nerd Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I'm no dating expert. I was never the homecoming queen or the hot piece everybody wanted to nail. I didn't date much at ALL until later college. Uhh.... You know, there are many of us out here who would consider late college to be pretty ****ing early? 1
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 another point op i want you to know...i am an ex hooker slept with a unknown number of men when i like a guy i become liek a little girl my face goes red ....i stumble with words........i get extremely hurt and rejected i get that too.....no matter how much sex i have had it doesnt make me confident until i trust the guy i am with......if i cant trust me i cant trust them thats why i struggle....i am scared crapless with a man i am in love with, so can hardly look at him...he is a good guy maybe...not quite sure........... so i put on this personality full of fight and bravado like i dont care and when i go home i cry myself to sleep with my frustration i couldnt just say hello properly..never feeling good enough and knowing i am an ex hooker he may not respect me....so many twists in my logic.....i developed multiple personalities from trauma..i had no choice......which i accept and am working out how to live with.......is that proof enough.......sex doesnt solve social inabilities for everyone not for me and probably i would say not for you.....you cant pay women to like you .....thats it.....you wont be paying them and you will know it........sorry one of my personalities is ocd.........i cant let it go..tried....failed.........i want to help you........without sex.......without pay ...i just want to help...so talk to me ...ill save you some money..invest that in the very best fro the dat eyou get in the future.....and you can have a blast........deb 1
Author SJC2008 Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 I would like to apologise to the op for losing my cool and taking the thread off topic, i will have the post removed where i completely lost it.....it wasnt appropriate and for that i am sorry Deb you don't have to apologize. You have a unique experience with this and it strikes a cord. It's ok! You give some the most honest advice here and I appreciate that. 1
Author SJC2008 Posted June 21, 2014 Author Posted June 21, 2014 I think a lot of people either read the title of a thread and jump to a take or they skim the OP and come to their conclusion before trying to understand where the OP is coming from. I'm seeing things I posted taken slightly out of context and I had a question asked to me where the answer is in the OP, the *first* paragraph to be exact! Anyhew, before going down this potential road I told myself I'd never pay for sex (I still haven't). But a man can go hungry for so long before he starts dumpster diving. So is the fact that I considered this irrational? I don't think so. Hell, many men in my shoes probably "broke" a long time before I did. There are tons of people in relationships who can’t be alone for five minutes and will jump into the arms of someone else the minute it’s over. I’ve had sex twice in my life and if you add every date and courtship of my life together it would be about three months. So from 18 to 32 I’ve been alone 14 years and three months. I clearly stated that I had apprehensions and said STDs aside because it's obvious that should be the first thing that comes to mind and I clearly stated that I’d feel guilty about it but thought I’d get over it. The main reason I was gonna go down this path is because I'm horny as all get out and don't feel like nor do I have the drive to try to pull a ONS. I'm not opposed to a ONS here and there but I'd rather have sex in an R anyway and there can be ambiguity with a ONS and I don’t want to use someone. Check my posting history on any sex thread and you'll find my views on sex are a little to the right (conservative) of middle of the road. I did say I think it will help with my confidence and sexual shame I didn't say I think it would *heal* it. I felt this way because after two "green" experiences I'm ready to acutally enjoy sex and I won't be fumbling aroun and I wanted to get one “real” sesson in so I have some more exp under my belt when I start dating again. When it comes so social anxiety it ranges from light to severe. I’d say mine is moderate, I’m not “afraid” to leave the house. I make friends, do things, “shoot the shyt”. My other three problems are insecurity, sexual shame and fear of women. So if I had to put everything as a percentage my social anxiety is probably 15%, 25% sexual shame, and 60% fear of women and insecurity but the insecurity goes into all categories obviously. As far as looking at myself and stepping out of my comfort zone I have and have failed. You can only look at yourself so much before it makes you more insecure. Besides, there are tons of people who are married and in R’s who wouldn’t look at themselves. However there is something I haven’t done and now I’m ready to do and it deals with the sexual shame part. I’ve known about this for a year, I didn’t want to do it but now I have to and I feel like I’m ready. It’s kind of like therapy. As to all the people who said I’d be a user or aren’t a man because I do mental gymnastics about making decisions, you’re entitled to your opinions but let me tell you something. I’ve done some great things in life and some very manly things and I’m not going to go into details and qualify myself to anyone. I was very close to doing this and I believe God stepped in and had a hand in stopping this. I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me as there are people who have been through worse in life for sure.I do want you to empathize though, there’s a difference. I did see a lot of that though and I do appreciate it. I think a lot of people either read the title of a thread and jump to a take or they skim the OP and come to their conclusion before trying to understand where the OP is coming from. I'm seeing things I posted taken slightly out of context and I had a question asked to me where the answer is in the OP, the *first* paragraph to be exact! Anyhew, before going down this potential road I told myself I'd never pay for sex (I still haven't). But a man can go hungry for so long before he starts dumpster diving. So is the fact that I considered this irrational? I don't think so. Hell, many men in my shoes probably "broke" a long time before I did. There are tons of people in relationships who can’t be alone for five minutes and will jump into the arms of someone else the minute it’s over. I’ve had sex twice in my life and if you add every date and courtship of my life together it would be about three months. So from 18 to 32 I’ve been alone 14 years and three months. I clearly stated that I had apprehensions and said STDs aside because it's obvious that should be the first thing that comes to mind and I clearly stated that I’d feel guilty about it but thought I’d get over it. The main reason I was gonna go down this path is because I'm horny as all get out and don't feel like nor do I have the drive to try to pull a ONS. I'm not opposed to a ONS here and there but I'd rather have sex in an R anyway and there can be ambiguity with a ONS and I don’t want to use someone. Check my posting history on any sex thread and you'll find my views on sex are a little to the right (conservative) of middle of the road. I did say I think it will help with my confidence and sexual shame I didn't say I think it would *heal* it. I felt this way because after two "green" experiences I'm ready to acutally enjoy sex and I won't be fumbling aroun and I wanted to get one “real” sesson in so I have some more exp under my belt when I start dating again. When it comes so social anxiety it ranges from light to severe. I’d say mine is moderate, I’m not “afraid” to leave the house. I make friends, do things, “shoot the shyt”. My other three problems are insecurity, sexual shame and fear of women. So if I had to put everything as a percentage my social anxiety is probably 15%, 25% sexual shame, and 60% fear of women and insecurity but the insecurity goes into all categories obviously. As far as looking at myself and stepping out of my comfort zone I have and have failed. You can only look at yourself so much before it makes you more insecure. Besides, there are tons of people who are married and in R’s who wouldn’t look at themselves. However there is something I haven’t done and now I’m ready to do and it deals with the sexual shame part. I’ve known about this for a year, I didn’t want to do it but now I have to and I feel like I’m ready. It’s kind of like therapy. As to all the people who said I’d be a user or aren’t a man because I do mental gymnastics about making decisions, you’re entitled to your opinions but let me tell you something. I’ve done some great things in life and some very manly things and I’m not going to go into details and qualify myself to anyone. I was very close to doing this and I believe God stepped in and had a hand in stopping this. I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me as there are people who have been through worse in life for sure. I do want you to empathize though, there’s a difference. I did see a lot of that though and I do appreciate it. 1
Candy_Pants Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Hi . I used to be horribly shy and insecure. Then, like some are saying, I stepped out of my comfort zone. I went to dinner, the movies, the park, ALONE!! And I didn't explode, it was awesome!! I got more confidence and ended up moving to another continent. That truly changed my life. What does this have to do with you? Maybe nothing. Maybe everything. You'll never know what will change until you change it. So go out there. Find a legal brothel. Have uninhibited sex. And remember that you're scratching your itch. It'll come back full force. So you've got to keep stepping out of your comfort zone. Be safe and smart. But let go. 1
somedude81 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 If you do decide to sleep with a hooker, be very careful who you tell about it. Some people are more understanding than others. If a woman has shown that she is judgmental or, for some reason is completely against a man sleeping with a prostitute no matter the reason, then really think about if you need to tell her the whole truth or not. IMO, a man having sex with a hooker is the same thing as a woman having a one night stand or even having a FWB. 1
Candy_Pants Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 IMO, a man having sex with a hooker is the same thing as a woman having a one night stand or even having a FWB. No. A man having sex with a prostitute is like a woman having sex with a prostitute... OP, yes, people judge others for their choices. Yes, you should be cautious who you tell. Yes, this will (if you're honest) reduce your chances of finding women to sleep with/date/marry. We all make choices. It's about your happiness ultimately. And IMHO, any woman you're with should accept all of you. Not just the squeaky clean bits. That is the ideal though. 2
somedude81 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 No. A man having sex with a prostitute is like a woman having sex with a prostitute... Nope, nope, nope. For a woman getting laid is so freaking easy that getting a prostitute is basically throwing money away. If men could get laid as easily as women do, prostitutes wouldn't exist. Well, only the very high end one's would still exist because they provide a special service. 2
Candy_Pants Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Nope, nope, nope. For a woman getting laid is so freaking easy that getting a prostitute is basically throwing money away. If men could get laid as easily as women do, prostitutes wouldn't exist. Well, only the very high end one's would still exist because they provide a special service. Yes. Yes. Yes. Getting laid and being satisfied are two very very different things. I'd pay money for amazing sex. Regular sex? Nah. Oh and not to go off topic further, BUT...not all prostitutes are prostituting of their own volition. Pretty sure every dude having a consensual ONS or FWB situation WANTS to be there. Apples and tennis rackets dude. 3
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 I think a lot of people either read the title of a thread and jump to a take or they skim the OP and come to their conclusion before trying to understand where the OP is coming from. I'm seeing things I posted taken slightly out of context and I had a question asked to me where the answer is in the OP, the *first* paragraph to be exact! Anyhew, before going down this potential road I told myself I'd never pay for sex (I still haven't). But a man can go hungry for so long before he starts dumpster diving. So is the fact that I considered this irrational? I don't think so. Hell, many men in my shoes probably "broke" a long time before I did. There are tons of people in relationships who can’t be alone for five minutes and will jump into the arms of someone else the minute it’s over. I’ve had sex twice in my life and if you add every date and courtship of my life together it would be about three months. So from 18 to 32 I’ve been alone 14 years and three months. I clearly stated that I had apprehensions and said STDs aside because it's obvious that should be the first thing that comes to mind and I clearly stated that I’d feel guilty about it but thought I’d get over it. The main reason I was gonna go down this path is because I'm horny as all get out and don't feel like nor do I have the drive to try to pull a ONS. I'm not opposed to a ONS here and there but I'd rather have sex in an R anyway and there can be ambiguity with a ONS and I don’t want to use someone. Check my posting history on any sex thread and you'll find my views on sex are a little to the right (conservative) of middle of the road. I did say I think it will help with my confidence and sexual shame I didn't say I think it would *heal* it. I felt this way because after two "green" experiences I'm ready to acutally enjoy sex and I won't be fumbling aroun and I wanted to get one “real” sesson in so I have some more exp under my belt when I start dating again. When it comes so social anxiety it ranges from light to severe. I’d say mine is moderate, I’m not “afraid” to leave the house. I make friends, do things, “shoot the shyt”. My other three problems are insecurity, sexual shame and fear of women. So if I had to put everything as a percentage my social anxiety is probably 15%, 25% sexual shame, and 60% fear of women and insecurity but the insecurity goes into all categories obviously. As far as looking at myself and stepping out of my comfort zone I have and have failed. You can only look at yourself so much before it makes you more insecure. Besides, there are tons of people who are married and in R’s who wouldn’t look at themselves. However there is something I haven’t done and now I’m ready to do and it deals with the sexual shame part. I’ve known about this for a year, I didn’t want to do it but now I have to and I feel like I’m ready. It’s kind of like therapy. As to all the people who said I’d be a user or aren’t a man because I do mental gymnastics about making decisions, you’re entitled to your opinions but let me tell you something. I’ve done some great things in life and some very manly things and I’m not going to go into details and qualify myself to anyone. I was very close to doing this and I believe God stepped in and had a hand in stopping this. I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me as there are people who have been through worse in life for sure.I do want you to empathize though, there’s a difference. I did see a lot of that though and I do appreciate it. I think a lot of people either read the title of a thread and jump to a take or they skim the OP and come to their conclusion before trying to understand where the OP is coming from. I'm seeing things I posted taken slightly out of context and I had a question asked to me where the answer is in the OP, the *first* paragraph to be exact! Anyhew, before going down this potential road I told myself I'd never pay for sex (I still haven't). But a man can go hungry for so long before he starts dumpster diving. So is the fact that I considered this irrational? I don't think so. Hell, many men in my shoes probably "broke" a long time before I did. There are tons of people in relationships who can’t be alone for five minutes and will jump into the arms of someone else the minute it’s over. I’ve had sex twice in my life and if you add every date and courtship of my life together it would be about three months. So from 18 to 32 I’ve been alone 14 years and three months. I clearly stated that I had apprehensions and said STDs aside because it's obvious that should be the first thing that comes to mind and I clearly stated that I’d feel guilty about it but thought I’d get over it. The main reason I was gonna go down this path is because I'm horny as all get out and don't feel like nor do I have the drive to try to pull a ONS. I'm not opposed to a ONS here and there but I'd rather have sex in an R anyway and there can be ambiguity with a ONS and I don’t want to use someone. Check my posting history on any sex thread and you'll find my views on sex are a little to the right (conservative) of middle of the road. I did say I think it will help with my confidence and sexual shame I didn't say I think it would *heal* it. I felt this way because after two "green" experiences I'm ready to acutally enjoy sex and I won't be fumbling aroun and I wanted to get one “real” sesson in so I have some more exp under my belt when I start dating again. When it comes so social anxiety it ranges from light to severe. I’d say mine is moderate, I’m not “afraid” to leave the house. I make friends, do things, “shoot the shyt”. My other three problems are insecurity, sexual shame and fear of women. So if I had to put everything as a percentage my social anxiety is probably 15%, 25% sexual shame, and 60% fear of women and insecurity but the insecurity goes into all categories obviously. As far as looking at myself and stepping out of my comfort zone I have and have failed. You can only look at yourself so much before it makes you more insecure. Besides, there are tons of people who are married and in R’s who wouldn’t look at themselves. However there is something I haven’t done and now I’m ready to do and it deals with the sexual shame part. I’ve known about this for a year, I didn’t want to do it but now I have to and I feel like I’m ready. It’s kind of like therapy. As to all the people who said I’d be a user or aren’t a man because I do mental gymnastics about making decisions, you’re entitled to your opinions but let me tell you something. I’ve done some great things in life and some very manly things and I’m not going to go into details and qualify myself to anyone. I was very close to doing this and I believe God stepped in and had a hand in stopping this. I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me as there are people who have been through worse in life for sure. I do want you to empathize though, there’s a difference. I did see a lot of that though and I do appreciate it. I was very close to doing this and I believe God stepped in and had a hand in stopping this. I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me as there are people who have been through worse in life for sure. i read every word of your post and this hit me hard in the heart.......with joy.......pure joy....and peace op ....peace for you.....peace fro me too you gave that to me in that sentence ....with gods hand.....that god would touch your heart and stilled that other voice i am wrapped for you.......i wish you well op...and i know it wont be easy ...do not let anyone change your resolve......you are in my prayers that you find a woman who can break through all your barriers and you find her soon......i feel at peace and i was struggling when i read others advice to you to go for it....i know you made the right decision for you...i know it in my heart..............ocddeb
somedude81 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Yes. Yes. Yes. Getting laid and being satisfied are two very very different things. I'd pay money for amazing sex. Regular sex? Nah. If SJC2008 could get laid as easily as the average woman, and only have the boring ole' regular sex, do you think this thread would exist? Oh and not to go off topic further, BUT...not all prostitutes are prostituting of their own volition. Pretty sure every dude having a consensual ONS or FWB situation WANTS to be there. Apples and tennis rackets dude. Eh, that talk is better off for the prostitution mega thread. 2
Anela Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 If SJC2008 could get laid as easily as the average woman, and only have the boring ole' regular sex, do you think this thread would exist? So now regular sex is boring? then what are you complaining about? 1
somedude81 Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 So now regular sex is boring? then what are you complaining about? Oh no, I find regular sex to be amazing. Candy Pants seems to be the one who is bored by it and would never consider paying for it.
readynow Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Oh wait, I just got here! So has OP decided not to use an escort? Poor guy. I must say this though, if we let everyone's bad experiences guide our every move, we would never do anything out of the norm. Even the norm would be out of bounds for some. Oh well. 1
readynow Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Of coursed Enigma, but how do we live then? There's telling people your experience and there's crying and wailing and ensuring people feel your pain so they don't make the same mistakes. On this topic, I haven't been an escort myself so I have no personal experience to back it up with but here in the UK, there was this documentary 'My granny the escort' where old women were prostitutes. Most of these women weren't being used and abused, there was one 80yr old who said she just loved sex so much and wouldn't give it up for anyone. She had just gone through major operation and couldn't wait to get back to work. She showed one of her videos of an encounter and you should have seen the look of pride on her face! There was another who bought her high security home in some remote village so she could practice her 'trade' in peace. Closer to home, there's this lady I was researching my PhD proposal with who told me she was an escort throughout uni and till now. She was born an raised near where I now live with rich parents, had her fancy car and designer clothes, worked with a govt agency. She said she did it for the power it gave her, the feeling she was solving someone's problem by using her pussy. And it made her feel like superwoman:confused:. When she told me this, I truly was like :-o I said all that to say this - there are tons of exploited people out there, just like tons of people who are exploited via jobs, illegal immigration etc. people will always have terrible experiences and I feel for them and thank their gods for 'saving' them from those lives they don't want. What the OP needs to do is find an escort that indeed WANTS to provide that service, that enjoys it and is not being exploited. It may not cure his psychological issues but it might indeed give him some confidence, knowing he has done this before - or whatever he thinks it'll do for him. At least let him try it and make his own mistakes. 2
thefooloftheyear Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 another point op i want you to know...i am an ex hooker slept with a unknown number of men when i like a guy i become liek a little girl my face goes red ....i stumble with words........i get extremely hurt and rejected i get that too.....no matter how much sex i have had it doesnt make me confident until i trust the guy i am with......if i cant trust me i cant trust them thats why i struggle....i am scared crapless with a man i am in love with, so can hardly look at him...he is a good guy maybe...not quite sure........... so i put on this personality full of fight and bravado like i dont care and when i go home i cry myself to sleep with my frustration i couldnt just say hello properly..never feeling good enough and knowing i am an ex hooker he may not respect me....so many twists in my logic.....i developed multiple personalities from trauma..i had no choice......which i accept and am working out how to live with.......is that proof enough.......sex doesnt solve social inabilities for everyone not for me and probably i would say not for you.....you cant pay women to like you .....thats it.....you wont be paying them and you will know it........sorry one of my personalities is ocd.........i cant let it go..tried....failed.........i want to help you........without sex.......without pay ...i just want to help...so talk to me ...ill save you some money..invest that in the very best fro the dat eyou get in the future.....and you can have a blast........deb Well said... As a guy I never understood the logic of thinking that seeing a hooker will solve problems guys have with interacting with women on a sexual level..I think that the less experience a guy has with women, the more damaging the event can be...The "buyers remorse" winds up being huge...He may believe that the only way he can ever get laid is to pay for it...Its a bad deal.. On the other hand, if a guy is generally well grounded emotionally, has had a lot of experience sexually, but doesnt want to go through the dog and pony show of courting and dating to get to sex , but is looking for some "release", then I suppose a visit to a prostitute might be a way to take the edge off..I can see that angle.(.It would also potentially save some poor woman from being an unknowing victim of being used only for sex) TFY 5
Taramere Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 There was an article in Tatler this month about a tradition of upper class boys (in the UK) being sent to prostitutes by their fathers. Often boys as young as 15 being sent along, bundle of cash in hand, to a prostitute. The article started up with an anecdote (by the writer) about a couple of boys playing chess and casually commenting on how their fathers had tried to get them to go to prostitutes - but they (the boys) really hadn't been on for it. I'm with TFY on the notion that if all a guy is looking for is sexual experience then it's really preferable that he go to a professional who's paid to take that role than that he dupe an unsuspecting girl into thinking he likes and wants a relationship with her. So in that sense I think the aristocratic tradition was more honourable than a lot of what I read/hear about today (in terms of PUA stuff). The age at which some of these boys were encouraged, by their fathers, to go to prostitutes seems pretty off though.
MoreCoffee Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Some Op-Ed thoughts that are relevant from Toronto. Original article and thoughts Prostitution bill a foolish fusion of right and left lunacy: DiManno | Toronto Star Prostitution bill will be a failure | Toronto Star
hotpotato Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Some Op-Ed thoughts that are relevant from Toronto. Original article and thoughts Prostitution bill a foolish fusion of right and left lunacy: DiManno | Toronto Star Prostitution bill will be a failure | Toronto Star Well...i think if two consenting adults want to do it, the gubbermint shouldn't stop them. As a woman who's boyfriend cheated with multiple hookers, I still dont think it should be illegal to buy or sell sex. I dont think people should face legally ramifications for their morality, or as some would argue, the lack of it. t will criminalize the purchase of sex, prohibit advertising, target those who might benefit from prostitution — you might call them pimps, many prostitutes call them boyfriends and managers, though actually cohabiting with a lover puts that person at risk of being charged with pimping even if he is not in any way involved with the prostitution activity — and outlaw the sale of sex near schools and any other place where children might reasonably gather, which could reasonably be everywhere. Of course, the government is allowed to benefit from prostitution. Im not sure if Canada has asset forfeiture, but here we do. It's supposedly illegal to benefit from the earning of a prostitute unless you are a cop, judge, prosecutor, etc. Banning prostitution from being around schools is de facto banning prostitution. So, OP, whats the verdict? *grabs popcorn* 2
William Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Since this is my day off, I'll be brief. 1. Take pot shots at fellow members and you'll be instantly suspended, with such varying in length of time depending upon the heinous nature of your transgression. 2. This is not a thread about prostitution. We have a long thread about that topic. It's about the stigma of a man, or men, who have used escorts. Thanks! 1
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 Deb you don't have to apologize. You have a unique experience with this and it strikes a cord. It's ok! You give some the most honest advice here and I appreciate that. thank you sj i appreciate your kindness....deb
todreaminblue Posted June 21, 2014 Posted June 21, 2014 (edited) Of coursed Enigma, but how do we live then? There's telling people your experience and there's crying and wailing and ensuring people feel your pain so they don't make the same mistakes. On this topic, I haven't been an escort myself so I have no personal experience to back it up with but here in the UK, there was this documentary 'My granny the escort' where old women were prostitutes. Most of these women weren't being used and abused, there was one 80yr old who said she just loved sex so much and wouldn't give it up for anyone. She had just gone through major operation and couldn't wait to get back to work. She showed one of her videos of an encounter and you should have seen the look of pride on her face! There was another who bought her high security home in some remote village so she could practice her 'trade' in peace. Closer to home, there's this lady I was researching my PhD proposal with who told me she was an escort throughout uni and till now. She was born an raised near where I now live with rich parents, had her fancy car and designer clothes, worked with a govt agency. She said she did it for the power it gave her, the feeling she was solving someone's problem by using her pussy. And it made her feel like superwoman:confused:. When she told me this, I truly was like :-o I said all that to say this - there are tons of exploited people out there, just like tons of people who are exploited via jobs, illegal immigration etc. people will always have terrible experiences and I feel for them and thank their gods for 'saving' them from those lives they don't want. What the OP needs to do is find an escort that indeed WANTS to provide that service, that enjoys it and is not being exploited. It may not cure his psychological issues but it might indeed give him some confidence, knowing he has done this before - or whatever he thinks it'll do for him. At least let him try it and make his own mistakes. i hope you dont think i am crying and wailing i am far from it.....i did my crying and wailing a long time ago i am passionate about guys not wanting to make that mistake of thinking a hooker is the answer as far as letting people make their own mistakes on this board we try and give insight to our own mistakes and how to avoid getting hurt that's the idea of love shack as an interpersonal relationship board, a kind caring community that supports people in making right moves and working out what those moves are and feeling supported in any decision when they dont know anyone to ask in rl or they dotn want to ask adn want to be anonymous...which us what i attempt to do ...i support the op in any way i can because i actually......care..i have no motive hidden or otherwise other than helping the op i use my story sure.....i have the right to do that...and a right to hold an opinion that differs due to personal experience to offer a different perspective...my advice i believe has been appreciated and listened to and he has been gracious in his comments to me....and he makes his own mind up not you not me not anyone else on this board at the end of the day..and im aure if the op wanted to sleep with an eighty year old granny hooker who loved it...i would offer a different advice on that as well...like please dont you will regret it...........cheers ....deb Edited June 21, 2014 by todreaminblue 1
Els Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Nope, nope, nope. For a woman getting laid is so freaking easy that getting a prostitute is basically throwing money away. Nah. Women go to prostitutes for different reasons. Some might be wanting to take advantage of certain experiences or expertise that would be difficult to find a regular FWB/ONS for. But at its core it is the same thing as men going to prostitutes - buying some pleasure without needing to put in any effort or investment. Neither gender visiting prostitutes is any more or less 'deserving' of stigma IMO. 3
Robert Z Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Did you hear about the prostitute who wanted to be a lawyer? She decided against it. She didn't want to screw people like that. 1
Medium.Lumo Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 OP, I'm glad you have decided against this. It's a horrible thing to do, to use someone's body like that. I might end up in the same situation as you. I've only been with 1 girl. Rejected by 2. But I wouldn't consider this course of action at all. I had the opportunity in college to have sex with drunk girls and I declined, despite being a 20 year old virgin. I gave them both a bottle of water and left. I really hope their livers are ok. Deb, your posts make me want to cry. I really hope you are going to be ok. Your posts on people's threads are always so considerate and kind, to me it yet reinforces why the OP shouldn't do this. These women are human beings. By supporting this system guys like the OP could be doing extensive damage. What if it was your mom, sister, cousin, friend? Don't do it OP.
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