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Hello,

 

I'm driving myself crazy looking at my recent ex gf facebook account. Should I tell her to change it or will it deplete my chances of ever getting her back?

 

Ps we dated for 5 years until a month ago. She is talking to guys and telling her girl friends completely different things than what she tells me. Yet she still contacts me basically everyday

 

Thx

Posted

No

 

It is not her duty to do that to protect herself from you.

 

Stop talking to her if she is being two faced about it

 

and stop acting like a stalker.

Posted
Hello,

 

I'm driving myself crazy looking at my recent ex gf facebook account. Should I tell her to change it or will it deplete my chances of ever getting her back?

 

Ps we dated for 5 years until a month ago. She is talking to guys and telling her girl friends completely different things than what she tells me. Yet she still contacts me basically everyday

 

Thx

 

A bit creepy.. and no, don't say anything, and stop intruding. Btw, she will be able to see what computer accessed the account.

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A bit creepy.. and no, don't say anything, and stop intruding. Btw, she will be able to see what computer accessed the account.

 

..the account from ..

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I was (still am) in the same boat as you. I was able to stop logging in and looking around 3 or 4 weeks into teh break-up.. only because i could see how much pain it was causing me... and giving me fuel for thoughts and pain that may have lasted many many more months...

 

The most critical thing of all is you HAVE to stop looking.

 

Do whatever you need to to make that happen - otherwise let me just tell you now - you have NO idea.. what sort of pain and suffering you will be subjecting yourself to if you keep looking.

 

GET IT DONE MAN.

 

good luck.

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Should I tell her to change it or will it deplete my chances of ever getting her back?

 

There's a third option. Use your own willpower and stop yourself from using her password.

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Thx for the input peeps.

 

I know its way creepy and stalkerish, not too proud of this..

 

So I should use will power to stop logging in?

 

I just know that if she knew my password, she would probably be doing.the same..

 

The easiest thing right now would be for me to tell her. However, I'm afraid that might get her extra upset and seal the deal between us. At the same time, I'm having trouble with the will power and I'm afraid of.continuing to hurt myself

 

Thx

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Don't tell her OP just stop stalking and snooping.

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See that is what you DON'T understand.

 

She would NOT be doing the same thing. You are out of sight and out of mind to you. She is ridiculing you to her friends - you think she would take time to look through your facebook?

 

You both sound unhealthy emotionally. Seek some therapy - stop looking through her crap - and move on and make a life for yourself.

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you could just enter it wrong a few times and they will send an email to the account in her profile and it will say something like "were sorry you had trouble logging in".. she will then change her password

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Log in, change her password to a random string of 25 characters. She won't be able to log in, and will have it reset to something you don't know. Job done.

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Log in, change her password to a random string of 25 characters. She won't be able to log in, and will have it reset to something you don't know. Job done.

 

This is a great idea

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i cant find it in me to reset the password :\

 

I am trying to not snoop and feel like a phyco...im really trying..

 

I am not sure which stage of the break up i am in. weather its denial, depression, anger or acceptance..i seem to be circling between all of them..

 

but I am truly trying not to log in to her fb..which is where i found out she is talking to someone else..

 

still im am having trouble finding the will power to stop

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You have to let go. This is such a gross violation of privacy.

 

 

I would never recommend violating another's privacy like this under normal circumstances. Even if you're married, I wouldn't do it. The only reason to do so would be if something just isn't right and you really think they're hiding things from you or lying to you. At that point, the trust is probably gone in the relationship anyways, so what's to lose?

 

 

You're feeding your addiction, OP. Be better than this. Let go. Stop logging in. Don't tell her a thing. You're exes now, you don't owe her a thing, nor she you.

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you HAVE to stop snooping - because it will hurt you beyond your compression - it will make yoru grieving WAY longer than it needs...

 

I decided to use WIll power being in the same boat as you - and am happy still knowing the pword - my reasoning you might feel is flawed - so i'm not gonna share it with everyone - but yeah - i think the BEST thing is to let her have her privacy - trust is key in all relationships... even if you wind up being penpals... and what you are doing may just create guilt in your mind.. and contribute to you feeling like ****.

 

WILL power is the way forward - and i think you will stop snooping when you start seeing some painful ****...

 

good luck!

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Block her from Facebook. It's hard to do, but if I can do it, so can you.

Posted
Hello,

 

I'm driving myself crazy looking at my recent ex gf facebook account. Should I tell her to change it or will it deplete my chances of ever getting her back?

 

Ps we dated for 5 years until a month ago. She is talking to guys and telling her girl friends completely different things than what she tells me. Yet she still contacts me basically everyday

 

Thx

 

Why are you still talking to her?

 

I read your other post and it's pretty obvious this girl has met someone else and that's why she wanted space and broke up with you.

 

I know it's hard, we all know it's hard, and in the words of chi, sometimes its easier to let them go than try and make them stay.

 

You need to open your eyes, she's stringing you along so she can see how it goes with this other guy and if it doesn't work out, she'll always have you to come back to, do you like being a puppy dog?

 

As much as we all try and think our ex's were different, they're not, they're human and this is human behaviour.

 

Could you even take her back knowing she's been with someone else and even worse if things get 'rocky' or she gets 'bored' again she'll do exactly the same again.

 

Please wake up and start having some self respect, you are the most important person in this world to you and you need to concentrate on yourself and make yourself a better person, not for her, not to try and get back with her but to make sure you learn from this experience and don't do it when you meet your next love (you will).

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I see nothing wrong with asking her to change the pw.

 

My ex asked me I changed my pw's for him and in return I asked him to block me so I wouldn't be so hurt looking at his stuff.

 

Its helped me recover a lot faster, **** embarrassment if you need it I see nothing wrong with asking.

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Posted

thanks guys.

 

I will value myself as you I should and let go...i will write back if i seem to have an issue doing so..::sigh::

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Sweet Jesus OP, I couldn't bare to see what is on his public wall let alone his private messages.

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