LoveFloats Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Any advice getting through a dating slump?? I've been talking to, going on, and trying to get to know various guys with no luck....makes me feel as though I will never meet someone I click with, or likes me back. It's so hard to remain positive after so many failed attempts! I was talking with someone for a while, and he out of the blue stopped takling to me and wont return any messages which has been hard on me.
FitChick Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Look at it this way. You have to date an unknown number of frogs before you find your prince. Then you will know he was worth waiting for and appreciate him more.
TXGuy Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 That is a tough place to be. Keep trying, but don't send more than two unreturned texts/emails. Just move on at that point. Ignoring two (or more) messages in a row is OLD code for "while I think you are a wonderful person and I'm sure you will make someone very happy, I don't think we are a match. Good luck with your search."
Gaeta Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Someone asked you this in your other thread but I don't remember seeing the answer: Are your pictures accurate? Do you have many of them? Some closed up and some from head to toe? If things always abort after that first date I suspect your profile is as accurate as it should be. I did the mistake of going on a date once with a man that had 1 picture shoulders up. When I saw him come out of his car I almost fainted, he was close to 400-lbs.
Author LoveFloats Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Actually most of the time its people I’ve just been texting that suddenly stop contact. My pictures are fairly recent, and I don’t think im ugly and somewhat attractive…Just need to try to remain positive, although its hard!
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Mix up what you are doing to meet new people. Don't only rely on one method, especially if that one method is OLD.
GemmaUK Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Any advice getting through a dating slump?? I've been talking to, going on, and trying to get to know various guys with no luck....makes me feel as though I will never meet someone I click with, or likes me back. It's so hard to remain positive after so many failed attempts! I was talking with someone for a while, and he out of the blue stopped takling to me and wont return any messages which has been hard on me. You mention 'won't return any messages'. If you send more than one message and don't wait for a response that can feel pretty overwhelming and can come across as needy to the recipient. Maybe just relax a bit..take a break from dating and explore your own hobbies or find some new ones to enjoy.
Assasda Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I think the key to feel a little better, is to have fun. Have fun meeting these new guys, and go along for the experience, try not not have any expectations, and you'll feel a lot better 1
Gaeta Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Actually most of the time its people I’ve just been texting that suddenly stop contact. My pictures are fairly recent, and I don’t think im ugly and somewhat attractive…Just need to try to remain positive, although its hard! People you've been texting? Are you referring to people you text before a first date or after? Here is something I don't do, I don't text with a man I have not met yet. I keep him online till a date is set. When the date is set then we exchange our phone numbers in case something happens and we need to cancel or delay last minute. We can also call to have a feel of each other on the phone before meeting but in noway I will start daily text (or random text) someone I have not met. After the first date then there should be a decision if we meet again or not. When the date ends if you liked him then in person, or by text after the date, tell the man you enjoyed yourself and it would be your pleasure to meet again. The guy will say yes or no. Then, you set a second date. NO texting back and forth if he has not set a second date or shown an interest to see you again. You may think I have too many personal rules but by acting this way every man I met expressed the desire to see me again. I did not tell them everything about me online or on text before meeting so I keep their curiosity alive. That is the exact same reason why I never add a man to my FB. I am not offering myself on a silver platter, if he wants to get to know me it will be by spending time with me.
Author LoveFloats Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Thanks Gaeta! I like that..I'm definitely going to try that out!
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