. Thats what your BF said, am I right? So where is the confustion here? You have yourself a BF Sorry if what I wrote didn't make sense I was in a hurry. He said that we were exclusive but not bf/gf. I don't understand what the difference is in being exclusive and being bf/gf. haha
Assasda Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 No difference in my opinion. You should just go ahead and call him your BF, if thats what you want to do 2
todreaminblue Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 i have a problem with saying this is my boyfriend it feels awkward..and a liiiiiitle creepy.maybe because i am older ...but partner to me implies exclusivity...until i say partner i introduce them as my friend which to me is more than just a friend.....if they are actually just friends i say their name and that's it...... 1
cupic Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 As a guy i also have trouble with the title thing, but i am all for making the commitment about exclusivity. This is a yong romance, give it time to bloom before you go and put a lable on it. Guys hate that kind of stuff. If he's commiting to being yours and only yours, it doesnt matter what you call each other. As you get older you will also understand that introducing someone as your BF/GF just sounds so... i dunno... immature and young. 1
Elle1975 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 we aren't "bf/gf" because he has problems with labels I'd have a problem with that. I put myself in that kind of situation once, never again. So.. unless he puts a "label" on it, I'd consider it FWB. I have no problem saying "This is my boyfriend <name>". Or him saying "this is my girl, gf, partner, etc" 1
kart180 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 As you get older you will also understand that introducing someone as your BF/GF just sounds so... i dunno... immature and young. I do agree, labels is a but immature, If she says oh this is my friend its cool with me. Just not to be a stranger
Author equestrian4life Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 As a guy i also have trouble with the title thing, but i am all for making the commitment about exclusivity. This is a yong romance, give it time to bloom before you go and put a lable on it. Guys hate that kind of stuff. If he's commiting to being yours and only yours, it doesnt matter what you call each other. As you get older you will also understand that introducing someone as your BF/GF just sounds so... i dunno... immature and young. This is exactly what my friend said also, thanks!
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