completelyconfused07 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 (edited) My relationship for the past year has been off & on. Super connected guy to me, all the same hobbies, all the same outlooks on life, going the same direction & he talked to me with such intelligence.. I feel like I don't get that from many people. Sadly, he would lie a lot, sneak around w an ex but never cheat, supposedly, see other people who he dated before who I told him I was very uncomfortable with the thought & hated how he would disrespect me. He's gotten physical a few times. But regardless, I loved him through it. We did everything together. After the last few months I was just over it.. every time he'd be mad & not talk to me for 3 days, because he needs to cool off, I'd talk to someone else. Recently started seeing a guy I used to date a little over a year ago and I really like him. Yet can't leave my old relationship? I'm not happy with the old guy, but the connection & the feelings I did have make me stay. But the feelings I know I could have for the new guy.. My old guy now says he dropped his ex, dropped other women, completely all about me now, wants to please me, wants to return my love everything. He's doing everything......... Everything I needed 6 months ago. What do I do? I really feel like I'm losing something great, but at the same time I'm not. He now agrees he never treated me properly, he's surprised I stayed so long, ect. For the past month we've talked once a week and it was great then I just ignored him the rest of the week. I feel weak when I see him like yess the feelings are there, and the next day they're gone as long as I don't see him I feel like I'm doing right then I see him and it's back. Though, I really want to pursue with this new guy. I know my old guy is now down to love me through anything, how can I be sure about this new guy? Am I just comfortable in the relationship, though I feel like he had his chance & he's trying too late to save the relationship - I don't care anymore. How do you know it's right leaving someone? Edited June 19, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Zahara Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 How do you know it's right leaving someone? When -- he would lie a lot, sneak around w an ex but never cheat, supposedly, see other people who he dated before who I told him I was very uncomfortable with the thought & hated how he would disrespect me. He's gotten physical a few times. 2
Smarty Pants Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 It's right to leave someone when you have to come on these boards and ask other people. You already know it's time to leave. You just need validation from others. I will never understand people who want to "jump ship". If one person doesn't make you happy, leave the relationship. It shouldn't happen just because someone else comes into the picture. 1
Author completelyconfused07 Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Just wanted unbiased feedback. All my friends in real life say the same things. Not saying I jumped ship, just time after time saying he was never going to call her again, going to control his anger, never going to throw my belongings outside, never going to call me names again, never going to do so much **** I just got tired of it. Because it was a cycle of doing the same things with me always being there. But now all of a sudden he wants to try & do everything I needed long ago.
Smarty Pants Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Words are words. His actions should speak volumes to you. 1
Chi townD Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Who says you have to be in a relationship right now? Why can't you take some time for yourself and get to love yourself and be single for a while? 3
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