Under The Radar Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I'm ready to start dating again after being single for three years. My essay is finished, but I have no recent photographs of me to upload. I'll have to take new pictures moving forward. So ...... what is the general consensus on profile pictures? As in: How many, smiling or not, dressed up or casual, activities or a portrait, amongst friends or alone? Any advice or suggestions is kindly appreciated ...... Thanks .
DArtagnan2 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 (edited) If you are a male, then the females here will most likely have the best advice, but I have heard no photos without your shirt, so make sure to have clothes on. They hate selfies, yet also hate when you are in a group of people. They don't want to have to guess which one you are. I hear pictures with a dog are usually liked. They say they don't want to see you with your drinking buddies, although most girls photos I have seen on some of the OLD sites or Tinder are females with a drink in their hand or partying it up with their friends. If you are a female, then my preference is to not see those pictures of you partying with your friends or a drink in your hand. Selfies don't bother me, but not so much in a sexual seductive pose, I will think you are on the website for hooking up mostly. Pictures with your friends or in a group are Ok as long as you say which one in the picture you are. Pictures of you from vacations you have taken or just out in public. Edited June 19, 2014 by DArtagnan2 1
Anela Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Don't pose with anything like a car - I think that's a big no-no. One of the nicest pictures I've come across, is one of a father and son, sitting together, just talking. It's sweet. Other than that, when it comes to pictures, I only know of what Amy Webb did, but she was trying to find a man. She researched the most popular women on the dating site she was using (they actually listed that sort of thing), and gathered information on the things they had in their profile, that were alike. The women showed a little skin, and were usually socializing, or out-and-about. the pictures weren't posed, and they looked like they were having fun. 2
Glinda.Good Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Try to look like you have a personality. I'm not kidding, it can be projected in pictures. If you have a picture of you looking very happy, those are attractive. And doing something you love, as well. I'm with Anela, probably no picture of you with your car or your elk you just shot … though they might work with a specific audience. Please don't put a picture of your junk up there though, no matter how magnificent you consider it to be. 3
Elle1975 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I'm ready to start dating again after being single for three years. My essay is finished, but I have no recent photographs of me to upload. I'll have to take new pictures moving forward. So ...... what is the general consensus on profile pictures? As in: How many, smiling or not, dressed up or casual, activities or a portrait, amongst friends or alone? Any advice or suggestions is kindly appreciated ...... Thanks . No pictures with your shirt off, indeed. Just take pictures of your everyday self. If you go to a party, take some pics there too. Oh and no pics with another female, unless it's your sister :-) 2
Glinda.Good Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Oh and no pics with another female, unless it's your sister :-) Or your mom … or better yet, your grandma and a bunch of her friends. Ladies love that kind of thing! 1
mammasita Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Or your mom … or better yet, your grandma and a bunch of her friends. Ladies love that kind of thing! Oh man, that would make my heart melt.....a group pic of a man with his grandma and her friends with a corny line "playing cribbage with the ladies" LOL That's just me though. Just a picture would be fine 1
Author Under The Radar Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Thanks for the responses; I should have mentioned I'm a 40 year old male. My age range is 35 - 45 year old women. Since I'm a personal trainer should I have one photo of me doing something in the gym (shirt on, of course) or is that a no go? Should I be smiling in every picture? The dressier picture ...... should I be wearing a suit or more dress casual (dark jeans, button down collar shirt, and leather shoes)? The general consensus is only group photos with family not friends - correct? Certainly no female friends in any of my pictures ...... even if it's a group shot with men too? Clean shaven or some scruff - LOL? It would probably be easier if I had pictures to post here ...... I'd get a much better critique.
FitChick Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 (edited) I'm not a fan of group photos. I just want to see the man. Closeup, no hat or shades, and long shot showing the full body -- no baggy shirts or pants. Nicely fitted shirt or tee with jeans or even business casual. If it's summer and you are outdoors, shorts are acceptable. I don't mind shots of you with your car. I've dated men who were into expensive sports cars -- it was their hobby. Buy a Nikon Coolpix or any digital camera with a timer for about $100 and snap away. Then pick the photos you like. That's what I do. No holding the camera at arm's length, which distorts your image. Pics from a phone look terrible most of the time. If you want to attract someone equally fit, post pics of you doing things you'd like to do with her -- posing on your bicycle, skiing, walking in the woods, etc. Put your photos in your profile and we will be able to see them and vote. Edited June 19, 2014 by FitChick 1
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 -When I was on OLD, I generally liked selfies better than anything. -I hated "activity" shots of the guy doing some sort of activity he'd probably only participated in long enough to get the picture but I also really hated group photos. Who the hell wants to guess which one of the 5 guys in the photograph is the one whose profile you're looking at? -I also really hated seeing pics of the guy and a women or a group of women. I don't care who they are, why on earth are you trying to meet women by using pictures of you with OTHER women!? -Shirtless photos got skipped, swiped over or 'nexted' almost instantaneously. I didn't care how great his body was, pics like that scream "casual sex" or "narcissist". -No silly faces or awkward poses - I can't tell you how many times I skipped over pics of idiots at some bar doing the 'Captain Morgan' pose. Ugh, just...no. Also, pictures of you holding or playing with your little nieces and nephews never did it for me either. Why are you posting pics of someone else's kids on a dating site? I don't care what the context is, it's just strange. Basically, stick to 7-10 GOOD (clear) photos of your face and (clothed) body. Stay away from "abs" pics and group shots and you'll be fine. Also, skip the running, hiking, rock climbing, wakeboarding etc pics unless those are things you're actually involved in on a regular basis. 2
Snakechammah Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 It's all relative! It depends on the individual girl's interest of what she prefers. Some may like it like this or like that. As for me, I like a picture that shows the man well travelled. From a hike, camp, landmarks or anything that shows him going outdoors (hint, he's not a couch potato and has an adventurous streak). Also I like pictures where it shows the man's vulnerable side, like someone said, a pic with grandma (sooo cute! Please add a caption that says "uhm she's my grandma, not sugar mama!" to avoid confusion, lol), a pet, a child, tending to the garden, anything that shows he's caring. Also, the most important of course, is the profile pic. I like funny guys so if he's making a funny face (but not too distorted!) as the profile picture, I'd click on that page! All the best! 1
Keenly Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 As far as your facial hair, I've noticed a better response rate when posting A few varied pictures of length. One clean shaven, One stubble, one full on beard status. This could help you land a girl who might have otherwise passed you up, but saw how good you looked with / without a beard. $0.02 2
Author Under The Radar Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Thanks guys and gals for the advice . Now it's time to take some pictures ......
katinlc Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 (edited) I'm a 33 year old female and here is what I like / don't like to see... No shirtless pics (unless you are at the beach and it is more of an action shot or family) No bathroom pics (the bathroom selfie is just gross and sad) No gym pics (even though you are a trainer, it just screams meathead to me, but maybe that's just me) No party / drinking with your buddy pictures. If you have a pic with your sister or other family member, make sure and specify in the caption who that person is. I like various degrees of facial hair (it's amazing how I'll see a clean shaven guy and have no interest and then see another pic with some facial hair and think "wow, he's hot") A close up of your face both smiling and not smiling. At least one with no hat (I want to make sure you aren't bald, or if you are that you look good bald). I like some traveling / action shots, but most of those you can't see much about the person so I would limit those to 1 or 2 to showcase your interests. A dressier picture is always nice - it's always nice to know that a guy cleans up well. A pic with your dog will ALWAYS melt my heart! That's just my 2 cents if you are looking for a serious girl. Edited June 19, 2014 by katinlc 1
regine_phalange Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I vote for a natural picture, especially one showing you happy or in deep thoughts. 2
Emilia Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I'd say natural light is more flattering than artificial so try to take as many of the casual ones as possible outside. To emphasise the physical nature of your job, perhaps have some walking photos in the hills somewhere (even if you are literally 2 minutes away from your car that's parked out of shot). No party pics, everyone looks stupid in those. No pics with women or only family ones where it's obvious that they are family. No bathroom shots, they are just depressing. No mirror shots for that reason. No 'funny' ones to show that you have a sense of humour with some novelty kit. I know you wouldn't do that anyway but just in case. But yeah, I'd go for outdoors ones more with natural light and something smart for the ladies to show the you scrub up well. 3
Thegreatestthing Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Definitely agree with gym pictures making me think of meatheads I always skip any gym picture profiles.
Elle1975 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Definitely agree with gym pictures making me think of meatheads I always skip any gym picture profiles. Yesterday I saw a pic of a guy posing in his.. underwear.
katinlc Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Yesterday I saw a pic of a guy posing in his.. underwear. Ewww!!! What really grosses me out is the bathroom pictures where you can tell that they are in a public bathroom taking the picture. Who thinks that is a good idea?!?!
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